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You can only give when your own 🧠 cup is full. Self-Love - Exploring the self - Your mind 🧠 Your inner universe.

This song gives a great explanation! The Healer by Londrelle ft. Naomi the Goddess. Walk into your power.

Why does she asked to be healed, when the song is about filling your cup and keeping it full from within? đź’­

True power and truth is in pouring into your own cup. 🪬

Your inner universe is your mind 🧠 the frequency of your mind's creations - happy/healthy or sad/unhealthy; is your frequency, and manifestation. The self 🧠. As your mind is the one that's tapped into frequencies, hence spirit. This realm is mind created, the rest is illusionatory.

Being inspirational is high frequency. Being a dream.

I am affirmations, for yourself.

Raise your frequency, be happy/self-focus/self-love to create. How you feel, is your self-focus. The feeling of happiness is in your self-love feeling/frequency.

Happiness is healthiness. Love yourself/Self-focus.

u/Doimz3Nini — 1 day ago
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The Cycle Ends With Us

One of the hardest truths I've learned is that the pain we don't understand doesn't simply disappear. Instead, it finds another way to make itself known.

For years, I carried anger toward my parents and other important people in my life because of the difficult circumstances I had to endure growing up. I believed my anger was the problem and that if I could just get rid of it, everything would be fine. What I eventually realized, however, was that anger was only what appeared on the surface. Beneath it were hurt, disappointment, fear, and grief for things I felt I needed but never received.

That anger shaped me in ways I didn't fully recognize at the time. I became isolated. I kept people at a distance. I avoided vulnerability and often became evasive. Although I never intended to, there were moments when I hurt others because I was carrying wounds I had not yet learned to confront.

Looking back, I can see that many of my reactions had less to do with the people around me and more to do with unresolved pain from the past. In many ways, I was responding to old wounds while believing I was only reacting to the present.

One insight that deeply resonated with me is that anger is often a form of protection. Just as a wounded animal learns to growl to keep itself safe, people who have been hurt can develop anger, defensiveness, control, or distance as a way of protecting themselves from being hurt again. In this sense, anger isn't always the wound; often, it is the armor protecting it.

The danger is that pain we fail to understand rarely affects only ourselves. When we don't recognize what we're carrying, we unconsciously place it on the people around us.

As a result, others end up feeling the impact of battles they never started, while we continue to view today's situations through the lens of yesterday's hurt.

Time, reflection, and difficult conversations allowed me to better understand my own pain. Not to excuse what happened or erase the past, but to recognize that beneath the anger was someone who simply wanted to feel seen, understood, safe, and loved.

Healing, I learned, isn't about pretending the pain never existed or forcing yourself to forgive before you're ready. Rather, it is about having the courage to sit with the hurt, understand it, and stop letting it dictate how you treat yourself and others.

Because when we don't understand what we're going through, we often end up hurting others along with ourselves. Yet when we begin to understand our pain and face it with compassion instead of judgment, we stop carrying it forward.

And perhaps the greatest gift of healing is that the cycle ends with us.

"So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers."

u/Infinity8Edge — 2 days ago
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Midday bath

When was the last time you gave yourself permission to stop?

Not because you earned it. Not because you finished your to-do list. Not because you were exhausted enough to justify it.

Just because you deserve to exist without constantly producing.

Today, I found myself sitting in a warm bath in the middle of the day.

No celebration. No special occasion. No vacation.

Just me, Epsom salt, a bath bomb, and a decision to choose myself for an hour.

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that rest has to be earned. We convince ourselves that we'll slow down after one more task, one more email, one more accomplishment. But that finish line keeps moving.

Healing isn't always found in grand gestures.

Sometimes healing looks like warm water. Sometimes it smells like lavender. Sometimes it's allowing yourself to be still long enough to hear your own thoughts again.

You don't have to justify caring for yourself.

The world will keep spinning while you fill your cup.

So today, ask yourself:

What would choosing yourself look like if you stopped feeling guilty about it?

Maybe it's a midday bath. Maybe it's a walk. Maybe it's saying "no." Maybe it's simply taking a deep breath before rushing into the next thing.

Whatever it is, let today remind you that your worth has never been measured by your productivity.

Take care of yourself.

The version of you you're becoming deserves it.

u/blk_girls_keeper — 3 days ago
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Does anyone find it exhausting to find like minded people after healing

I’ve been in therapy for four years and now that I’ve been able to heal from a lot of my past traumas for example, my anxious attachment, getting into relationships or even talking to new people is a struggle for me because now I’m unable to accept toxicity. It’s like I instantly rejected it and or toxic people instantly reject me. I’m 26 and I realize that most people my age haven’t done the work that I’ve done so it has become incredibly difficult to find potential partners, I met a girl recently that I really liked only to find out very soon that she had a lot of past trauma and relationship issues (which are not her fault), but this significantly put a spanner in our blossoming relationship. My therapist says that because of this trauma that has been worked through I will be able to see the person I’m supposed to be with, however I fear that it’s gonna take a while because a lot of people have not worked through their own. Which has proven very frustrating for me. Does anyone have any solace that they can provide me in terms of finding a someone or even friends that have worked through their issues and have entered into a more healed space in their life?

