u/willi3stroker

My gf was diagnosed bipolar last autumn. Her manic behavior including drinking, psychotic symptoms and minor infidelity got way out of control and I almost broke up with her. Somehow she got some insight or awakening and went to see a doctor to get diagnosed. She was on a months long sick leave from work. Got way better on a small dose of 2,5mg of aripiprazole.

A few weeks ago she said that 'I feel it spiralling again'. I told her to go to a doctor if they up the dose or something. She didn't. Almost every morning she texts me 'I can't stand it, I'm exhausted' from work. Last night she got up at 3am and later from work texted me the same thing. She's on the edge all the time and I see the suffering from her face.

How can I convince her that it's better to go to doctor in time than too late? What can I say? Because the drop into the depression is going to be way worse. She just said 'it's late already, I have my vacation in a month' which is way too long time to wait for the symptoms to develop.

I don't dare to inform her boss about this on my own. The boss knows she has bipolar and they have an agreement about situations like this. I fear for our relationship which isn't going good as it is.

I myself have a psychotic illness, generalised anxiety disorder and yet to be diagnosed with severe depression. So I know pretty much about how mental illnesses work or feel.

I (32M) have been in a relationship with a woman (35F) for almost ten years. First years were decent and pretty normal. Three years ago she went into a bariatric surgery because she wanted to lose weight. She has no self control to make it happen the traditional way.

After the surgery it felt like a switch was pushed. She started accusing of me being jealous about her when she was around other guys. When in reality I wasn't. She started drinking like a sponge on days off. Weird acting and even psychotic like symptoms. She started a tantrum that shes now a new *her name* and if someone can't accept that they can remove themselves from her life.

Many people told her that she has changed. Any way at some point she wanted us to buy a house together. I was very hesitant because I have this very painful health problem that requires me to use quite a hefty amount of opioids basically daily and had been going for years. I think about kms daily and like once in every 15mins. And it caused me to quit my job of 14 years because I just didn't have the strenght anymore to go to work. She had been very supportive and "I don't care if you have a job or not. Get a job when your health allows you to". I also have a psychotic illness (on remission) and GAD. Quite a bit of health problems. I'm nowhere near perfect myself.

She talked me into buying the house anyway. We moved in. I tried to do my best on renovating. I loved the place and still do. She didn't do almost anything else than drink with her loser buddies while I tried to build our home. We started having less and less of sex and intimacy.

She did some things while drunk that made me lose a lot of trust in her. She cheated on me at least on an emotional level and in my book kissing is as cheating as sex. Then some time I heard she had tried to hook up a decades older man on a local pub. When I told her this she just laughed at it and thought it like it was a joke. She didn't apparently remember anything and kept it as an excuse. "Firstly I don't want sex and there would've been a lot better looking guys to hit on."

This was the point I almost broke up with her. Somehow she had an awakening and went to see a doctor. She was diagnosed bipolar and she had been in a major manic episode for over a year. She was glad she got the medication and was astonished how a human being can go nuts just like that. She still has hypomanic behavior like spending too much on unnecessary things. I forgave her behavior but set firm boundaries from this now on.

Two years have passed and we barely have sex anymore. It wasn't a problem earlier and if I try to talk about it she starts making excuses why it has come to this. Those things didn't matter earlier and now they suddenly do. She acts like me wanting to have sex is some stupidly high expectation on a relationship. She just sobs about how "she doesn't want to have sex".

Last night I noticed that our mortgage bank account is almost empty and going into negative in 24hrs. I confronted her immediately and she burst in tears that she's fucked financially. She had used our mortgage money on something else. I told her to start talking and not keep everything to herself like all the time. She was as drunk as a skunk. I also lifted the sex thing on board and how it bothers me. She won't talk constructively but instead always starts a fight.

We had a bit of an breaking up conversation and kind of agreed to separate. We talked about how our relationship feels like a friendship. She tells me to find someone "who wants to fuck". I also brought up her drinking and how it hurts me to see her do that to herself. "I drink how much I fucking want to". "And what about your opioid usage? I see you use them for anxiety to be able to be around people." Complete bullshit. My pain is debilitating and unbearable at times and I just try not to kms from day to day. The pills keep me from doing it but I hate using them constantly. I have some periods when I don't need them nearly as much. I'm almost always on a breaking point about ending it all. I have a severe depression. She also nagged about "I'm annoyed to see you unemployed hanging out at home." I completely get that but earlier she assured that it didn't matter.

We had friends here for two days and today we acted like everything was okay but didn't even kiss once. I'm really disappointed that it has come to this. I'm scared of being alone. But I don't feel desired on this relationship anymore. She won't even say why she doesn't want to have sex anymore. It could be due to health issues but no she does not want to talk or figure it out. Feels like I can't even touch her because she very soon just says "well stop it now".

Fml. I'm seriously a hollow man right now. I have some sicko thoughts about 'revenging' all this by just leaving her to deal with this financial hell on herself all alone. I don't know what's going to happen but I don't think I'll see any improvement. I suspect she might have BPD or other personality disorder comorbid the bipolar. I'm going to sleep now. She's next to me but just sharing the bed.

How many miles do you get out of your rear tires? I just did a swap after 4500 miles and was a bit surprised how fast it wore. It was a Road 5.

I constantly do aggressive accelerations but no burnouts or wheelies etc. Just sporty riding.

What about your mileage?

Does anybody know where I could buy genuine Yamaha comfort seat for gen 1/2 in Europe? The price grows ridiculous if I buy from the States.

I've started to have problems about ass hurting after riding even though I'm not that heavy at 73kgs.

E: I try to solve the problem by getting just a seat pad.