My boyfriend is a hoarder and I'm struggling to continue "dealing with it".
My boyfriend (M17) is a hoarder and has been for many years. He mainly hoards clothes, and other fashion accessories, as well as makeup and crafting supplies. He's young, so he still lives with his parents. It's just his room thats like this. His parents don't seem to care much and don't do really anything about it. I'm the only one who seems to express concern. I'm tired of pretending I'm okay wit the mess, I'm not. It bothers me a lot. I'd like to consider myself a clean and tidy person and being in his room gives me high stress and frustration. I don't like sleeping over or being in there for long periods of time, but I do it anyway, because I love him. I've become increasingly frustrated with it and I'm considering just not coming over anymore. I've tried to help him nany times, but it is such a large accumulation of stuff, it's so difficult to even make a small dent into it. Even if I clean off his floors, theres still tons of amounts of shit hiding in his multiple closets and drawers. Its even harder when I have to ask him if I'm allowed to throw away something and he keeps saying no, and picking things out of the garbage. I just don't know what to do anymore. I need help. I don't want to damage our relationship but I can't do this for much longer.