u/wwave_pool

I bought a 14 karat gold ring from an Instagram live show. It’s a well known seller I’ve bought from for a couple years now who is very honest and very thorough with her pieces. Never had any issues.

When I got the ring, it was at least two sizes smaller than it was supposed to be and didn’t fit me. I messaged her and she immediately said send it back, I’ll reimburse the shipping, and I will have it resized (she’d had these rings made and said the sizes must have gotten mixed up).

I also happened to weigh it and it weighed 2.43g. This was a little strange to me because when I bought it, she had sold it as 2.8g of 14 karat gold. I didn’t think much of it because it was the wrong size and I thought when it was sized correctly, it would weigh 2.8g.

I received the ring back and it fits perfectly but somehow it is even less gold than when I first got it! It now weighs 2.32g. I went back back-and-forth about whether I should say anything. I didn’t want to accuse her of lying because I don’t think she’s lying or trying to cheat me but obviously there’s something strange going on.

I messaged her asking if she knew how this could be possible and she said she didn’t know and the ring she had taken to her jeweler to be resized was the one she had originally sent me. She said it could have been polishing and the rings were all +/-.1g. And then she said, “If it’s driving you insane I can send you $20.” This kind of pissed me off because even though it’s just a half a gram of gold, a gram of gold is expensive and instead of saying so sorry I don’t know how that happened, let me make it up to you, she put it on me to ask her to send $20.

Anyway, wondering if you would’ve said anything at all about this or if you would have taken the $20? What would you have done? (As an aside she did not reimburse me the shipping cost to send it back to her to be correctly sized).

TL;DR should I stick with the devil I know or risk it and take this job offer?

I am freaking out over what to do. I’ve been at my job (wfh in research for academic medical center) for 5 years. I’ve become increasingly disillusioned with the institution and my department- horrible leadership decisions and misstep after misstep. Constant lawsuits and news articles about what a mess it is.

A year and a half ago they laid off our entire dept, we had to reapply for our jobs, which were classified at a lower pay scale and cut 5 FTE (so way more work). There was no plan or structure set up for the new dept and it took over a month to rehire everyone so our work just sat there. We are still catching up from that. The new manager is a putz. He falls asleep in meetings, says semi-offensive things, doesn’t answer emails, doesn’t follow up on things he says he’ll do. It goes on and on.. After this experience we unionized and got a pay bump and just have much more job security. I’m burned the fuck out and so tired of this manager and his incompetence and the workload.

I applied for the exact same wfh job with a different research institution and was offered the job today. I am torn and feel sick over this - have to make a decision by Monday.

Current job:

\-128k/year salary
\-Union represented so will get 3.25% increase 7/1/26 and 3% increase 7/1/27 (beyond that I don’t know, we are one year in to the three year union contract)
\-have accrued 400 hrs sick leave, 150 hours PTO, accrue 24 hrs every year of wellness and bereavement leave each
\-super flexible and no one micro manages me - if I have a dr appt I go to my dr appt, no need for PTO
\- have an extremely high volume workload and there are 9 people total in the dept

New job offer:

\-145/year salary
\- every January receive a merit increase (I read it was 1% online but that seems insane, will ask recruiter)
\- the first two years accrue 2 weeks PTO, third year it’s 3 weeks, 5th year it’s 4 weeks
\- every year accrue 3 personal days and 10 sick days
\- the workload seems high volume that is why they are hiring a new employee. There are currently only two dudes in the dept and there is no manager, no admin - they report to VP

I really was hoping for a higher offer to make it worth it to take this risk. I asked if there was flexibility for 150 and the recruiter said 145 is what they can offer. It really does not seem worth it to leave a job I know well for an unknown that may be terrible, just as high volume, and with less flexibility. I cannot get perspective on this - any insight or thoughts you have about doing it or staying put would be appreciated. Any illuminating questions I should ask the recruiter? How should I be thinking about this?

TL;DR should I stick with the devil I know or risk it and take this job offer?

I am freaking out over what to do. I’ve been at my job (wfh in research for academic medical center) for 5 years. I’ve become increasingly disillusioned with the institution and my department- horrible leadership decisions and misstep after misstep. Constant lawsuits and news articles about what a mess it is.

A year and a half ago they laid off our entire dept, we had to reapply for our jobs, which were classified at a lower pay scale and cut 5 FTE (so way more work). There was no plan or structure set up for the new dept and it took over a month to rehire everyone so our work just sat there. We are still catching up from that. The new manager is a putz. He falls asleep in meetings, says semi-offensive things, doesn’t answer emails, doesn’t follow up on things he says he’ll do. It goes on and on.. After this experience we unionized and got a pay bump and just have much more job security. I’m burned the fuck out and so tired of this manager and his incompetence and the workload.

I applied for the exact same wfh job with a different research institution and was offered the job today. I am torn and feel sick over this - have to make a decision by Monday.

