u/urgent_response

She canceled our dates on her day off 3 weeks in a row with vague reasons, (1. Had sudden online seminar and license renewal. 2. Friends wedding. 3. Sister is not well) no real effort to inform me in advance. Just a 1 liner.
She was only meeting me before her work on weekends, I pick her up go to her workplace, sometimes get coffee or something in between. We makeout or have sex in my car sometimes, we only had like an hour or so and that’s pretty much it. No real talk during week days just 1-2 msgs in a day.
She was chasing me in the beginning but when things got settled our roles reversed, when I got the taste of sex I was chasing her, I was following up and making all the plans. Today I had enough of her lies and BS excuses and I just blocked her.

Pls tell me I’ll be okay 🥲

TL;DR: GF/date shifted from chasing me to giving zero effort, restricting our dates to 1-hour car hookups right before her work shifts. After she canceled 3 weeks in a row using vague, last-minute one-liners while I did all the planning, I realized I was being used for convenience, valued my self-respect, and blocked her. Need some reassurance.

Heading to Tokyo again in a few days — what should I explore this time?

Already did most of the “first trip” stuff on my last visit:
- Mt. Fuji
- Shibuya
- Akihabara
- Shinjuku
- TeamLabs
- Tokyo Tower

Looking for more unique / interesting things this time around. Not really a “go to parks and chill” type person unless it’s something super unique.

Into cool neighborhoods, hidden spots, arcades, food, weird Japan-only experiences, night views, anime/gaming stuff, themed places, etc.

Would love recommendations that feel memorable or different from the usual tourist checklist.

I’ve been dating this girl for about 3 months now. Things are generally good between us emotionally and physically.
One thing I’ve noticed though is that during makeout sessions and sex, she keeps her eyes closed almost the entire time. Sometimes I’ll open my eyes and notice she’s fully into it, but her eyes are still shut.
Now my brain is overthinking and wondering: is this normal because she’s just immersed in the moment… or could it mean she’s imagining someone else instead of me?
I know people experience intimacy differently, but I’m curious if others have experienced this or if I’m reading too much into it.

**TL;DR:** Girlfriend keeps her eyes closed during makeout and sex, and I’m wondering if it’s normal or if she could be imagining someone else.

I just discovered the girl I’ve been seeing is actually in a relationship. She led me to believe she was single the whole time. I assume she’s single based on how things were going.
I’m stuck between two choices:

1. Tell the boyfriend: I’d want to know if I were him, but I don't want the drama.
2. Ghost her: Block her and move on for my own peace of mind.
   Is it my responsibility to "expose" her, or should I just disappear? What would you do?
   TL;DR: Found out she's cheating with me. Do I tell her partner or just block her?

I’ve been dating a girl for two months and we have been intimate. I recently found photos of her with another guy on social media that appear to be very recent.
We haven't explicitly discussed being exclusive yet, so I’m looking for advice on how to bring this up. I’d like to know where I stand without coming across as controlling or accusatory. How do I effectively transition from "casual dating" to "the talk" when I now know there is someone else in the picture? Also, I don’t want to tell her how I found the pics.

I met this girl through her work and we started talking regularly. Over time things got more personal and physical—we were spending a lot of time together, hooking up, etc. It felt like there was something there beyond just casual, but communication has always been a bit inconsistent.

We mostly text on WhatsApp, rarely talk on the phone. Conversations are usually short, low effort from her side. I’ve been okay with it to an extent, but I do value some level of consistency.

Recently she came back from a vacation and had a long work stretch (several days in a row). During that time, she was still sending me selfies daily and we were interacting, so things felt okay overall.

We had plans to meet on her day off. I had basically kept my afternoon/evening free for her. Last minute, she asked to reschedule because she had to be somewhere else. No explanation, just a short “sorry love.”

I replied casually and didn’t make a big deal out of it, but internally it did bother me—not just the cancellation, but the lack of effort/consideration around it.

I’m not assuming disinterest. She still engages, we have good chemistry in person, and she didn’t disappear. But the pattern feels like:
\- inconsistent communication
\- low effort in texting

At the same time, she does make time for me, and when we’re together it’s good.

I’m trying to figure out:
\- Am I overthinking normal behavior here?
\- Is this just a difference in communication style/expectations?
\- Or is this early signs of mismatched effort that I should pay attention to?

Also, how would you handle this going forward without coming off as needy or overreacting?

Curious to hear honest takes.

