r/GenderfluidTeens

I don't know what to do. I know im trans, genderfluid/bigender and bisexual. My family is unsupportive. I'm not going to be kicked out/in danger, but i've tried many times to come out as queer and trans, and they've basically brushed it off, and said they'd get a therapist for me because they didn't know what to do. They found out I went by a different name at work and school and they got very upset and staged an intervention. I will say, the intervention snapped me out of my spiral, but it didn't stop me being trans or queer. If I do get HRT and/or top surgery, I wouldn't know how/if to tell them because I feel like they'd try to stop me or tell me its a mistake, but I feel like I'd be going behind their backs, like I did when I used a different name without them knowing. I'm 18 in about a year, so I have time to get onto the waitlist for HRT and top surgery. I don't have my license yet, but when I do, I can go to the GP when/if I need to by myself. I'm not 1000% sure about HRT or Top surgery, so im researching to see pros, cons and info. sucks bc im also genderfluid/bigender. Advice/thoughts? No hate in the replies please

I have recently started classifying myself as gender fluid and in the mornings I feel exatreamly feminine like everyday I switch a lot but I alwase feel fem in the morning is this normal? Dose Enyboady else have patterns or triggers like this?

I am not sure if this is the right place to be asking this. I’m planning to get a haircut on the first, or some day in August before my birthday and before I move out. I want to show this pin to a hairstylist but first I to make sure that this isn’t AI. I don’t want to use an AI reference but I really love this hairstyle because I can style it differently on masculine, feminine, enby, or agender days. If it is AI that’s a bummer, but I don’t know how to tell.. I was wondering if anybody here can tell if it is or not. I dislike that we have gotten so far in society where we wonder these things.

This is the hairstyle I want: https://pin.it/59B9TTLtf

(One of my friends pointed this one out in the compilation I sent him and I’ve been eyeing this pin ever since I first came across it). I looked at the creator of this pin and some of their created pins look like AI and some don’t which is kind of sketchy.

Since I put that I’ll also share the one I did last time which I really liked: https://pin.it/6sr9VUdTZ

So I recently started noticing how i really feel and how i feel about other people and how people identify me. Sometimes i feel like im rlly connected to being female (i am afab) and sometimes not so much, but then sometimes not at all. I also feel like sometimes it would be cool to be a guy and i feel like a guy in slim chances of time yet i still like makeup, doing stuff with my hair, and i sometimes dress girly. I usually js wear neutral stuff or its leaning into girly but i don't ever feel confident in anything i wear, my name, being referenced as a girl, how my hair is and such. I absolutely love my hair at times and sometime i want it rlly short. ive been doing some digging and i feel like I could be girlflux but then again there are slim times where i feel like a guy.

My parents are unsupportive of any lgbtq and would literally kill me and kick me out if they found out i wasn't just a normal teenage girl. I use she/her and they/them pronouns since those are what i feel comfortable with but idk anymore. I have like 3 people to talk to about this and 2 of them aren't very okay with it all and would tell my parents.

I am attracted to both males and females but i don't feel satisfied mentally and like full with either. Ive dated both but i js wasn't happy either way so im not sure what that means. Am i going crazy or is this something that has an explanation??

(this is my first post like this, so bear with me if it's confusing or longwinded. lol.)

I might be genderfluid or genderqueer.

I have, recently, began questioning my gender again, and from what I've seen that seems to be a constant/reoccurring thing with people under the genderfluid label.

The reason I've started questioning again is because I started feeling less like a 'woman' than i have in the last ~2 years. Looking through some of my private posts have also had me realize during one of my question phases i presented differently than i do now.

I *know* labels aren't all super important or all encompassing but having a labels can help me feel more 'secure' in a sense.

But my questioning of the label comes from my lack of connection to being perceived/referred to as a man. While not opposed to I don't often feel that and I haven't felt that way in quite a few years.

so, I have a few questions:
- how did you 'know'?
- how does genderfluid 'flow'? is it day-by-day or can it be over longer stretches of time (months to potentially years) --this is my biggest point of confusion.
- how did you choose a name that felt right? (all name recommendations for neutral names are mostly earthy or element based which is not what I'm looking for lol)
- how do you cope/deal with dysphoria/questioning?
- is it normal to resonate less with specific sides of the gender spectrum?

(will edit if i have anymore questions)

Hi! I’d just like to know how you deal with you hair… I mean, when I feel a boy I want to have short hair (which I have, naturally; I’m amab btw), but when I feel a girl I’d like to have longer hair… I don’t think there can be something in between: I really want something different rather I feel a boy or a girl… So ofc I looked for a wig, I got one, but it really felt weird when I tried it: I’d like to know if anyone here got the same feeling, and if it is with wigs in general or just because I had a bad one (it seems to btw) and if you use wigs, where do you get them… thx in advance ;3

As the title says, I've been through corners here and there myself. First it was tomboy, trans, non-binary then demigirl and now genderfluid, I just cant pick and I don't wanna decide much on my gender so i ended up with genderfluid

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