u/yga_

\*\*Hi! 21yo med student from a small coastal town in Türkiye\*\* 🌊
By day I’m studying medicine, and in my free time I balance it with art, colorful makeup, astrology (proud Libra! ♎), and reading tarot cards. 🎨✨

\*\*Looking for:\*\* A long-term connection with someone open-minded and kind (preferably age 21–26, and not too far from my timezone/Türkiye).

\*\*A few random things about me:\*\*
I'm fascinated by perfumes—I believe every scent tells a unique story.

Big dream: Learning pottery and drinking coffee out of mugs I sculpted myself ☕🎨

I really love learning new languages: currently learning german🇩🇪 and soon russian !🇷🇺

I also have a big dream of going to every european country before my 35 i hope I can achieve that!!

\*Tell me your favorite scent or let me read your birth chart or draw a tarot card for you!\*🔮

Note: I value emotional connection and getting to know each other first—intimacy is strictly off the table in the initial stages.

**Hi! 21yo med student from a small coastal town in Türkiye** 🌊
By day I’m studying medicine, and in my free time I balance it with art, colorful makeup, astrology (proud Libra! ♎), and reading tarot cards. 🎨✨

**Looking for:** A long-term connection with someone open-minded and kind (preferably age 21–26, and not too far from my timezone/Türkiye).

**A few random things about me:**
I'm fascinated by perfumes—I believe every scent tells a unique story.

Big dream: Learning pottery and drinking coffee out of mugs I sculpted myself ☕🎨

I really love learning new languages: currently learning german🇩🇪 and soon russian !🇷🇺

I also have a big dream of going to every european country before my 35 i hope I can achieve that!!

*Tell me your favorite scent or let me read your birth chart or draw a tarot card for you!*🔮

Note: I value emotional connection and getting to know each other first—intimacy is strictly off the table in the initial stages.

Selamlar,
Son zamanlarda yaşadığım ve beni hem zihinsel hem de duygusal olarak oldukça yoran bir durum hakkında dürüst fikirlerinize ve tecrübelerinize ihtiyacım var.
Biriyle gerçekten samimi ve derin bir iletişimimiz vardı. Başta bana inanılmaz bir ilgi gösterdi, adeta üzerime düştü. Fakat ben de aynı şekilde karşılık verip ilgimi gösterdiğim an bundan rahatsız oldu; bu ilgiyi "fazla" bulup aniden soğudu, kendini geri çekti ve pat diye beni engelledi.
Asıl canımı sıkan kısım ise şu: Benimle iletişimi kestiği saatlerde Reddit’te başkalarıyla flörtleşmeye ve ucuz etkileşimler aramaya başladığını gördüm.
Ben "Nerede hata yaptım?" diye kendimi yerken, bir insanın kurduğumuz bağı bu kadar hızlı yok sayıp yüzeysel arayışlara girmesini kabullenmekte zorlanıyorum. Sonradan fark ettim ki bu durum tamamen duygusal olgunluksuzlukla ve kaçıngan (avoidant) bir yapıyla ilgili. İlgi ve gerçek bağ gördüğü an panikleyip kaçıyor, ardından içindeki boşluğu hızlı dış uyaranlarla kapatmaya çalışıyor gibi.
İçimdeki haksızlık duygusu ve öfke çok taze. Ona yazmamak, gidip egosunu sarsacak hamleler yapmamak ve duruşumu bozmamak için kendimi zor tutuyorum.
Kendisi ilgi yağdırıp ben karşılık verince "fazla geldi" deyip kaçan ve yerimi hemen yüzeysel etkileşimlerle dolduran biriyle nasıl başa çıktınız?
Kaçıngan biriyle bu süreci yaşayıp No Contact (tam sessizlik) kuralını korumayı başaranlar, kendilerini durdurmak için nasıl bir zihinsel yöntem izledi?
İçimi dökmeye ve biraz da sizden gelecek gerçekçi bakış açılarına ihtiyacım var. Tavsiyeleriniz için şimdiden çok teşekkür ederim.

Hi everyone,
I'm dealing with a situation that has left me feeling really confused and hurt, and I could use some perspective from people who have been through something similar.
I was recently involved with someone where we shared a very genuine and deep connection. Out of nowhere, he pulled back, put up boundaries, and ended up blocking me. To make matters worse, I found out that he was already active on Reddit looking for new interactions and casual flirting almost immediately—literally hours before/after cutting things off with me.
When I tried to process this, I went through a phase of wanting closure, feeling angry, and even debating whether to call him out. But seeing how quickly he jumped into superficial interactions made me realize he is likely emotionally avoidant and incapable of handling real depth or emotional responsibility. When things get real, he runs and looks for quick validation elsewhere.
I am currently holding back from reaching out or engaging in any mind games, but the sudden transition from deep intimacy to total coldness is really tough to digest.
How do you cope with the sudden shock of being replaced so fast?
For those who have dealt with avoidant partners, how did you maintain strict No Contact when your ego and heart were hurting?
Any advice, support, or reality checks would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.

**Hi! 21yo med student from a small coastal town in Türkiye** 🌊
By day I’m studying medicine, and in my free time I balance it with art, colorful makeup, astrology (proud Libra! ♎), and reading tarot cards. 🎨✨

**Looking for:** A long-term connection with someone open-minded and kind (preferably age 21–26, and not too far from my timezone/Türkiye).

**A few random things about me:**
I'm fascinated by perfumes—I believe every scent tells a unique story.

Big dream: Learning pottery and drinking coffee out of mugs I sculpted myself ☕🎨

I really love learning new languages: currently learning german🇩🇪 and soon russian !🇷🇺

I also have a big dream of going to every european country before my 35 i hope I can achieve that!!

*Tell me your favorite scent or let me read your birth chart or draw a tarot card for you!*🔮

*Note: I value emotional connection and getting to know each other first—intimacy is strictly off the table in the initial stages.*

Hi! 21yo med student from a small coastal town in Türkiye 🌊
By day I’m studying medicine, and in my free time I balance it with art, colorful makeup, astrology (proud Libra! ♎), and reading tarot cards. 🎨✨

Looking for: A long-term connection with someone open-minded and kind (preferably age 21–26, and not too far from my timezone/Türkiye).

A few random things about me:
I'm fascinated by perfumes—I believe every scent tells a unique story.

Big dream: Learning pottery and drinking coffee out of mugs I sculpted myself ☕🎨

I really love learning new languages: currently learning german🇩🇪 and soon russian !🇷🇺

I also have a big dream of going to every european country before my 35 i hope I can achieve that!!

Tell me your favorite scent or let me read your birth chart or draw a tarot card for you!🔮

Note: I value emotional connection and getting to know each other first—intimacy is strictly off the table in the initial stages.

Hi, I'm a 21-year-old medical student and I'm looking for a long-term relationship.
About myself:
-I'm interested in spiritualism and witchcraft, I can also do tarot readings, and I'm interested in astrology (I'm a Libra).
-I live in Türkiye, and the city I live in is a small coastal city.
-I love doing colorful makeup.
-I love painting and artistic things, I even paint in my free time.

I don't have many criteria, I just want someone who isn't much older than me (not older than 26) and doesn't live too far from Türkiye.