u/urmoms_favbitch_444

okay so i babysit these 3 girls, their mom is my moms coworker and we'r all super close. so the girls dad has cheated before twice, they ended up working through it and getting married again. i was at their house babysitting and i dont think he knew i was there. i heard him on his work phone talking to this girl complaining about how she never calls him anymore and that he'll miss her when he leaves and was talking about how he'll be working down the street so they could still see each other sometimes. it wasnt overly flirty but it kinda was? idk. it didnt sound like an affair but it sounded like the begining stages of one maybe. should i tell his wife? should i talk to him?

okay so i'm nowhere near conservative or republican at all, with that being said yes i dont agree with yall but i can respect u if u respect me. i should add that my mom and oldest brother are VERY conservative/right/MAGA but they're like the wayyyy far right that literally nobody wants to be around but my other brother is complete opposite to where i dont feel comfortable talking with him either, when i talk/ask them anything it turns into attacking me and saying insane shit. anyways i have questions so yeah

1. pro life vs pro choice: so i support abortion fully and think it should 100% be available to anyone who wants/needs it. i can understand why some people are against it and thats fine like to each their own. what i dont understand is how anyone who is pro life thinks its fair that because they personally dont agree with abortion that means nobody should be able to get one, in my personal experience i've never ever met a pro choice person think that because they support it then everyone should get one yk? like if u dont support it thats fine but it is horrible that some peoples beliefs can control a choice for all women. i have a personal reason i feel so strongly however i dont want to post it but if u wanna know js ask ig??

2. homophobia: let me start off with i know this isn't everyone who doesn't agree with it and im in no way grouping everyone together. so im bi but i grew up VERY conservative and in church all the time. if you don't support the LGBTQ+ community thats ur choice but (once again but everyone) why do ppl make such a big deal about it?? like it doesn't affect ur life, if ur straight cool idc so why does it matter so much that some people like the same gender or identify differently than you? i will add that i know some members of the community take it way to far and i don't agree with them so don't think of them, think of someone like me, im bi and i do tell everyone i meet so i know how they feel about that and i have been attacked for it so many times, gotten death threats, been told to kms, and idk why but the church i grew up in is 99% just hating on gay people... if it doesn't affect you then why do you care so much?

3. feminism. btw i mean REAL feminism not the bs modern day misandry thats trending.

so im also a feminist (shocker ik) and my brother thinks im stupid for it and has the mindset that "if women want to be treated equally then hitting them should be okay" like wtf... all of his and my moms friends have the same mindset so im just curious what other ppls opinion is since i know most people aren't as far as them. i mean equal pay, rights to our own bodies, equality and inclusion feminism not the all men are trash, kill all men, toxic cheating type of "feminism" u see on tiktok. also i have had multiple ppl call me a fake feminist for defending men and speaking out against/bringing awareness to mens abuse, DV, and SA but once again that was friends of my brothers so.

so yeah thats all :)

let me start off with this is 100% my issue not my bfs, he's great.

basically i've been in 5 other "serious" relationships, in all of them i got cheated on. and my dad cheated on my mom multiple times. so obviously that affects me.

my bf now is so so amazing. hes the kindest, funniest, most supportive man ive ever met. with that being said he has a job and im trying to get one. he has busy day ofc but they're way more often now to the point that i wont talk to him until nighttime a few days a week. he would never cheat and i trust him but the stuff with exes is really hurting me rn. im constantly scared he will leave me or find someone closer or prettier and pick her instead of me. everytime i talk to him about it he is very understanding and reassuring about it but i feel it all the time now and dont wanna keep bringing it up or make him think i dont trust him. he gets off of work at 5 and it's almost 8 for him right now and hasnt responded which isn't helping. i know he's either with work friends or family but i just cant stop feeling this way.

i dont wanna ruin anything with us with my overhinking but im scared im going to. i hate that i feel like he needs to constantly talk to me or else my mind tells me hes cheating. i know its unrealistic and he has his own life.

let me start off with this is 100% my issue not my bfs, he's great.

basically i've been in 5 other "serious" relationships, in all of them i got cheated on. and my dad cheated on my mom multiple times. so obviously that affects me.

