u/xeandra_a
r/apostrophegore r/IndianSkincareAddicts r/AuDHDWomen r/8BallPool r/IndianBeautyTalks r/aww r/johannesburg
▲ 17 r/8BallPool
Why do I suddenly have spectators during a regular game?
How and why is this possible?
u/xeandra_a — 2 months ago
▲ 6 r/8BallPool
What are some lines you wish would come in a chat pack?
For me it’s “task failed successfully” for when I don’t make the shot I intended but I still get something in 😂
Or something like “okay…” when my opponent makes a very strange choice of shot.
How about you guys?
u/xeandra_a — 2 months ago
Got my nose done two weeks ago and I’m feeling more corpse bride than usual
Important: I am South African Indian, so I don’t live in India or necessarily have access to products there, but I’m happy to hear if anything worked for you guys and look for a local equivalent.
Picture of what I looked like pre weight-loss, Invisalign, and rhinoplasty: https://imgur.com/a/mcLduEP
(30F) So I’ve always had these dark eyes and, from my understanding, these are genetic and not fixable with caffeine etc. I’m not sure if they just look worse as an after-effect of anaesthesia and surgery, but I’ve had surgery many times before and never experienced this.
I’ve also heard that these can be worsened by sinus conditions. I have a chronic form of rhinitis and I’m sure the surgery on my nose has affected my sinuses a bit temporarily.
South African dermatologists have never really been able to give me effective advice on anything I can do about this. One doctor prescribed retinol which burnt my skin.
In terms of skincare, I’m autistic so I really hate having products on my face, but I’ve started being better about it since the surgery. I wash with normal Dove bar soap, and I’ve since started using a Korean eye cream. During the day I moisturise with sunscreen and then at night I’ve been using a post-procedure skin barrier repair on my face.
If anyone has advice, please help! I really don’t want to feel like I have to wear make up all the time to look normal for the rest of my life.
Edit: for anyone reading this post at a later date, I got super helpful advice in this comment in another thread.
Edit 2: a lot of people have opinions about the fact that I had my nose done. Not that I owe anyone an explanation for my choices, but I wanted a natural change so I could feel confident being photographed from every angle, especially if I have a wedding some day. That’s it - I’m not trying to look like anyone else.
For those interested, I had my surgery with Dr Dogan Pinar in Istanbul. He charges €6000 for a primary rhinoplasty and I highly recommend him if you’re looking for a natural change.
u/xeandra_a — 3 months ago
▲ 125 r/AuDHDWomen
Does anyone have a relationship where they don’t have to mask at all? Romantic, platonic, or familial.
I’m a late-diagnosed, high-masking person with AuDHD. I’ve only had my diagnosis for about a year, but I’ve struggled with every kind of relationship my entire life.
I’ve recently come to realise that I have no one in my life that I can be completely myself with - not even my own family. It has really given me a bleak outlook on the rest of my life and made me contemplate suicide more than usual. It also makes me want to run away and spend the rest of my life in solitude, but I know that’s not a good solution.
I’m seeking therapy, but I’d like to hear what others have experienced so I can manage my expectations for my future.
More than anything, I just want one person in my life who I can be completely free with. I want someone who considers me and understands the things that make me happy and the things that frustrate me. I just want someone to put effort into loving me the right way. I feel like I go out of my way to accommodate everyone around me, but no one does that for me.
Edit: Thank you to everyone who is sharing so openly. I’m happy to know that some of you have successful relationships. It’s also validating to see that some of you don’t, but sad at the same time.
u/xeandra_a — 4 months ago
▲ 3 r/johannesburg
Looking for a dermatologist that specialises in toenail issues
I’ve seen 3 thus far and none of them were particularly confident or helpful in the treatment they gave me. Really need help 😭
u/xeandra_a — 5 months ago