u/wonderingwander7

Heading to Sunshine Coast soon from Melbourne and will be taking the inland route on the way there, saving the coast for the way back :)
Hoping to find some cool places to check out that are dog friendly along the way, as well as places to visit in NSW/QLD with a dog between Coffs Harbour & Rockhampton as I’ve got 3 months to explore!
Thank you! And free campsites if there’s any!

I’m driving from Melbourne to Sunshine Coast or thereabouts soon, going straight through the centre of NSW route, and was wondering what spots you’d recommend that are free (or low budget, I’m saving wherever I can lol very low funds) and just areas in general that are safer along the way up and around QLD?
Also certain spots to avoid camping in at all?

We’ve been friends for like 4 years, and when we first met we were so grateful to have found each other, as we felt very similar as people and very comfortable being ourselves.
However I think I’m a little more high maintenance as a friend and do really appreciate the occasional check-in or message. She says she’s avoidant which I can see. I seem to have disorganised attachment. We agreed we have no pressure to respond as we’re both hermits, but I used to hear from her at least every couple of months or she would at least respond to my messages after enough time. She would say she loved me so so much and thinks the world of me and would never just abandon me ever, I really felt special to her like she was to me.
She did so many kind things for me while we were friends and it made me feel so cared about and valued and I really held her so highly in my heart, and I’m quite verbal about my appreciation for my friends because I guess I’ve struggled a lot with feeling unworthy in relationships and feel the need to reinforce my love for those I do love. I came to feel so comfortable around her and honestly she was the first girl I’d ever felt attraction for (I’m also a girl) but I reiterated it’s not why I’m friends with her it’s just been a by product of our connection and that I never intend on acting on that but was just being honest?? I guess I can be too honest sometimes?? She’s bi and would occasionally show a lot of interest in me like she was attracted but that was before I felt it myself. I realise now it seems it was more because of the guy I was with before the one in about to mention - she nearly slept with him right after I ended things with him…
In the moment she showed no discomfort and was just I guess appreciative of me telling her and thought it was sweet, we were at a festival together and I was dating a guy who turned out to be cheating on me and I intuitively felt it but was in denial, but there was so much sadness I felt at that festival it was so hard to be in any fun wavelength with any of my friends despite trying.
She came with another friend and was showing far more interest in her and everyone else and that was kind of hurting my feelings, I just was struggling so much to be fun and open when my heart was so heavy for some known reasons and some unexplainable at the time. My self worth was plummeting and I just didn’t feel ‘cool’ enough for any of the people my friend was hanging with. I also had PMS so that didn’t help at all.
Fast forward we hung out like once more at a day festival and we were with the friend from the other festival who is LOVELY, and she met another girl who she became kind of obsessed with and has only seen her and the other friend she was with and I was kinda hurt like I wanted to be included but didn’t say that to her, I just never found out about hangouts until after.
And since then I’ve barely heard from her and it’s been like 5 months, I sent her a couple messages over the months to check in but never heard back, messaged her once to express I’ve felt like she’s cut me off and she said she would never, just going through a lot so I apologised for thinking that and offered to help if she needed or give her space if that’s what she needed. That was like 2 months ago, and for her birthday I had been making a playlist for her because we have similar music taste and gave it to her - but it was my birthday a couple days ago and she never said anything yet was looking at my stories of some friends who had wished me a happy birthday. And since then seen her sharing all this stuff about how good it feels to let people go and gatekeep your own energy and all of this, and I can’t help but internalise that a bit as if I’m one of the people she’s decided to let go of.

I get that I could be overthinking but intuitively I’ve felt this sense of her becoming less interested in me because that guy I dated for over a year honestly killed the light inside of me and it has only just started coming back sort of. So I wasn’t myself for a while and I think she gravitates more towards highly stimulating fun interesting people and perhaps I’m too sensitive and emotional for her, like I seem to be for most people.
It just fucking sucks, I’ve really come to hate myself again for feeling like I’m just too much and simultaneously not enough for anyone, like my standards are unrealistic in friendship or relationships and like I’m just not worth anyone’s time really, especially once they get to know me more. I come off as all exciting at a first glance but there’s a lot of sensitivity beneath the surface which seems to repel people most of the time. I hate it. I hate getting excited to make a good friend and then they just disappear when they get sick of me. I feel so hurt and always turn that back on myself like it’s my fault and there’s something wrong with me, like I’m never ‘cool’ enough for anyone. I don’t want to close off my heart but I’m so tired of feeling picked up and dropped when someone else wants.

I’m rather new to Vedic astrology but am fascinated and learning more, and found a page with lots of info, and I found something that touched on some random health issues I’m facing that I would love to rebalance or help to avoid from any further issues.

My moon is in the 2nd house in Cancer, and it was a waning moon when I was born. I just read that as the 2nd house rules the right eye, and I’m guessing the face / teeth, having a weak moon can cause health issues here and well I randomly lost some sight in my right eye and still get pain in it, and have had many dental issues as well as lots of facial pain.

I’d be very grateful for any advice or pointers here! Thank you so much

I’m in the midst of gathering the strength to go no contact, but so much of me still wants him around. It’s just weird, like he won’t ‘leave’, but he won’t be available the way I need for this to feel nourishing or like my heart finally has been heard for all the pain he’s caused me.

