u/tiredfml

started T in january, june was my last period. and it is now october. i dont get any period symptoms anymore not even PMS or cramping (i did in july but no bleeding). i’m still getting a hysto (have consult next month) because having a uterus is still dysphoric, even if it’s not producing blood.

i always have a constant fear of it coming back. kind of like preT when your period was late and you’re afraid of it starting when ur out somewhere doing something. for this reason i am on TOP of my T shots. based on your experiences, how likely is this to happen?

7 months on T. periods are gone but i want absolutely no possibility of ever dealing with them again. or being pregnant. i waited 3 months for my referral to be approved via lgbt center and it got approved yesterday through medi-cal. as soon as i got that update, i booked an appointment with the surgeon. just wondering how long after your consults did you guys gets scheduled for surgery?

tl;dr should i end things with my gf? she’s is too bubbly even with men who want her
and it’s hurting me

Relationship is fine usually. i 24 m love her 23F she loves me a lot. she takes care of me let me live with her rent free, did way more than i did. i have history of anger problems in the past especially during arguments. i have done things that i regret during conflict like hitting the wall, but i am working on it and have not done it since. so stayed with me through a lot.

the pending dealbreaker:

she’s very nice and bubbly. to everyone. especially when we go out and even to men that try to talk to her. i hated this at first but then i was like okay, this is who she is. well, this came back up the other night when we went out with a group of friends and met some new people. i saw one of the guys looking at her and her boobs (she’s hot and busty). ok fine. my gf also points out women that check me out so whatever.

this guy is hooking up her friend. later in in the night my gf was talking to him and was like “you look like the exact definition of a fuckboy, your style, everything, i bet u have so many stds.” some people looked at me after she said that kind of stupid to feel upset i over, but i felt upset because only women i messed with in the past said that to me before we hooked up. so it felt like she was maybe gently flirting especially to a guy who clearly has his eye on her. and then later we talked and she clarified she wasn’t. this was a whole thing.

i was looking and found a similar reddit post and where a girl said the same thing to her bfs friend and people were saying she probably wants him and wanted to cheat. i showed her this to show i wasn’t crazy for feeling upset (when we first talked about it she said it was crazy because she “loves me”) and she got upset.

ik i am too insecure and likely need help, but i’m wondering if i should break up because i feel like she is always making me look stupid and i’m tired of it. i get it she talks A LOT and says whatever is on her mind, but it feels like she is always making men feel better than me when she says things like this & is super nice to them. especially when they want her. something like this always happens with her.

she’s done so much for me, but things like this hit so deep, and im wondering if i should end things with her. it’s sad because idk if ending a 2 year relationship over something like this is worthy. everything else is good, sexual compatibility, physical attraction, want to marry, but then she says things like this to people. i’m so tired of it. i wish she just wouldn’t glaze people like this but she will feel like i’m controlling her, so maybe i should just end our great relationship over this