I had my double embryo transfer (4AA and 4AB) 5 days ago. I tested this afternoon and it was a hard negative. Just wondering when anyone else who had a double transfer (or even single) got their positive after a negative on 5DPT.
Almost everyone around me has had kids. Now it’s pregnancy 1.0, delivery 2.0, naming ceremony 3.0, first birthday 4.0 and the cycle just keeps going. Every other status is pregnancy, baby, ceremony or milestone, and I’m just sitting here wondering when it’s going to be my turn.
After 3 years of infertility, treatments, medications, procedures, injections, transfers, hopes and disappointments, watching people around me get pregnant so easily is becoming really hard.
And yes, sometimes I compare. I see people with PCOS, thyroid issues, weight issues, husbands who smoke, and they somehow get pregnant in their first try. Meanwhile, my husband and I have tried everything we can, done everything right, and still nothing.
I know life doesn’t work on a who deserves it more basis. I know all of that logically.
But emotionally, it still feels incredibly unfair.
I’m not unhappy for them. I’m just heartbroken for myself.
I don’t want their life or their baby. I just want my turn.
And after three years of this, even hoping is starting to feel exhausting.
I don’t even know what I’m looking for by posting this. Maybe I just needed to say it somewhere without having to pretend I’m okay. If you’ve been through this, please tell me I’m not the only one who has felt this way, because right now I could really use some understanding.
Had a frozen egg transfer (day 4 blastocyst) on 30 July, and got a positive pregnancy test at the IVF clinic on 12 August with hCG levels of 1297. My husband and I were thrilled.
Day before yesterday I had some spotting, and then last night passed a fairly large clot with some bright red bleeding. Bleeding stopped quite quickly, but went into the IVF clinic today and the doctor did a (what seemed very quick - only a couple of minutes) transvaginal ultrasound and said he couldn’t see any gestational sac. As a result, he ordered another blood test which showed hCG of 2563. As the hCG had risen he said to continue on with progesterone and estrogen until Friday and then come in for another hCG blood test.
The lack of gestational sac at this stage plus 3.6 day hCG doubling time seems like bad news. I’m also worried about an ectopic although the doctor didn’t even mention that as a possibility.
Don’t know how I’m going to manage my anxiety during the wait until Friday. My doomscrolling today has already been out of control and I’m struggling to focus at work or on anything else 😭
Hi everyone. I had frozen 24 eggs. We thawed 12. We had amazing thaw results and 10 eggs fertilized. Today we found out only 2 made it to day 5 and were able to be frozen. They are doing pgta testing on them as well. We are so confused. My husbands sample is perfect and i thought i had good egg quality ( i dont have pcos or hormonal issues i dont drink or smoke etc) but now im wondering if my egg quality is bad? Or is it bad because my eggs were frozen? I am so confused and shocked at the results. Any advice would be appreciated
Hi everyone! I finally received all my doctor’s orders from CNY after my consultation and I’m honestly a little confused about what happens next 😅
For those who are doing local monitoring in Ohio, especially around North Canton/Canton/Akron/Cleveland, once you received your orders, what did you do next? Did you complete all the testing first and then contact CNY to start a cycle, or did you start treatment right away?
I have orders for baseline ultrasound/bloodwork, a lot of preconception blood tests, HSG and SIS, etc. I’m currently trying to figure out the most affordable places to get everything done locally since my insurance has a high deductible.
Where did you get your bloodwork done ? Labcorp, a hospital, fertility clinic, etc.? And does anyone know somewhere around North Canton/Canton/Akron that does outside-monitoring HSG and SIS at a reasonable price?
Also, please tell me about your HSG/SIS experience 😭 How painful was it? Did you do both in the same cycle, and did you take anything beforehand for the pain?
I’m not quite ready financially to start IVF immediately, so I’m mainly trying to complete the required testing and understand the process so I’m ready when we can start. Any advice on what you did after receiving your CNY orders would really help. ❤️
"Hi everyone! I’m thinking about getting ICSI IVF done at the British Cyprus IVF Hospital. Has anyone here used them before? If you have, I’d love to hear about your experience! Did you get a positive pregnancy test? Also, how many embryos do they usually transfer there? Thanks in advance!"
Hi, I’m 31 F preparing for my first freeze transfer. I have PCOS so I chose a substitute cycle. I’m waiting for more instructions from my fertility clinic, but I want to read your experiences. I’m starting to take birth control pills; it’s part of the plan to transfer!! What Next ?? (Wishing to achieve and finish this process.)
I honestly don’t even know what my point of this post is. Maybe just to vent or get some solidarity. My fiancé and I have been doing IVF. We did a transfer in June and we were so excited that we got pregnant, especially because out of 29 eggs/embryos the only one to survive was the one we transferred. We went for our first ultrasound at 7 weeks 3 days and seen the flicker of the heartbeat. We were so excited. Baby was measuring behind but dr seemed optimistic. We went back the following week and the dr left us feeling confused. Baby had grown adequately but they couldn’t find heartbeat. The resident told us they weren’t sure if it had stopped developing or if the tech was just so new that she had difficulty using the equipment. At this point I of course thought the worst but was annoyed at the dr not preparing us, telling us that “there’s a good chance they just had difficulty and were not counting it a MMC yet.” They referred us to the early pregnancy clinic at the hospital. We went yesterday and unfortunately it was that same damn resident, where we seen that last week the baby did stop developing and at this point the baby was shrivelling up. It felt so wrong and made me feel sick that I could see my baby shrivelling up to nothing. They gave me misoprostol to take which I did last night but I kept putting it off because it felt so real and I felt so wrong doing it but my body wasn’t doing what it needed to do. I’ve been in incredible pain over the night and this morning and every time I go to the bathroom I just cry again and again. I know I’m not the only one to go through this unimaginable pain but I don’t know how to cope. For me it felt worse than a natural miscarriage, I felt like I was doing the thing to lose my baby. I know that’s not true but I’m just struggling so badly with this. I know with time it will make it easier to deal with but right now I’m just so heartbroken.
They want me to go back in 10 days to make sure everything is cleared up but I can’t imagine going back there to the clinic where I got the worst news possible. By the drs with literally no sense of compassion. I honestly don’t know if I will, in my mind if I get any of the signs of infection or feel like somethings off I’d rather go to my local ED than go back there.
Thanks for reading. 🫂