TL;DR: I’m in a really good relationship and we’ve recently become intimate, and overall things have been great between us. I’ve realized I have a personal preference when it comes to grooming, but it’s a sensitive topic and I don’t want to make my girlfriend feel self-conscious, judged, or pressured in any way.

I respect that it’s her choice, but I also believe open communication matters in a healthy relationship. I’m unsure how to bring this up gently and respectfully without hurting her feelings. Looking for advice on how to approach this kind of conversation.

My plan was to meet my GF on Friday afternoon at her place to have sex (we didn’t talk about it, but it was understood). I began preparations — personal hygiene, practiced breathing techniques, did a bit of edging (not much, and honestly don’t think it helped my overall situation, but let’s continue the story).

I groomed myself and masturbated twice Thursday evening. Later she told me she can’t meet because of a work emergency… there goes my sex plan out of the window lol.

We then planned to meet Saturday evening after her work at our regular make-out spot… the back seat of my car. I bought condoms just to try (never had to use them before since I was a virgin), and masturbated once Friday evening.

BUT…

Saturday morning she says she can’t wait and wants to meet before work.

I had less than an hour to get ready and go pick her up. First thing I did? Masturbated and finished quickly. I wanted to go for round 2 so I could last longer if anything happened… but round 2 just wouldn’t happen. Tried for 15+ mins (yes, with porn lol), but couldn’t finish. Probably stress, idk.

I thought okay… maybe I’m sorted.

I pick her up, we stop at the parking lot near her workplace. We had more than an hour.

We start slow — hugging, kissing… I start fingering her. She’s moaning, she cums 1–2 times.

After a good 20–30 mins she goes:

FUCK ME BABEEE

(No oral this time… probably because of my previous “performance” 💀)

I put on a condom, she grabs my cock and puts it inside her…

…and the moment I start banging —

I was DONE.

Gone.

Finished.

I was lost in my head. Ashamed. Couldn’t look at her face. I was still hard for maybe 2 mins and kept going somehow, then my cock slowly went back into hiding.

I made sure she came again with my fingers (because clearly, that finger is doing more work than me).

She was actually happy and went to work.

\---

At night I kept replaying everything… what went wrong… masturbated again and slept.

\---

Next morning — we meet again.

Yes… I masturbated again before meeting her.

Same parking lot. Same setup.

Kissing, touching, cuddling…

And in the back of my mind I KNOW she’s gonna say it…

And she does:

FUCK ME BABBBEEE

Now I’m nervous, scared, excited… everything at once.

I put on a condom, go inside her, start stroking…

30 seconds pass…

…and I’M STILL GOING.

I’m like wait… what?

1 minute…

2 minutes…

I’M STILL GOING.

Now I’m talking to myself in my head like “how the hell am I still going??”

I keep going…

INNN… OUTTT… INNN… OUTTT…

5 mins… confidence starts building.

I start actually feeling the sex… looking at her face… she’s biting her lips, pulling me closer, moaning…

AND I’M STILL GOING.

At this point I’m like wtf is happening but I’m not stopping.

I start trying stuff — harder, deeper strokes… rubbing her clit while banging…

She’s going crazy.

10 mins pass…

I’M STILL GOING!!

Then I ask her to switch positions (wtf… imagine me saying this after what I’ve been through 😂)

We go from missionary to cowgirl — she’s facing me.

Her boobs on my face, I’m biting her nips, rubbing her clit while she’s grinding…

5–7 mins more…

GUESS WHAT FELLAS…

I’M STILL GOING!!

We switch back to missionary, I keep going…

After a while she says:

“BABE I’M DONE… IT’S ENOUGH FOR ME… YOU CAN CUM NOW…”

And in my head I’m like…

…I DON’T KNOW HOW TO CUM??

Like the signal between my brain and my cock just disconnected.

I’m still hard… but nothing is happening.

I tell her she’s gonna have to blow me.

I take off the condom…

She starts stroking and sucking…

AND GUESS WHAT…

I’M STILL GOING!!

Her work is starting in 10–15 mins, I tell her to stop… but she keeps trying (probably felt bad she couldn’t make me finish)…

Deepthroating and all…

AND FOR SOME REASON…

I’M STILL GOING!!

\---

Now my question to you all experts out there…

What the hell just happened??

Was it because I masturbated so many times in the previous days? Like I had no “ammo” left?

Or what??

