u/whoispuzz

I’m 24M and lately I feel like thoughts about sex, relationships, and being “behind” in life take up way too much space in my head.

It’s affecting my focus on work, self-improvement, fitness, and career growth. Social media and comparing myself to others definitely makes it worse.

I’m not looking for “just get laid” advice. I want to know how other people redirected that mental energy into improving their life without becoming emotionally numb or pretending the desire doesn’t exist.

If anyone went through something similar in their early 20s, what genuinely helped? Did it get better with age? How did you stop tying your self-worth to relationships or sex?

Would appreciate honest answers.

Genuine question - is Reddit just massively skewed or are people actually having that much sex/relationships/intimacy in their early 20s?

Every other post/comment casually mentions:

• their ex
• hookups
• “the girl I’m seeing”
• sleeping over
• relationship drama
• situationships

Meanwhile some of us are out here with absolutely zero intimate experience wondering if we accidentally skipped a whole side quest of life 😭

And I’m not even saying this in an incel way. It’s more like… Reddit is making it look more common than it actually is, right? Or are the inexperienced people just silent while the experienced ones naturally post more?

Need honest answers from normal people, not Reddit main characters.

Genuine question - is Reddit just massively skewed or are people actually having that much sex/relationships/intimacy in their early 20s?

Every other post/comment casually mentions:

• their ex
• hookups
• “the girl I’m seeing”
• sleeping over
• relationship drama
• situationships

Meanwhile some of us are out here with absolutely zero intimate experience wondering if we accidentally skipped a whole side quest of life 😭

And I’m not even saying this in an incel way. It’s more like… Reddit is making it look more common than it actually is, right? Or are the inexperienced people just silent while the experienced ones naturally post more?

Need honest answers from normal people, not Reddit main characters.

Genuine question - is Reddit just massively skewed or are people actually having that much sex/relationships/intimacy in their early 20s?

Every other post/comment casually mentions:

• their ex
• hookups
• “the girl I’m seeing”
• sleeping over
• relationship drama
• situationships

Meanwhile some of us are out here with absolutely zero intimate experience wondering if we accidentally skipped a whole side quest of life 😭

And I’m not even saying this in an incel way. It’s more like… Reddit is making it look more common than it actually is, right? Or are the inexperienced people just silent while the experienced ones naturally post more?

Need honest answers from normal people, not Reddit main characters.