r/NDE

We need more moderators. However; it's important to understand that this sub is heavily moderated, and we have pretty specific rules. There are certain types that come here because they know that NDEs have a kind of unique legitimacy that they can attempt to capitalize on for their own agendas.

The learning curve is a bit steep to learn how to moderate on Reddit to begin with, and more so when there are such specific rules.

When I began moderating, the sub basically consisted of atheists and christians arguing with each other or others in pretty much every post and comment thread. It was a battleground. The reason it's so heavily moderated is to prevent that, for the most part. The other consistent issue that had overrun the sub, though, was suicidal ideation or fear of death (often related, believe it or not).

That being said, however, a great many people with serious mental illness end up coming here as well. We must often ban people with OCD because their compulsions end up spilling onto the entire sub. This is a difficult and deeply painful thing to do if you have compassion and empathy, so moderating here is often not easy.

With these encouraging disclaimers in mind, please let me know if you're willing and interested in putting in the labor and risk the mental health challenges of moderating here, lol. Cheerful this morning, aren't I? :P

We have one pending new moderator already, u/Eastern-Peach-3428 and I would like to start a new 'team' or group of moderators to learn together. Onboarding just one at a time adds to the difficulties, and it's good to have each other to turn to and discuss moderation questions together.

Thank you for reading, and please modmail us if you are interested. Ideal candidates will be willing to enforce the rules, so familiarizing yourself with all of them before volunteering would be an excellent idea.

Near-death experience that I experienced during my catastrophic motorcycle collision: it felt like having this strange sensation that something was on your face bothering you while you were alone in the house, yet there was nothing actually wrong with your face. Then someone removes the VR headset from you, and you suddenly realise that the “reality” or life we live is inside that headset, but only about 5% of actual reality exists inside this VR — aka the life we live compared to the post-death reality.

Outside of it, you exist in this overwhelming state of love, peace, and abundance. Then, when you’re brought back (CPR or otherwise), you kind of understand that you need to put this terrible 5% reality VR headset back on again in order to return. Once you return, you realise there are no real words capable of describing the remaining 95% that feels missing from the life we live here.

This is also a phenomenon where a lot of people who have experienced NDEs end up depressed or didn’t want to return. Some people have even sued healthcare providers or others who saved their lives with CPR, for example. Even people who have partners and kids, and explicitly say they love their family and would do anything for them, have said that after experiencing an NDE they wanted to stay on the other side and didn’t want to come back. That has nothing to do with how their lives are, but because it feels like you traversed into this next reality and just want to stay there and understand more.

Could it be that NDE of ancient people gave rise to religious believes?

Ive started trying to believe in an afterlife as it would bring me comfort and a feeling of safety in this scary world but Ive always been a doubtful person even if I dont want to be

My biggest worry with NDEs is how some stories can be different or tell different things. Not that anyone lies about what they experience but I worry that it points to it being different because its simply just the brain doing whatever it can or thinks it should and hallucinating. And maybe thats why some people dont experience anything either and just "fall asleep". One argument I saw that comforted me was that people who have NDEs are "dead" for longer before having been brought back but I have no evidence of that since its just what I saw some commenter say

And I was just wondering what the general belief is/story is. I know people mention life reviews a bit but I was wondering if theres any agreed upon view of what the afterlife is like, how it works and so on. Like are we still individuals? Do we sleep? I like playing video games, is that possible? What can we do? Im sorry if any of these questions appear disrespectful, I promise im asking sincerely. I have a girlfriend who I adore and ive been worried about growing old one day and having our last day together one day, and Id like to believe or know that even if we have a last day it wont be forever

So I want to preface this by saying I don’t know if what I experienced technically qualifies as an NDE, because as far as I know I wasn’t dying. But the overlap with what I keep reading in this community is too specific to ignore, and I genuinely want to understand what happened to me.I was twelve years old. Came home from school like any normal day, took a nap like I usually did at that time. Except this was nothing like any nap I’d ever taken before or since.

I found myself floating in a complete void. Endless blackness in every direction. No ground, no light, no sound, nothing. And I was conscious within it not dreaming in the usual scattered way, but actually aware, present, experiencing it in real time.

