My parents picked up a fair amount of art when they lived in Europe during the 70s. I always liked this painting a lot. Probably just a local contemporary artist doing oils of rural scenes but thought I’d run it by you all. Thank you!
I’m Gen X and my kid has gone low contact with me. I have visited estranged parent subs and groups and frankly been grossed out by their lack of accountability. I’m reading a lot of subs for kids who who went no contact with their parents and would love to ask them questions but feel it’s wholly inappropriate to post in what I hope is a safe space for them to share in. I’m posting here because this is my age group and realize some of you may be those estranged kids from your boomer parents or maybe there are some younger people lurking here that would be willing to answer.
I’m working my way through accepting responsibility for my actions, going to therapy, and have made my sincere apologies. I’m respecting boundaries. I know it’s their decision and am not pushing. My question is: how do I show my commitment to fixing the relationship if they are open to it without crossing any boundaries? I’m afraid that being silent sends the message I don’t care - and I’m afraid that if I reach out it’ll be seen as a breech or their request for space. I’ve seen these half ass letters parents send that really make it seem like it’s all about what they need - asking how to reconnect. I’m just so lost and frozen and afraid that being lost and frozen will somehow make it even worse. Even posting this feels like I’m looking for support but honestly I’m mostly looking for feedback.
Kids who went no contact - what was an act you appreciated from your parent? What did it take for you to trust their motivations? Was their silence appreciated or just a confirmation that they don’t care?
Edited to add: because I’m sure advice varies - I was manipulative and belittling, let my own trauma affect them, terrible listener bad at accepting responsibility. No physical or SA, no addiction issues, no neglect. I guess I wasn’t specific because damage is damage
I’m loving the new paintings and flower props! I like the posters ok but really wanted more framed art for my nest - I’m so happy!
I’m still collecting winged lights from my trip to Eden and after the update they shuffled around what I’d collected and what I hadn’t. I got this winged light before the update but not the one at the top of the area near the boats to Hermit Valley. After the update it showed that I had collected the boat one but not this one. It’s been a funny surprise in each realm as it reset and shuffled them all - I’m struggling to refind the missing ones and laughing at the random ones it said I collected but didn’t.
Oh TGC, your bugs are always so weird. And hey give me back my nest! I don’t wanna have to redecorate!
Hoping to get a rough idea of age (so we can guess which family member likely wore it originally). Hope the pictures are ok - I tried to show the clasps. No markings at all and don’t assume they’re valuable. Just looking for rough dates if possible. Thank you!
I swear you used to just fly anywhere near it and it would suck you up. Now:
Game: go to the light my child
Me: you mean here?
Game: no, no just over there
Me: here? Wait, I swear I was near it
Game: girl, use your eyes
Me: I am - I just flew through it!
Game: nope. Missed it by a mile
Me: is it moving?!
Game: just walk into it then
Me: am I falling through the floor?!
Game: that’s an illusion caused by the perceived upward motion of the stream dumbass
Me: omg just rapture me already!
Game: wtf - literally everyone else can do this
My previous post was removed for asking about spiritual things so I’ll just repost the last part of my question.
Is it ok to just walk into a church and ask a priest questions about the faith if you are not religious? Are there special hours for that? As a priest do you find that disrespectful?
My father’s family is devoutly Catholic. My father left the church at a very young age and eventually became a Buddhist. My father died recently and in addition to my own grief I’ve been trying to help my uncle deal with his grief too. My father refused last rites and my uncle is absolutely destroyed thinking he’ll never see his brother again (won’t be reunited in heaven).
I’ve been avoiding talking to my uncle too much about it because I’m terrified he’ll ask for permission to perform something on my dads ashes that will mean he can go to heaven after all (not even sure that’s a thing). I just want to honor my dads wishes even though I think it was kind of a jerk move to not just allow last rites (I’m agnostic but know enough about Buddhism to know it’s about compassion and really the compassionate thing would have been to allow it so his brother could have peace).
My questions:
Is there something that allow for last rites to be granted after a person has died?
Is there something I can tell my uncle from his religion that would help him feel better about my dad’s choice? I’m sure hes been seeking support and guidance from his own priest but I’d really like to be able to say something to him since he won’t stop calling and I feel so badly for him.
Is this the kind of thing I could ask a priest at our local church about? I don’t know the protocol for just walking into a church and pestering someone with questions.
Thank you for any help you can provide.
I’ve been mostly avoiding the big plants because of the many many posts I’ve seen of people getting annoyed with players who don’t do them right at the same time they get annoyed that nobody helps. I’ve learned how to do wasteland from nice players (still suck at it - have patience people!), so I feel better helping now.
Not a clue how to do this one in sanctuary. Every time I try to help it just regrows faster than we can do it. Is it even doable with just two? Is there one part you should start on? Looking for some expert tips so I can stop feeling useless and start helping. Thank you!