He’s there to have fun with me, willing to go out and party, still tries to have sex with me even though I’ve said can we please talk about some stuff before that because otherwise I end up depressed as fuck for days afterwards and yet he still uses his attempts to have sex and sometimes it’s worked but I regret it, but as soon as I have emotions come up he flatlines and goes monotone, and I fucking cannot stand this feeling of something so hard to describe but like we both KNOW what’s going on but he won’t take the initiative to talk or make the call, yet will keep acting like everything’s normal unless I’m upset and then he just sounds frustrated and sick of my shit. It’s so fucking hurtful.
He made me out to be his absolute special person, love bombed me hard and was so convincing I think even he believed it, until he became sick of my emotional side and now just calls as if nothings happened trying to avoid any emotional conversation, and I’m so frustrated by this attachment to him that I can’t just cut this shit off and be done with it.
He cheated on me and used every excuse under the sun to make it okay and like it’s normal, and he’s SO CONVINCING AND CHARMING that a part of my brain almost believes him at times and that’s the worst. He fully just reciprocates whatever my energy is, he’ll be nice and warm if I am, or flat and cold if I’m hurt that day and not being warm to him, and my brain is just struggling so much to understand this.
Im finding it so hard to use words to describe this all but I’ve been in so much dull pain that I’ve been trying to kind of avoid I guess because it just makes no sense to me and all I want is closure and to be seen and heard in this with compassion, because it all meant so much to me, he meant so much to me, I poured my heart and soul into that relationship while he just sat back making false promises and getting an ego boost off of the effort I put into him.

It’s disgusting yet he’s so convincing in his love bombing that I feel like an absolute idiot how easily i have fallen under his spell. I know i have to be the one to make the call to go no contact because he just takes what he can get from me and seems to have no regard for my feelings, unless im actually doing good and found my own confidence due to having distance from him, he sees me doing well and acts all warm and caring and considerate, until my attachment comes back from him being kind, the I want connection emotionally and he just magically becomes unavailable again.

It’s so fucking cruel. I need a hug.

What does this mean about how they’re affected or I am affected within this dynamic?

It’s my 25th birthday in June and I’m having friends at my house but I live close to the station so I’m wanting for us to go out to the city or something and do something fun!! Would love if it were more on the affordable side so as many of us can make it as possible!

I realise now that I’ve thrown myself in the deep end, and don’t know if I’m gonna be able to manage.
I’m going no contact with my ex really soon even though it feels like death in a sense (cos it is in a symbolic way I guess) and the grief is unimaginable.
But I’ve also quit smoking weed and have been off it daily for 2 weeks, had a bit last night but I don’t feel the same need for it as I did.
But I also wanted to stop buying vapes because they’re giving me headaches and I just use it way too much and it’s making me depressed.
But I feel like a total mess right now and I can’t tell what’s what, if I’m sobbing over him or because I’m not vaping or what is happening, and it feels scary because I start spiralling in a nanosecond towards extreme behaviour and trying not to self harm or do something drastic.
But then there’s also this constant pressure on my self that I need to be really working towards a good quality life and have daily routine/ habits but I don’t really know what they should be besides exercise & meditation but I can’t really get a regular sleep schedules since my work times start from 6am - 9:30am so I never know how much time I’ll have in the mornings.
My brain is just overloaded and everything feels so urgent and I’m feeling like a total failure and part of my brain just wants me to end this all together so that I don’t have to keep on witnessing myself failing and never feeling like I’m doing something actually fulfilling but idek what that would be.

I’m spiralling in this moment to be honest but find writing just holds me down for a moment

The dentist gave me the option of either a root canal or an extraction,

And I chose an extraction but the appt is in 2 weeks -

And now I’m second guessing things because I had a tooth extracted right next to the one that is in question, and I feel like I’ve heard so many terrible things about root canals that I just didn’t even wanna go there, but I just don’t know now.

Is a root canal really like extremely painful? Or complicated?

Looking at a chart with my ex with whom the relationship was incredibly obsessive and binding and heavy and addictive, yet also insightful and beautiful, I see his Pluto & Jupiter affect many of my planets;

His Pluto: (all within 5 degrees or less)

- trine my moon

- opposite my mercury

- conjunct my mars

- opposite my Jupiter

- sextile my Uranus

- conjunct my Chiron

- sextile my Lilith

- sextile my vertex

His Jupiter:

- trines my mercury, Jupiter, Uranus, Lilith & vertex

- sextile my chiron

Can I just ask for a bit of insight about the fact that his Pluto affects SO many of my planets and what that might look like?

Honestly as confirmation I’m seeking, that shit was intense and we’re still friends but I gotta keep my distance for the sake of my sanity & emotional peace

I used to think that if you and another person had (especially personal) planets in the same sign or same element where a conjunction / trine / sextile can occur, that was enough for more compatibility than being in completely in different elements. But then when I look at my synastry chart with an ex, although we might have say his Venus in Sagittarius and my mars in Sagittarius, there’s no aspect noted? Same with like his ascendant in Taurus conjunct my Venus in Taurus… I would’ve expected there to be something said on that, but there wasn’t, and I’m assuming it’s because they don’t fall closely together enough in degree they’re in of the signs. Hope that makes sense, I’m not overly knowledgeable about synastry or astrology yet lol