Because one day I’m finishing instantly…

Next day I turn into a machine that doesn’t finish at all??

Not gonna lie — I LOVED lasting that long. I could actually focus on her and I know I gave her a great time.

Would love to do that again…

…but also want to understand what’s going on here 😂

My plan was to meet my GF on Friday afternoon at her place to have sex (we didn’t talk about it, but it was understood). I began preparations — personal hygiene, practiced breathing techniques, did a bit of edging (not much, and honestly don’t think it helped my overall situation, but let’s continue the story).

I groomed myself and masturbated twice Thursday evening. Later she told me she can’t meet because of a work emergency… there goes my sex plan out of the window lol.

We then planned to meet Saturday evening after her work at our regular make-out spot… the back seat of my car. I bought condoms just to try (never had to use them before since I was a virgin), and masturbated once Friday evening.

BUT…

Saturday morning she says she can’t wait and wants to meet before work.

I had less than an hour to get ready and go pick her up. First thing I did? Masturbated and finished quickly. I wanted to go for round 2 so I could last longer if anything happened… but round 2 just wouldn’t happen. Tried for 15+ mins (yes, with porn lol), but couldn’t finish. Probably stress, idk.

I thought okay… maybe I’m sorted.

I pick her up, we stop at the parking lot near her workplace. We had more than an hour.

We start slow — hugging, kissing… I start fingering her. She’s moaning, she cums 1–2 times.

After a good 20–30 mins she goes:

FUCK ME BABEEE

(No oral this time… probably because of my previous “performance” 💀)

I put on a condom, she grabs my cock and puts it inside her…

…and the moment I start banging —

I was DONE.

Gone.

Finished.

I was lost in my head. Ashamed. Couldn’t look at her face. I was still hard for maybe 2 mins and kept going somehow, then my cock slowly went back into hiding.

I made sure she came again with my fingers (because clearly, that finger is doing more work than me).

She was actually happy and went to work.

\\---

At night I kept replaying everything… what went wrong… masturbated again and slept.

\\---

Next morning — we meet again.

Yes… I masturbated again before meeting her.

Same parking lot. Same setup.

Kissing, touching, cuddling…

And in the back of my mind I KNOW she’s gonna say it…

And she does:

FUCK ME BABBBEEE

Now I’m nervous, scared, excited… everything at once.

I put on a condom, go inside her, start stroking…

30 seconds pass…

…and I’M STILL GOING.

I’m like wait… what?

1 minute…

2 minutes…

I’M STILL GOING.

Now I’m talking to myself in my head like “how the hell am I still going??”

I keep going…

INNN… OUTTT… INNN… OUTTT…

5 mins… confidence starts building.

I start actually feeling the sex… looking at her face… she’s biting her lips, pulling me closer, moaning…

AND I’M STILL GOING.

At this point I’m like wtf is happening but I’m not stopping.

I start trying stuff — harder, deeper strokes… rubbing her clit while banging…

She’s going crazy.

10 mins pass…

I’M STILL GOING!!

Then I ask her to switch positions (wtf… imagine me saying this after what I’ve been through 😂)

We go from missionary to cowgirl — she’s facing me.

Her boobs on my face, I’m biting her nips, rubbing her clit while she’s grinding…

5–7 mins more…

GUESS WHAT FELLAS…

I’M STILL GOING!!

We switch back to missionary, I keep going…

After a while she says:

“BABE I’M DONE… IT’S ENOUGH FOR ME… YOU CAN CUM NOW…”

And in my head I’m like…

…I DON’T KNOW HOW TO CUM??

Like the signal between my brain and my cock just disconnected.

I’m still hard… but nothing is happening.

I tell her she’s gonna have to blow me.

I take off the condom…

She starts stroking and sucking…

AND GUESS WHAT…

I’M STILL GOING!!

Her work is starting in 10–15 mins, I tell her to stop… but she keeps trying (probably felt bad she couldn’t make me finish)…

Deepthroating and all…

AND FOR SOME REASON…

I’M STILL GOING!!

\\---

Now my question to you all experts out there…

What the hell just happened??

Was it because I masturbated so many times in the previous days? Like I had no “ammo” left?

Or what??

Because one day I’m finishing instantly…

Next day I turn into a machine that doesn’t finish at all??

Not gonna lie — I LOVED lasting that long. I could actually focus on her and I know I gave her a great time.

Would love to do that again…

…but also want to understand what’s going on here 😂