u/yes-athrowaway

Un po' di sano debunking dai

Questo sub è veramente deprimente: rispecchia il sentimento comune o è più una casualità data dal fatto che generalmente online si è più propensi a verbalizzare un problema?

Avete medici di famiglia contattabili via app? Io ne ho uno dalla mia città, portale Care@Home e mi spiacerebbe lasciare questa comodità. Ma non c'è modo di saperlo prima

Grazie 🤍

I had a colonscopy 2 years ago and even though they found lesions they weren't sure about UC or Crohn. Now it's gonna get pretty graphic. Whilst two years ago I was mainly expelling blood and some mucus while defecating, now I've been expelling only mucus (color: pinkish gray or yellowish brown). I go to the bathroom multiple times a day and I expel this freaking thing like I'm peeing. Diet helped a lot, it reduced the quantity and most importantly the urgency. But even when not eating (I'm doing intermittent fast because I was hoping to help more) I still expell it. From 22-29 June it was INTENSE. Now better thanks to the diet, because as soon as I cheat the discharge quantity increases.

I'm gonna visit my doctor on 17 July, and ask for a colonscopy.

In the meanwhile, do you think we are still talking about IBD here? Has it ever happened to anyone?

Jesus so much psychological pressure and paranoia about dating and after finally being able to overcome vaginismus and have PiV multiple times with no pain (lube is needed, still) and there you go: me watching a man above having the time of his life and feeling absolutely nothing! WTF girls is it me, am I the problem?

21 days ago, I wrote a post because I was convinced I’d never find a man willing to help me. 12 days ago, I wrote a post because a friend was able to finger me. 5 hours ago, this friend and I had PIV. And it was wonderful. He doesn’t know about my vaginismus; when he realized how tight I was, I simply told him that my pelvic floor had tightened up after surgery and that my ex’s was much smaller than his (which is true, but my exes were never willing to help me). He was incredibly gentle, went at my pace, and within a few minutes, my vagina adjusted to his shape. I can’t say I loved it, but it’s a thousand times better than the dilators (and fingering, too). The fact that it didn’t feel like a medical procedure and that everything was so normal filled me with joy.

I feel privileged, because in trying to treat myself entirely on my own these past few years, I’ve been very lazy and inconsistent with my dilation exercises - often letting months go by between times I used the dilators. Yet I had already stabilized at the IR 7 dilator, and once I even used the IR 8. And now I’ve found a decent man willing to listen. It’s my first successful penetration since my first time, which happened 15 years ago.

I wish everyone here the best

I have a friend with benefits. We’re not in a relationship, but we meet up and we’re also friends and talk quite a bit everyday.

The thing is, he often randomly tells me that I’m not really his “type” physically and sometimes compares me to other women he says he finds more attractive and with whom he'd like to have sex. This happens out of nowhere, and I'd say more frequently in these days.

At the same time, he’s very affectionate, always initiates seeing me/chatting with me, and we have a generally good connection. I’m just confused about the point of these comments.

Lately I’ve been feeling really down about vaginismus, and I've been writing about it here too, because my dating life is going really badly and I can’t just share it lightly, especially as when I do, I end up scaring men off.

I think this is because I’m 30, so if a man realises I can’t handle penetration, he assumes I’ll never be able to at this stage. But this has always been the case; no man has ever really offered to help, I’m dealing with it all on my own.

Yesterday, though, a friend of mine came round and we ended up in bed. We’d often talked about sex, and he was aware that ‘sometimes I can’t handle penetration very well’ (lol). When he tried to finger me, I took a breath and didn’t say anything, because in theory I’m stable on Intimate Rose #6 and every now and then I manage to insert #7. It went well! He even managed two fingers at one point and was really delicate. He realised I’m very tight and just commented that it would be nice to try penetration, but we avoided the subject and he didn’t ask any questions whatsoever. I’m tempted to try with him, but as he has very little experience with sex, I’m afraid my situation might discourage him further.

It's been over 15 years since my first PIV. After that I got vaginismus, and no man ever even tried to actually help, they either gave a shit and were happy only with foreplay or would leave me. I admit that when I'm single I don't have any consistency of doing excersises by my own, because to me it is never comfortable and it makes me overall sad. I got to intimate rose #7 but then started to avoid again. Of course now I have a crush and I foresee the same old shit of him running away. Of course I'm trying again to warm up, but its never pleasant. I'm so tired. I am on intimate rose #6 and bought a dildo of his size: it is way wider than #8. At this point I'm starting to think I have some anatomical issue with my hymen and I don't know what to do because I'm too broke for a visit and this topics are taboo in my family. It's a cycle of doom. I want feel loved and safe. I want to deal with this with someone. Never could.