u/zane_asterius

Hi all,

I’m completely new to insurance and recently got licensed in North Carolina. I have been offered a $20/hr base pay position with StateFarm that has unlimited commission.

If I do well in terms of making sales (as in, exceptionally well), how much could I expect to make annually?

Base pay alone comes out to ~$38,000/yr and ideally I’d like to make more than that given commission potential.

Hello all,

I have a history of diagnosed anxiety disorders and recently gotten into a new relationship that's been rather triggering for my anxiety. We have only been together for two months. He said that he loves me on day four and has said it everyday since, but I don't believe him. I don't trust easily. I tend to overthink and overanalyze things that my partner says--and that people in general say, for that matter--and I can end up working myself up into an anxious state.

To give examples of things I've gotten myself anxious about: whether my partner is going to cheat on me, whether my partner actually finds me attractive sexually (I haven't felt as sexually desired in this relationship as I would like to), whether I'm a rebound (my partner was in an on-and-off seven year relationship before getting with me and his ex broke up with him last year, though they still follow each other on social media), and whether my partner is serious when he says that he sees a future/marriage/kids with me, among other anxieties.

In addition, he's in the military and is currently away for two weeks for training. I am having serious anxiety over our (temporary) separation despite us video calling everyday, sending each other funny posts on social media, and texting.

No amount of reassurance that he has given me so far in this relationship has helped to alleviate my anxiety. That is how I know it's not necessarily a him problem (despite there being some genuine reasons to be cautious about this relationship), and is more an issue of me having anxiety disorders and needing to learn how to cope with these fears on my own.

For example, yes, it is very well possible that he could cheat on me, that his ex could beg for him to come back and he could leave me for them, that he is lying about seeing a future with me, but how do I let go of these anxieties and simply accept the fact that I can't control any of that, that I can't account for these possibilities?

I am currently on Prozac (it's not very helpful though), I work out and go for daily walks, supplement magnesium, and get adequate sleep. What else can I do to mitigate this relationship anxiety without simply breaking up?

Hello all,

My boyfriend (23M) of five weeks confided to me (27M) early on in our relationship that he was sexually abused as a child. Since then, I have noticed some behaviors that I consider to be unusual and that I wonder might be due to said trauma. I will list some of them:

(1) He is entirely concerned with pleasing me. He doesn’t care to cum himself, only cares if I cum / enjoyed the acts of sex and will only finish if I ask him / explicitly say that I would like him to cum also. He does so in a very monotone voice.

(2) He can only cum by masturbating himself. He said that he has been watching porn and masturbating since he was in elementary school and that that’s the reason why he can only get off by stroking himself, but I’m skeptical of that being the only reason why.

(3) He is completely non-verbal, inexpressive, and blank-faced during intimacy. This throws me off the most because no matter how much he has assured me that he finds me attractive and enjoys intimacy between the two of us, his body language says otherwise. To me, he looks very disinterested during intimacy (perhaps even disassociated?) and seeing him look like that, even if he is visibly erect, makes me not want to have sex at all.

(4) He says he has a high sex drive and is always thinking about sex due to the trauma he experienced when he was younger, and yet he never seems visibly interested in sex with me and often seems hesitant/reluctant to initiate anything.

(5) He has mentioned all these sexual fantasies he’s had but when we’ve done any of them in real life, his facial expressions and body language don’t read to me as if he actually enjoyed those acts. Even though he always SAYS he enjoys intimacy with me, he always looks underwhelmed / like he didn’t actually like it.

(6) He engages in sexual acts with me in a very robotic manner.

I’m naturally a very anxious person, so all of this gives me anxiety and has been making intimacy a stressful thing for me. My brain is registering all of this as not normal and I’ve vented to someone trusted about my concerns and they’ve not been sure how to advise me, so I thought I would come to a community such as this and see if anyone could offer me some insight.