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ACOTAR would have been a much more compelling series if Rhys was left as a “bad guy” or at least morally gray.

I feel like SJM’s softening of Rhys in ACOMAF was a mistake. The argument of “he’s not a bad guy! That’s all pretend and he’s actually good!” Doesn’t really hold up. There’s still obvious moral issues going on in the night court. How is he so crazy powerful, not to mention his IC, but can’t stop the mutilation of young girls? He can’t make a society accepting of queer love? I just find it kind of falls flat and he ends up looking like just any other man not caring about the vulnerable while loudly saying he does.

It would have been more interesting to see Feyre learn to love him, flaws and all. And/Or see him slowly transform and learn to “do better”. I’d almost rather see her seep into darkness.

We don’t even have to get into the character assassination of Tamlin to try to bolster Rhys.

I would like to bring a gift to a family member that has just had a baby. I really would like to get a gift for her, not for the baby as that’s usually what everyone gets! It’s her first baby and she had an emergency c section. One month postpartum. We aren’t super close so maybe nothing too “intimate”?

If you’ve had a baby what is a gift you would have appreciated? If you’ve given a gift to a mom and it was a hit, what was it?

I would like to bring a gift to a family member that has just had a baby. I really would like to get a gift for her, not for the baby as that’s usually what everyone gets! It’s her first baby and she had an emergency c section. One month postpartum. We aren’t super close so maybe nothing too “intimate”?

If you’ve had a baby what is a gift you would have appreciated? If you’ve given a gift to a mom and it was a hit, what was it?

Has anyone decided to skip over trying IUI in favor of IVF. My partner and I have tried one time with frozen sperm at home and we would like to try one more time at home. After looking at finances and success rates we are really heavily considering IVF as the next step. We are lucky to live near a clinic that provides IVF at a relatively low cost.

Any experiences??

Does anyone else deal with issues with sex due to their OCD? I feel so stuck right now.

I already have a relatively low sex drive (and the meds just make it worse) and some issues with trauma around sex. Then on top of that I feel like I can’t engage in any type of sexual contact or even suggestive flirting without going down a whole spiral of what’s if and worrying about every little aspect of it. Worrying about things that are not rooted in reality. It never just feels like flirting or kissing. So I just end up avoiding it all together. Thankfully my spouse is so supportive and caring.

My therapist wants me to try to work through the initial discomfort and try to engage even if I’m not totally ~in the mood~ but I’m also so scared of then triggering my trauma??

Not really sure if anyone has advice or personal experience? Or just some supportive words?

Me(30ftm) and my spouse (26NB) (carrier) are about to try for our first cycle! We have picked out the sperm donor just waiting for their period to come so we can order it to be delivered! I feel like we (well really my spouse) have done a lot to prepare. Taking prenatals and very closely monitoring their cycle. We plan on using preseed, they will take musinex and they are going to try to have an orgasm because it’s supposed to help.

Any success stories on using frozen sperm at home??? We want to try at least a couple cycles at home before switching to IUI.

Before anyone panics- the intended use is not for the child to have the phone all the time. I would like to gift my old iPhone 13 to my niece who is 4 just so she can call/FaceTime me since I have moved across the country and her parents will have control over her access to the phone.

I would like to be able to set up the phone with as little a possible on it. I don’t want her to be able to accidentally open the internet or download anything. I basically just want it set up to be able to call/message/FaceTime my number and maybe a few others if her parents want to add those in. Any tips?

If you are using or are planning to use a known donor what’s that process like? Do we need to have paperwork done for parental rights? How do you actually do the transfer lol. How long does it last from ejaculation to insertion?
We are planning on using a sperm bank but there’s a small chance we could have a known donor for a live donation

Im not sure if I’m using the right word but I just purchased a PC that me and my spouse will both be using. I will mainly be using it to play games but my spouse is using it for their new work from home job. Their job does require a level of privacy and while I have no intention of going through their stuff, I would prefer if it was set up so I couldn’t accidentally open something.

I’m thinking about how when I was in college everyone had their own account they could log into and all the files and stuff would be just for them. For example I would like for my spouse to log in for work and my games not show up and for their work programs to not be there when I’m logged in. Is this possible for a home computer?

I did add a second user account but it doesn’t give me the option to log in to that one when I turn the computer on.

Can anyone tell me if these specs are good for a $350 used PC. It will mainly be used for basic programs for work and to play games such as The Sims 4 and Stardew Valley. It doesn’t need to be top performing but I would like the games to run well. Thanks!

Item description provided:

Plug and Play ready! Windows 11 activated, with drivers up to date. Great for 1080p gaming in titles like Fortnite, Minecraft, and Roblox.

Like new condition, and includes Power cord.

Full Specs:

> CPU: Ryzen 5 2600

> Cooler: Stock AMD Wraith Stealth

> Mobo: MSI A320m Pro-VD Plus

> Ram: G.Skill Trident Z RGB 16gb (2x8gb) Ddr4 3000mhz

> Boot: Intel 710 100gb 2.5” SSD

> Storage: Hitachi 500gb 2.5” HDD

> GPU: XFX GTS XXX Rx 580 8gb

> Case: Corsair Carbide Spec-01

> PSU: EVGA 430 W1 80+

> WiFi: TP-Link Archer T2U Nano

My spouse(nonbinary) and I(trans man) are looking to start our TTC journey soon. At this time we are looking into using a sperm bank and doing at home insemination, which is my partners preference. I would like more information on how much the chances increase if the insemination is performed at a doctors office. I just don’t want to waste thousands on sperm if we can significantly increase the odds.

My spouse has an appointment with an OBGYN next month. Is there anything specific we should ask about? Hormone tests, genetic tests, medications that boost fertility, etc?

Thanks!