u/triviamoonlight

The whole point is to convert people and then once they convert then it’s like “alright yay onto the next victim we’re gonna manipulate and pretend to befriend but actually we’re two-faced and just want the numbers to grow.”

And don’t even get me started on how the basis of the religion makes no sense. How can Islam and Hinduism come from the same God? It really takes 2 seconds of critical thinking to know this is some made up bs.

Also they’ve got LSA and NSA leaders who are literally abusers at home. My father’s side of the family are like the ring leaders in our country’s Bahai community, meanwhile at home he’s beating his wife infront of his small children. How can men like this be admired and be the leaders of a religion claiming to treat men and women equally?

So glad I left this toxic cult.

I’m a female in my late 20s and my Nmom still feels entitled to my body - it makes me feel so assaulted and harassed. Growing up (and still to this day) she always pulled my pants down, lifted my skirt up, grab or pinch or slap my butt when I least expect it, all “as a joke”.

I didn’t like it even when I was a kid but in my early 20s I got sexually molested / groped by a male friend in a club and got diagnosed with PTSD by a psychologist and so now unwanted touching triggers me really bad. Ever since then, whenever she would try and pull my pants down or try other stuff like that, I get really angry and yell at her “NO. ITS NOT FUNNY. I DONT LIKE IT. “ and my mom would laugh and giggle and not respect my boundaries.

Her response is “Your body came from me. I birthed it. If I wanna touch it, I can touch it. Why can’t I do this to the body I produced?” This still happens ALL the time despite me saying no aggressively and being angry every single time. She recently also joked while trying to pull my pants down the other day “Hahaha it’s funny I only do this to you. I don’t do it to your other sisters I don’t know why” and giggled.

Even other simpler things like asking me for a hug or for a kiss or to give me a kiss I always say no and she would say “Wow I went through all the growing you inside my tummy and birthing you and raising you and I can’t even hug / kiss you?”

She also always barges into my bathroom or my room when I’m showering or changing to ask dumb questions that aren’t urgent — when I’m completely naked.

She also often makes very weird comments on my body as well. Yesterday she was staring at me from her room across the hall and then she said “You don’t know but I’m admiring your shape. You have a really good shape now. Your pilates is really working - I can see your butt has grown in size. It’s pretty. ”

Whenever I wear revealing clothes to go out and see friends she’s always commenting like “Ohh sexy. Ohh pretty”

I feel like none of this is normal?!
I feel so sick of it. This is just a rant - I am planning my escape from her in a couple months.

What are some of your triggers? I worked very hard with my therapist to understand my triggers but it wasn’t until I moved out and away from my abusive narcissistic mom — who has on many occasions (still does) make fun of my trich like it’s something funny or uses it as an insult — that I realized she was the main cause of my pulling

Only 3-4 months away from her and I literally broke records for not pulling my eyebrows (even once reaching 1 month pull free). My bushy beautiful eyebrows regrew again.

Unfortunately due to some circumstances I’m living with her again and I’ve lost most of my eyebrows again. I can’t wait til I move out in a couple of months.

Did any of you understand your triggers?

My 51 Nmom has forced me to fund her retirement for the rest of her life, when I literally just graduated uni and started having a job less than 5 years ago. I’m still in my mid-late 20s, live in a developing country where salaries are not high but cost of living is so expensive so I can barely even afford myself on one income.

She’s got no car, no savings, no pension, no investments, no house, and hasn’t actually really worked in almost 10 years. We’ve just been barely scraping by because she was expecting that once her kids finally graduate uni and get a job, she can lie down at home and not work for the rest of her life, and guilt trip and force her kids to retire her.

Why the hell are they so entitled and give literally 0 fuck about their kids’ financial situation? All she cares about is that she can relax and watch Facebook reels all day while I’m out at work. In return, she cooks me a meal or two a day if I’m home. How is that even fair? I don’t need a chef. I need to not be a retirement fund / personal ATM / bank account at this age. She is literally financially sabotaging my present financial circumstances and my future. I literally cannot do any of my goals because they all require money I don’t have. I’d save so much more of my income if she just got a job but she refuses to do that.

I just started to stop paying her phone bills because I couldn’t afford to anymore. The phone company almost cut her service and she called my other sibling (lives abroad) and asked for money (4 times the actual phone bills amount). FYI my sibling has sent my mom over two whole months of her entire salary over the past year, so this time she drew a boundary and asked exactly what she needs all that money for, and why my mom can’t just get a job? My mom got angry and started guilt tripping my sibling on the phone “How dare you speak to your mother like this. I sacrificed everything for you. I feel so small that I even have to have this conversation with you and beg you to transfer me the MINIMUM of what you should be giving me. It’s only $xxx amount. It’s none of your business what I do with this money. I can’t believe you’re not going to give me the money. I can’t believe my daughter is talking to me like this.”

Keep in mind my sibling is only 2 years into her career. We are all in our early to mid 20s.

It’s just fucking ridiculous. I’m so pissed off. I can’t even look at her face or talk to her. She’s literally leeching off of me and guilt trips and manipulates me that I have to be her retirement fund.

I have abandoned my 20s completely. I stopped shopping, I stopped going outside over the weekend, I stopped seeing friends, I stopped hobbies that cost money, I stopped buying makeup, clothes, shoes, I stopped everything. I have no life outside of work because it costs money, just for the hope to save even a little bit to invest or add to my dreams fund. But all that doesn’t even make much of a difference. I’m so sad and depressed.