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So I don't really have an established anniversary date with my F/O . I'm curious about how people usually choose that date. Is it the day you started feeling attracted to them or became aware of it? When you decided to yumeship with them? It's when you had your first date with them? When both of you confessed feelings?

I know that I started feeling strongly attracted to my F/O on Jan 3rd, and on Feb 14th it was the first time I publicly called him my F/O and said that I loved him, it was on this subreddit, I would have done it earlier but all the subreddits I knew were against adult yumeshipping with minors.

I personally never fantasized a first date or a proper confession of feelings, I don't have a "coherent narrative" with my F/O about how we met and started dating and stuff. I just started fantasizing about him with single/isolated scenes, really simple, and gradually my fantasies evolved from us just being in love to us dating. My fantasies are more like short videos, relatively independent from each other, and less like a movies or a show with a continuity...

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Why do some people go to a proship yumeshipping subreddit to post a Discord server that doesn't allow: adult x minor, or incest, or non-con? And when you complain about they posting it on the wrong place, they say it's their personal boundaries...

I mean, there's LOTS of yumeshipping communities that don't allow those kind of ships, and you HAVE to go post it on THE ONLY safe space some selfshippers have to not feel judged? That's so rude.

It's like, imagine if vegans were hated or disliked on Reddit, for using an analogy. Except for one subreddit that accepts them. Do you go there and post a gastronomy server and say "but not vegans because it's my personal boundary"??

If someone made a LGBT server and said "but not bisexuals because it's my personal boundary"... Everyone could see that's discrimination. But if it's excluding some ships is suddenly an acceptable personal boundary?

Even if it was a reasonable boundary, go post your server in ANY other yumeshipping subreddit, not the only one who accepts the kind of ships you're not allowing.