u/virendra_09

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I met a girl on Reddit a while ago. She had recently gone through a breakup, and we started talking. At first, I wasn't expecting anything—I was just being there for her. But somewhere along the way, I started developing feelings.

For some context, I was in a relationship years ago, and after that ended I stayed single for almost 3 years. During that time I've talked to hundreds of people online, but I never felt a connection like I did with her. She just felt... different.

Eventually, I told her how I felt. She rejected me, mainly because she's older than me and doesn't see me that way. She said she'd like to stay best friends.

The problem is that it's really hard for me to see her as "just a friend" because my feelings are genuine. What made me fall for her wasn't just her personality—it was how loyal she was. Seeing how committed she was in her previous relationship made me admire her even more. It made me feel that if she ever chose me, she'd be just as loyal, and honestly I wanted to treat her with all the love, respect, care, and consistency she deserves.

I know she doesn't owe me a relationship, and I completely respect her decision. I'm not trying to change her mind or convince her to choose me. I just can't switch my feelings off overnight.

I also don't want to lose her completely. If staying friends is the only place she sees for me in her life, I'm willing to try because she genuinely means a lot to me. If we ever have misunderstandings, I'd rather apologize and work things out than lose the connection completely. At the same time, I know a friendship should be healthy for both people, and I don't want to ignore my own feelings either.

Lately, though, I've noticed she's not talking to me the way she used to. Maybe she's creating some distance, or maybe I'm just overthinking it. Either way, I can feel myself slowly trying to let go of my feelings because I know I can't force someone to love me.

Deep down, I think I already know the answer: accept the friendship if I genuinely can, without expecting her feelings to change. If I can't do that, then maybe I need to step back and move on.

So I wanted to ask people who have been through something similar:

Should I accept the friendship and move on, or should I keep hoping that maybe one day things change? Have any of you ever stayed friends with someone you loved, and did it actually work out?

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I met a girl on Reddit a while ago. She had recently gone through a breakup, and we started talking. At first, I wasn't expecting anything I was just being there for her. But somewhere along the way, I started developing feelings.

For some context, I was in a relationship years ago, and after that ended I stayed single for almost 3 years. During that time I've talked to hundreds of people online, but I never felt a connection like I did with her. She just felt... different.

Eventually, I told her how I felt. She rejected me, mainly because she's older than me and doesn't see me that way. She said she'd like to stay best friends.

The problem is that it's really hard for me to see her as "just a friend" because my feelings are genuine. What made me fall for her wasn't just her personality it was how loyal she was. Seeing how committed she was in her previous relationship made me admire her even more. It made me feel that if she ever chose me, she'd be just as loyal, and honestly I wanted to treat her with all the love, respect, care, and consistency she deserves.

I know she doesn't owe me a relationship, and I completely respect her decision. I'm not trying to change her mind or convince her to choose me. I just can't switch my feelings off overnight.

I also don't want to lose her completely. If staying friends is the only place she sees for me in her life, I'm willing to try because she genuinely means a lot to me. If we ever have misunderstandings, I'd rather apologize and work things out than lose the connection completely. At the same time, I know a friendship should be healthy for both people, and I don't want to ignore my own feelings either.

Lately, though, I've noticed she's not talking to me the way she used to. Maybe she's creating some distance, or maybe I'm just overthinking it. Either way, I can feel myself slowly trying to let go of my feelings because I know I can't force someone to love me.

Deep down, I think I already know the answer: accept the friendship if I genuinely can, without expecting her feelings to change. If I can't do that, then maybe I need to step back and move on.

So I wanted to ask people who have been through something similar:

Should I accept the friendship and move on, or should I keep hoping that maybe one day things change? Have any of you ever stayed friends with someone you loved, and did it actually work out?

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If you had to choose one tech stack today for the next 5–6 years, which would you pick and why?

- Java + AI (Spring Boot, Microservices, LLMs, RAG, AI integrations)

- .NET + AI (ASP.NET Core, C#, Microservices, LLMs, RAG, AI integrations)

My priorities are:

- Long-term job stability

- Strong demand in the industry

- Competitive salary

- Plenty of job opportunities worldwide

- Good career growth

I'm a final-year engineering student, so I'd love to hear from developers, tech leads, recruiters, or hiring managers. If you had to start your career today, which path would you choose and why?

Thanks!

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I'm a 2026 engineering graduate trying to break into software development. Like many freshers, I'm confused about which path to focus on.

My options are:

- MERN Stack (MongoDB, Express, React, Node.js)

- Java (Spring Boot, Microservices)

- .NET (ASP.NET Core, C#)

My goal is simple: get my first developer job as a fresher, not necessarily the highest-paying one.

I've noticed that:

- Java seems to have a lot of enterprise jobs, but many ask for experience.

- MERN has plenty of startups, but there seems to be huge competition.

- .NET appears to have fewer openings, but maybe less competition?

For those who were hired recently or are involved in hiring:

- Which stack currently has the best opportunities for freshers?

- Which one has the least experience barrier?

- If you were starting from scratch in 2026, which would you choose and why?

I'd really appreciate honest advice from people who've actually been through the hiring process. Thanks!

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I'm a 2026 engineering graduate trying to break into software development. Like many freshers, I'm confused about which path to focus on.

My options are:

- MERN Stack (MongoDB, Express, React, Node.js)

- Java (Spring Boot, Microservices)

- .NET (ASP.NET Core, C#)

My goal is simple: get my first developer job as a fresher, not necessarily the highest-paying one.

I've noticed that:

- Java seems to have a lot of enterprise jobs, but many ask for experience.

- MERN has plenty of startups, but there seems to be huge competition.

- .NET appears to have fewer openings, but maybe less competition?

For those who were hired recently or are involved in hiring:

- Which stack currently has the best opportunities for freshers?

- Which one has the least experience barrier?

- If you were starting from scratch in 2026, which would you choose and why?

I'd really appreciate honest advice from people who've actually been through the hiring process. Thanks!

I genuinely want to understand what I'm doing wrong.

I'm a fresher with projects, a decent resume, and the required skills for many Software Developer/Backend roles. Every day I apply to 100+ job postings across LinkedIn, Naukri, Indeed, company career pages, Wellfound, and other job portals.

Most of the jobs I apply for match my tech stack and qualifications, yet I either get an automated rejection or no response at all.

It feels like the hiring process has become more about luck than skills.

For those who recently landed a fresher job:

How many applications did it take?

What actually worked for you?

Did referrals make the biggest difference?

Are job portals even worth using anymore?

Is there something recruiters expect that freshers don't realize?

I'm not looking to complain—I genuinely want to improve my approach because applying to hundreds of jobs every week and getting rejected is mentally exhausting.

I'd appreciate any honest advice or experiences.

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