my bf now is so so amazing. hes the kindest, funniest, most supportive man ive ever met. with that being said he has a job and im trying to get one. he has busy day ofc but they're way more often now to the point that i wont talk to him until nighttime a few days a week. he would never cheat and i trust him but the stuff with exes is really hurting me rn. im constantly scared he will leave me or find someone closer or prettier and pick her instead of me. everytime i talk to him about it he is very understanding and reassuring about it but i feel it all the time now and dont wanna keep bringing it up or make him think i dont trust him. he gets off of work at 5 and it's almost 8 for him right now and hasnt responded which isn't helping. i know he's either with work friends or family but i just cant stop feeling this way.

i dont wanna ruin anything with us with my overhinking but im scared im going to. i hate that i feel like he needs to constantly talk to me or else my mind tells me hes cheating. i know its unrealistic and he has his own life.

finally at a healthy weight but i feel disgusting and HATE how my body looks

and its in the same exact spots on both legs

okay so i've been really struggling with my body image lately, more than ever.

growing up i was a gymnast (from when i was 4-16) and i was a super skinny kid but i also had a lot of muscle so i didn't look sick or anything. at my first gym we would get weighed but idek why, they didnt say anything about it or our bodies ever. my mother has been overweight my whole life and i know it really makes her feel bad which i hate. when i was little she would frequently go on diets and made me do then with her and we did so many. she always said i had to do it because she didnt want to do it alone and when i was little i obv didnt see an issue with it but i now know it hurt me. when i was 9 i changed gyms to go to a better one and during this time my mom started nursing school so her diets stopped. this gym would weigh us and get mad at us everytime we gained weight even though we we're growing kids. the head coach made lists of what we could eat from where and how much, he also made a "game" to see who could get the lowest weight (ill come back to this). when i was 11 i was so jealous of how one of the older girls looked to one day i asked her what she did and she took me into the bathroom and ended up showing me how to make myself throw up. i did that until i was 15. now back to the "game", i wanted to win and i didnt care how so i ended up being 94 lbs at 5'5, i ended up getting hurt and could no longer to gymnastics. i didn't even know i had an ED because i had never really known anything about them. the summer of me being 16 i was at a "healthy" weight, i was like 145 lbs at 5'8 or 5'9. i ended up going back into an ED and by the next summer i was 102 lbs, i know it was bad but i cant help but miss it. i was so happy with how i looked, even looking at pictures i know i was sick but i still miss it. in the past couple months i have been gaining weight and i hate it. being at a healthy weight makes me feel fat and i hate how my body looks.

during the ED my period got messed up and now they're HORRIBLE. my cramps are so bad, its super heavy, and its so long and never at the same time. like my last period started a week after the previous one ended. i keep getting ovarian cysts. and idfk why but im getting spider veins on my legs, im only 18 so idk why i have them but they're the same on both legs and they make me feel so ugly.

i need help on how to deal with my body and the spider veins, i hate them so fucking much

i was exposed to porn at a young age by a coach who told me "i better look like that when im older or no boys will like me". i was like 8 when he did this. when i got older i would watch porn but not even to get off or anything, it was literally just me comparing myself to the girls on there, i stopped that but the damage is done.

fast forward to when i was 16 i meet my ex and we dated till i was 17. he had/has a major porn addiction and also compared me to them bc i look nothing like the girls they show like at all (outie, obv not all light/pink because i know thats not natural but i still hate it, and im way on the flat side). he would constantly beg for nudes and at first i always said no bc a different ex leaked my nudes and her and all her friends posted them and i got a fuck ton of messages criticizing me and my body, not even all sexually but also because i was an ED and was very underweight at the time. i ended up sending them to my bf at the time and he was always like asking why things looked the way they do and bodyshaming me telling me "eat more so my ass and tits can be bigger for him" and saying how an outie looks used up and gross and bc its darker than the rest of my skin it looks ugly. thank fuck we broke up.

my bf now is nothing like that, hes so kind and amazing and js the best man i've ever met. the thing is we're long distance and he respects that i dont want to send nudes so he doesnt ask. so basically he'd see me naked for the first time when we're together irl. i know he doesnt care what my body looks like and he has made it very clear that he thinks im beautiful and that he loves everything abt me but i still have this fear that he'll think i look gross. how do i get over it? is there anything i can do to look better? i just need help because my body image is so draining.