u/thesunflowergal

As I master the art of detachment... Time to accept that an unfinished ending is, in fact, an ending. ❤️‍🔥

I'm 34F, he's 48M

Last night was our first date. We discussed his hobbies etc.

At one point he asked if I can cook. I said not really. He didn't say anything negative but by the look in his face, he found it odd.

He mentioned having bought an Ipad recently. That was my window to make a sad face and mention that my computer has been heating up and is not working properly, he responded that I should find a trade-in program...

He asked what I was in school for and said that when I graduate, I will make good money..

He did pay for the bill, but it was an elevated restaurant, a restaurant I can pay for myself to go to.

He commented on my heels and said I didn't have to wear them, that I could have worn comfy shoes because of the rain. I took offense to that as before the first date, he had mentioned we can wear comfy clothes, and I said I wasn't going to be doing that.

At the end of the date, he didn't walk me to the train station or offer me an Uber, it was 8:30pm.

This is my very first date with a rich guy and I need your help! Thoughts??

What should I do to ensure I'm vetting him correctly for date #2 and don't get played? What should I ask or expect for the second date? What seeds should I plant?

Hey everyone,

I need divorce lawyers recs!! I just had a free consultation, and the retainer fee is $7,500, the billable hour is $650. Have you worked with someone more affordable who can get the job done?

Please and thank you. Dms welcome.

De mi parte, me pongo una ligera cantidad de Vicks en la nariz antes de dormir para que el olor refrescante de mentol me haga dormir relajada.

Anyone here 30yrs old or older, with a toddler, living in NYC, looking to make friends? I'm 34F, Latina, I work, study and enjoy reading, going on walks, watching World Cup games, and going to the park. If you're open to building new friendship, feel free to message me.

Hola! Tengo 34F y busco amigos/as en Brooklyn, NY. Valoro las amistades sinceras y con un growth mindset e inteligente. Tengo un toddler, soy educada y tengo buen sentido del humor. Podemos ir a ver el mundial, ir al parque y a tomar cafes.

I've been married for 10 years. I (34F) tried divorcing my husband (34M) three years ago after finding out he was unfaithful. Over time, I came to realize he has strong narcissistic traits, and he admits to it himself. The affair started after we bought our house, and I found out while I was pregnant. It completely destroyed me mentally and emotionally, and I’m still in therapy because of it. He is mentally and emotionally abusive, a master gaslighter and manipulator.

The first time I tried divorcing him, I kicked him out and he went to live with his girlfriend. He would come to the house every morning to drop off our son to daycare. Eventually he charmed his way back into the house, and my mother talked me out of going through with the divorce because I needed his support. I ended up wasting $5k in legal fees on a divorce that didn't happen.

It’s now 2026. My child is 3 years old, my mother is ill, and my husband is still in a relationship with the same woman. I can’t live like this anymore, and I finally feel mentally strong enough to go through with the divorce.

I asked him for a divorce again. I told him it was his turn to file, and after many conversations, he agreed to use his union attorney since it’s free for him and he “owed me” for the money I spent the first time. He went last Tuesday 5/19 and said I should be served within a few weeks, but there's no physical paperwork as evidence he actually went..

(He doesn't believe in divorce and is a very good liar, he's like a chameleon)

Also, he doesn’t want to be separated from our 3-year-old and doesn’t want to move out of the home we own together. He doesn’t have family here, so I told him he can stay in the house until the end of this year, but he needs to find a place by January 2027.

As for custody, we’ll have shared custody. He’s off work two weekdays and wants to see our son more often, which I don’t mind. But at the same time, I feel like the lines are getting blurred again and we’re not creating enough distance.

Any advice on how to handle this? Tips. Advice. Opinions, all is welcome.