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u/Rare-Explanation-886 — 8 days ago
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a sudden breakup, i feel so lost.

(17F) im bi and dated a girl for about 1.5 years, about three days earlier we sorta argued on a super small topic (she was praising a girl who we both cut ties with bcuz we realized she was tryna get in the way of our relationship, she got into an amazing college and my now ex gf was like WOAH DUDE SHE GOT IN THATS SO FREAKING AWESOME she was so hyped up and it didnt sit right with me so i got a lil angry over why she was so happy about her and hence the argument)
but idk what triggered her so much she was like i need a break from you one week long, i tried to ask what exactly happened but she bothered to say nothing she kept getting more and more furious at me the more i tried to insist her that theres no need to take a break we can fix without it, because we always did.
two days in our break she texts me, “i can be friends w you, its not about feelings but i cant be in a relationship.”
with all my power yesterday i called her and tried each and everything to convince her and make her stay. i tried my level best to pursue her. as soon as i was done talking she smiled a lil and it seemed like she’s not gonna leave now everything’s fine.
but in the end she just ended up saying she doesnt want a relationship with me. when i asked why, she said that she doesnt like the amount of seriousness a relationship requires. she mentioned that she’s not serious about her mom dad bcuz no matter what she does they always forgive her, she’s also not serious about her friends cuz they dont expect much from her yk how casual friendships are, and lastly she said that a relationship is where she truly has to be serious about everything and she doesnt want it.
i just dont understand…why all of a sudden?
guys i know for good there is no third person.
p.s. before starting to convince her yesterday, i asked her only one thing, “do you love me?” and she replied with a yes.
i really really dont understand what made her randomly break up with me because lord i was ready to fix everything. i even told her to atleast give us another try but no.
some hours later i asked whats up with her and why she’s suddenly acting like she hates me so much, she said that she’s been feeling drained for quite some time and now she cant do it anymore. she clearly said she doesnt care and doesnt even love anymore, y’all she legit admitted that she used me.
why is all of this so mixed? when i asked her before why did she say that she did love me?
i swear im the type who would do everything to make her feel better but how come i never notice she was drained? she used to joke, say ilys, and talk to me just fine how come she’s drained? and i always tell her to talk to me and tell me if she feels anything off. we were in long dist as of now but ik enough that i can tell when she’s feeling bad and it was clearly not noticeable that she felt drained. i strongly believe she’s lying about this. and had i known from day one she was feeling like this i would’ve definitely done smth to not let her feel like this anymore.
i was ready to fix things even in the last moment yesterday but yes she just left me, and it seems like she’s really fine and doesnt care all of a sudden, she’s posting stories and she’s really..fine.
ik for sure i loved her way more than she did. and the real thing is it’s so hard even though today is just day one. i talked to a friend till 2 am last night so i was quick to fall asleep without crying. later around 6 am i wasnt even half awake but my eyes opened and lord it felt so heavy so unreal so unbelievable and so bad. i just kept tossing and turning and i kept having those lil sleep attacks and all i dreamt of was her coming back. this sucks so bad because i genuinely loved her so much and she left with some absurd reasons of hers. she was so gentle with me she truly made me believe she was the one and yet she left i still dont believe we broke up.
my appetite has been badly affected since three days and i was the biggest foodie ever, i dont get much privacy at home so i’ve been tearing up every 20 minutes and my mom is starting to notice and i GENUINELY cant tell her because my parents arent chill about me being in a relationship. they keep asking whats wrong and it hurts so bad.
college is starting soon and i have zero motivation to look some good ones up on the internet and get myself in them. i have this friend who is almost available for me everytime (the same one i talked to last night) and im beyond thankful that atleast he’s there. nonetheless i feel so blank so hollow and so sad and i lack motivation in doing everything. there is nothing that i find fun anymore.
i dont particularly have hobbies that i can do, nor can i go outside home rn cuz my parents dont let me out alone, i do not want to text her anymore, and we dont follow each other on insta but we havent blocked each other either. i want to make sure from my side there is zero contact.
but god this is so hard. what should i do i legit feel anxious everytime even when im not crying it feels heavy
please help

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u/Ok-Education-3256 — 7 days ago
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One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that capability and responsibility are not the same thing. Just because I can carry something doesn’t mean I should.

u/FlamekeeperCircle — 10 days ago