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Saw a screenshot of a tweet where an american woman told another woman in the petrol station that her man should be ’pumping her gas’ for her; the woman told her that her man was an amputee.

I have never in my life encountered this gender role. I’ve travelled and lived in a few different countries and none of them have gendered the act of leaving the car to pick up a fuel pump and press the trigger and holding it until you’ve topped up your tank.

The comments were overwhelmingly 1) agreeing that it’s a man’s task 2) saying men that don’t do it are just lazy and don’t like their partners 3) of the belief that the act of putting fuel in the car is unfeminine 4) acting like it’s a difficult task.

Why is this gendered in the US ?

I was blessed and cursed with small feet, meaning that my docs and converse and trainers are dirt cheap (esp on vinted!!Got new docs for only £15), but most other footwear is off limits to me as most places begin at a EU 35 or 36.

I am just wondering if anyone has any recommendations for shops that sell some alternative footwear at smaller sizes, or kid ranges that sell alt footwear. Or if anyone here has alt kids, where are they shopping for shoes? People often recommend aliexpress but as someone with mobility issues in my feet and who just hates cheap footwear, I'd rather save up and by a good quality pair elsewhere.

And when I say alt, I'm honestly just interested in any sort of alternative style! Just trying to see what my options are <3 Thank you in advance!

I am neurodivergent (hate the term but don't want to be specific) and picked a ND therapist and coach because I just want to learn coping mechanisms and organisation skills because I currently have none and constantly feel overwhelmed and on the brink of a mental breakdown.

All we've done is talk about the past. I'm very self-aware, I know exactly what my issues are and why I have them. I don't want to keep talking about them, because we've been over it already and I've spent almost thirty years talking and thinking about it. Every time we go over them again I just go home and cry and breakdown and spiral for days because it's reminding me of how useless and pointless life has been.

I just want to move on. I just want someone to help with the organisational skills to just move on and finally start my life. I hate the thought of going and physically feel sick at the dread. It feels like weekly torture sessions at this point. I don't understand how any of this is supposed to be helpful? It just feels like a reminder of how terrible life has been so far. I already dwell on it all the time, I don't need weekly sessions as a reminder of how my life ended up so badly. I have no more to talk about. I just want someone to help me organise my life.

I just don't understand what I need to be seeking or asking for to move forward with my life, I just know this can't possibly be the thing everyone has been hyping up as a miracle. This is like my fifth time trying therapy. What is meant to be good about it ?I feel like I'm about to go crazy.

Bilateral, had several surgeries as a kid, lots of pain etc. Have recently been trying to manage pain more with physical therapy like yoga and stretching. Alongside the worlds most tight calves, I also have little flexibility in my feet. I cant move them in a circle and can barely raise them off the ground.

Now I'm not looking for exercises to improve this. I already know a lot. I'm asking if anyone with surgery has ever been able to improve this, or if I'm fighting a losing battle by even trying. Last physio I spoke to seemed to have no clue about clubfoot.