Current job:

-128k/year salary
-Union represented so will get 3.25% increase 7/1/26 and 3% increase 7/1/27 (beyond that I don’t know, we are one year in to the three year union contract)
-have accrued 400 hrs sick leave, 150 hours PTO, accrue 24 hrs every year of wellness and bereavement leave each
-super flexible and no one micro manages me - if I have a dr appt I go to my dr appt, no need for PTO
- have an extremely high volume workload and there are 9 people total in the dept

New job offer:

-145/year salary
- every January receive a merit increase (I read it was 1% online but that seems insane, will ask recruiter)
- the first two years accrue 2 weeks PTO, third year it’s 3 weeks, 5th year it’s 4 weeks
- every year accrue 3 personal days and 10 sick days
- the workload seems high volume that is why they are hiring a new employee. There are currently only two dudes in the dept and there is no manager, no admin - they report to VP

I really was hoping for a higher offer to make it worth it to take this risk. I asked if there was flexibility for 150 and the recruiter said 145 is what they can offer. It really does not seem worth it to leave a job I know well for an unknown that may be terrible, just as high volume, and with less flexibility. I cannot get perspective on this - any insight or thoughts you have about doing it or staying put would be appreciated. Any illuminating questions I should ask the recruiter? How should I be thinking about this?

I am freaking out over what to do. I’ve been at my job (wfh in research for academic medical center) for 5 years. I’ve become increasingly disillusioned with the institution and my department- horrible leadership decisions and misstep after misstep. Constant lawsuits and news articles about what a mess it is.

A year and a half ago they laid off our entire dept, we had to reapply for our jobs, which were classified at a lower pay scale and cut 5 FTE (so way more work). There was no plan or structure set up for the new dept and it took over a month to rehire everyone so our work just sat there. We are still catching up from that. The new manager is a putz. He falls asleep in meetings, says semi-offensive things, doesn’t answer emails, doesn’t follow up on things he says he’ll do. It goes on and on.. After this experience we unionized and got a pay bump and just have much more job security. I’m burned the fuck out and so tired of this manager and his incompetence and the workload.

I applied for the exact same wfh job with a different research institution and was offered the job today. I am torn and feel sick over this - have to make a decision by Monday.

Current job:

-128k/year salary
-Union represented so will get 3.25% increase 7/1/26 and 3% increase 7/1/27 (beyond that I don’t know, we are one year in to the three year union contract)
-have accrued 400 hrs sick leave, 150 hours PTO, accrue 24 hrs every year of wellness and bereavement leave each
-super flexible and no one micro manages me - if I have a dr appt I go to my dr appt, no need for PTO
- have an extremely high volume workload and there are 9 people total in the dept

New job offer:

-145/year salary
- every January receive a merit increase (I read it was 1% online but that seems insane, will ask recruiter)
- the first two years accrue 2 weeks PTO, third year it’s 3 weeks, 5th year it’s 4 weeks
- every year accrue 3 personal days and 10 sick days
- the workload seems high volume that is why they are hiring a new employee. There are currently only two dudes in the dept and there is no manager, no admin - they report to VP

I really was hoping for a higher offer to make it worth it to take this risk. I asked if there was flexibility for 150 and the recruiter said 145 is what they can offer. It really does not seem worth it to leave a job I know well for an unknown that may be terrible, just as high volume, and with less flexibility. I cannot get perspective on this - any insight or thoughts you have about doing it or staying put would be appreciated. Any illuminating questions I should ask the recruiter? How should I be thinking about this?

@white_lightning

Does anyone else follow her? For years I’ve been on the borderline between actually enjoy to follow and hate follow. Just sometimes the abbreviations, the personality quirks seem so forced. Recently she and her husband split up, which was surprising, but it happens, people grow apart etc. They always seemed into each other so seemed out of left field and the other day she hard launched a girlfriend to the grid! Wondering what exactly went down there.

TL;DR: I messed up and chose 2.2mg as a dose for three months what’s the next dose up?

Hi all! I have a question about dosing up. The vial is 22mg/mL. I’ve been on 2.2 mg from Brello for the last four weeks. It’s gone well and I would like to bump up. However, Brello’s instructions given to me were to inject 2.2mg for three months.

I messaged Brello asking why this is and shouldn’t I be titrating up. To their credit they answered quickly, and said it was prescribed that way since on the consult form I chose “maintain starting dose monthly.” I don’t even remember this question or what the other options were or why I chose this. I think I didn’t understand what it actually meant. They said I can pay $50 for a consult with the clinic and that I can dose up but I will run out of med sooner than three months and they will not provide more. This sucks but whatever, I’m going to move to another provider when I’m done with my current stash.

So, question: currently I do 10 units for 2.2mg. The last time I spoke with my doctor, she said if I moved up, just go up by five units to see how I feel and if that’s fine I can add another 5 units the next week to land at 20. So if I do 15 units that will be 3.3mg. Does that make sense as a next step?