AITAH for expecting my kitchen to be completely gluten free?
Me and my girlfriend are planning on moving in together in January, and we have agreed to have a completely gluten free kitchen because I am allergic to gluten. Even cross contact with gluten makes me very sick. She is not allergic to gluten, so she will have a small drawer set next to her desk that will hold all her gluten snacks, and thats where she will eat them, not using our dishes or kitchen for it in any way. No one will be allowed to bring gluten foods into our home. This is the agreement we made, and the rules we set together for our home.
A couple weeks ago my sister mentioned wanting to move in with us. I told her thats fine with me and we'd have to talk to GF first. I then told her that our kitchen is also going to be gluten free, and she freaked out. She kept going on about how I currently live in a gluten kitchen (ignoring the fact that I still get sick every day from it), and why can't I just keep doing what I'm doing now?? I told her that she could have as much gluten stuff as she wanted in her room, and we could even set up a little kitchenette for her in there if she really wanted, but the kitchen and mine and my gf's dishes will remain gluten free, and if she brought her own dishes, she would be expected to hand wash them instead of using the dishwasher.
She brought up that we'd all be paying the same rent, and that she should get to use the kitchen as much as we do, and I said she could as long as theres no gluten in what she's making. I can see how she thinks its unfair, but this is about my health and safety. I don't want to continue being sick every day from cross contamination. I'm not telling her she needs to give up gluten completely, just that she needs to keep it out of our kitchen.
At this point, I'm tempted to tell her that if she can't respect my health needs, then she can't move in with us, but I want to know if I'm being TAH or not, so AITAH?