u/whyCant_i_changeThis

Not sure if this is controversial but

Hi. I think a part of supporting the lgbt+ community is understanding that it is still not normalised in alot of communities. We as a society have gotten swept up in the trends and how its modernised. Because being ally is cool, Being gay is slay. Alot of us forgot why this is a movement to begin with. If u see someone in the closet, its not our place to expect them to get out and face the discrimination. In a similar way you might judge a person for being a coward for not wanting to associate with the lgbt+ community. but its defenitily not the same as being homophobic or against the movement.

Do i think the person should support the cause if they can, because staying neutral only makes the movement feel rejected? Yes. Should the person get slandered and get labelled homophobic if they dont? Absolutely not.

Closeted bisexual btw ✌️

WARNING: There will be generalisation of genders based on general global events and trends.

Okay.

I dont know if this is controversial, just some thoughts on it. Yes, its is the patriarchy. Yes, it has nothing to do with women its the system collapsing on men. I think its because now that women have the choice to do anything, including the feminine and masculine things it gave us an advantage. At the same time though, alottt to do. And by this am not talking about jobs. Am talking about roles in society, in our households and our relationships. Now the "masculine" stuff can be the independency and focusing on what we contribute to the world and our passions ( like work, education etc). while the "feminine" stuff would be EQ, social bonds (deep ones) and looks etc.

The problem is while women have no problem doing everything while centering their femininity men cant do the same. Because at the core of masculinity, there is misogyny. Not in an obvious or intentional way ( i hope) but their inclined to look down on the feminine stuff. So they would have to choose ( in most societies) while women dont have to. Not only so but they do both.I know misandry is real but i think the real reason for the imbalance is that. If you were doing a 100 why would you satisfied or happy with someone who is doing half?

( also yes men can embrace their femininity obviously but some end up adopting a part of that misandry when they look around and see whats wrong with masculinity)

Okay now that the basic stuffs out of the way

Why should women care?

Because we have to exist together. At some point weather you like it or not, its gonna affect us. Weather its the man you date or your coworker its gonna affect you. I dont think there ever been a greater division in the genders than now.Wait this got super long am gonna sleep bye

I am planning to attend near east university and i would honestly love any opinions or advices. If you know anyone that goes there that could help me with accommodation. Preferably and student because i am looking for an affordable deal or even a roommate.

Its kind of sad. Not in a performative mocking way just geniuenly. Because atleast in PL arsenal will always be somewhere near the top if not on top so ofcourse midtablers are bored. They arent playing for anything, theyre just going through matches. So ofcourse you would rather hate an arsenal and watch their games just to feel something because its high stakes. "My team is about to get relegated but atleast arsenal didnt win" that's just such a desperate take just to feel like you are winning its honestly sad. Just join the fan club at this point but at the same you cant handle the pressure of your team bottling ( and frankly the depression of it). I've always thought that the hate arsenal gets is overestimated but with the recent match...i mean come on, what are you even saying? Its just so desperate and sad ...i dunno just my take

Hi, 5 year resident here.( well..in limerence atleast) and recently it went away over night.

It consumed my entire life, my entire identity for the past 5 years. I mean serious i was moving crazy. Then last week last week, Someone confirmed what the rational part of my brain was telling me all along. That he was not what i thought he was. And it just...went away. I didnt even think to make this post until i saw a post from this sub pop up. I wish i was still feeling that way cause i would be writing paragraphs.. but am not. And am grateful that i dont have much to say.

If anyone one of you is enjoying drowning in their limerence ( because lord knows i did at the beginning) my personal advice is try to stop it and this message might not be for you. But If there is anyone out there who is.. suffering as i was;

I know you feel helpless. I know its confusing. I know it feels like too much and its gonna stick forever, Like a bottomless pit that you have given up trying to get out of..But it wont. Its just a distorted looking glass that shatters in a moment. And when it does, its not like heartbreak its just like waking up from a dream. And you will forget it just as quickly. But i hope you are doing well regardless.

Sorry english is not my first language

I think there comes a time in every movement where the movement goes to an extreme end leaving people to decide between two extremes.( kinda like what you see with the right wing and left wing)

I hate that most people in my life dont think they're feminist because so many people have pushed their agenda or culture onto it. And the whole world cannot live by the same lifestyle. The way you dress and you're sex life as a woman is your own thing. Its your human right. And that should be enough.

Why change the whole brand when the whole world hasnt even gotten on the same page yet. This was supposed to be a worldwide movement. There are MANY countries who are still behind. Many countries where women are treated as less than and cant support themselves. A LOT of places. So when you push feminism in their faces in this state it wont be about women or the opportunities they deserve. All they see is "hate man. Hook up culture. Dress a certain way" and alot of women globally dont resonate with that ( atleast not yet) so who is gonna talk about feminism. In my country, the term feminism is now associated with thess things. When it barely has anything to do with it. It was to be have equal opportunity and treatment. I just think we have strayed too far to the point where its doing the opposite of what it was supposed to do.

This is a hail mary but i need about 6000 USD. I can't afford college. Am pretty sure my circumstances aren't the worst and there is someone out there who deserves it more, but please. If anyone has 6000 dollars to spare i will pay you back when i can. PLEASE

To whom it may concern

Do we as a community have a habit of sitting down and counting our friends or something?? What do you mean "how many friends do you have?" like on facebook?? Every time i hear this question i geniuenly try to see where its coming from...and i've got nothing. Is it to see how well am doing socially? Maybe to see if am an introvert or extrovert? Is it some crazy social ladder making scheme??

Now don't get me wrong during highschool i only had a few close friends so everyone else i knew was just an acquaintance. So when people asked that question i just thought " oh its like in those highschool movies the more you have the better, that must be why they ask" but this shit still happens till this day. I have this teenage neighbour who finds people asking questions annoying and just avoids people for that... i relate to him a little more everyday. Guys these questions are baffling. like what do you mean "whats your favorite food" i barely know you and you put me on the spot like that😭 ( jokes, am just tired). is there a reason people ask this ? hell maybe i could use some perspective ..