Here’s the part that still gets me when I think about it: I felt absolutely no fear. None. And logically, that makes no sense. You’re floating in the absence of everything no body, no reference point, no anchor to anything familiar. Every instinct should be screaming. Instead I felt this profound peace and serenity. Like a deep, settling calm that I hadn’t felt before and honestly haven’t felt since. It’s hard to describe without it sounding cliché, but the closest I can get is it felt like I was exactly where I was supposed to be. Like returning somewhere.Then, far off in the distance, I heard a single deep echoing heartbeat. And it literally jolted me out of whatever state I was in. I woke up gasping like a huge involuntary breath, the kind that scared my mother who was nearby. Then I just… went back to sleep like nothing happened.

I didn’t think much of it as a kid beyond it being a weird dream. But as an adult I started doing some research trying to make sense of it, and I kept landing on NDE accounts. People describing the void. The absence of fear where fear should be overwhelming. The feeling of peace and belonging in nothingness. The sound or sensation that pulls them back. It was too consistent to dismiss.

So my question is has anyone experienced something like this outside of a clinical near death situation? A nap, a meditation, anything? Because I genuinely don’t know what happened to me that afternoon. I wasn’t dead, as far as anyone knows. But something crossed a threshold that day that felt like a lot more than a dream.

If we can see a way someone can improve, should we tell them? Humans are notoriously resistant to be told what to do. Can we only learn for ourselves? What have people learned about this in NDEs...

My husband and parents LOVE ME so much, but I am very sensitive, and sometimes the way they speak with me makes me feel hurt. Should I ask them to think about the tone they use? They are also very sensitive and I don't want to hurt them. I want us all to love each other 😄 we already do, but to make sure we say things in a nice way... or should I just be less sensitive and think about their intention and what they mean by what they're saying.

I suppose it has to be said in the moment ie. "Maybe say this, instead of this" and calmly and succinctly so as to not make a big deal of it. But I also feel I have a lot from my childhood I want to "get over" such as being around a stressful environment and being called names a few times and I want to tell them so they know how I felt and I can get it off my chest, and granted I have to improve, too! I want us all to be happy, and maybe I should just move on, but I feel I might have to get it off my chest in order to move on?

If you think we reincarnate, then do we always reincarnate in present time or do we sometimes reincarnate in the past. Like, sometime in ancient times or sometime in history. Or maybe sometime in the far future. Or do we always reincarnate during the time right after our previous reincarnation.

Moody said that what NDErs consistently report is that on the other side everything is love and information/knowledge.

The love part I kind of get cause every NDE account talks about it and we've heard it a thousand times.

But about information? What does Moody mean by information/knowledge?

Because here, in this world, we also have information everywhere all the time. More than any human being in history has ever had access to (podcasts, channels, books, experts, studies, etc) and yet we don't seem wiser.

Genuinely curious. Thanks!

Wouldn't it teach you to want to love the other person even if they don't fully share your views? See it as a challenge?

Lately I've been reading a lot about nde experiences and dmt experiences.

Both make one leave the body and enter some kind of new dimension but nde suggests individuality and pure love, while dmt often suggests the loss of individuality and joining the source, or even worse I've read reports of people who had encounters with evil beings who take advantage of us which has led to some very horrible theories I've read.

What's the take of this, what's the common consensus?

I'm looking for reports verified in some manner from a trusted source. I don't have anything against this sub, it would just be easier to have a list to work down that I can use for arguments.

What was your experience? What did you see? What are your thoughts or feelings about life and death now?

So I am at the stage where I really want to believe in NDEs, the concept of consciousness being separate from the brain, the multiverse… I don’t know.

I have watched a lot of near death experiences over the decade and what started out as a lot of authentic stories have now become AI generated and “out there” stories. I am now finding it hard to connect to these experiences.

One nagging issue that bothers me about consciousness being separate from the body is… I have been put under in the hospital multiple times. If consciousness is separate from the body, is there a reason why I don’t dream or have any awareness? Why is everything just shut down and a lack of awareness?

I commonly see NDErs claim that they saw deceased loved ones (e.g., family, friends, pets) and that these bonds are eternal. This was very comforting at first, and it's still what I want to believe, but after digging deeper I've found conflicting NDEs.

Some claim Earth relationships don't matter and that we're just going to merge with a homogeneous blob once we die, and/or all relationships are the same. Your relationship with a beloved parent, sibling, or child (whether biological or adopted) is apparently as meaningful as your relationship with an abuser/bully because "we're all one." Being taken away from your family and plopped in with strangers every time you reincarnate also seems kinda cruel to me.

I don't understand why a universal mind and individual souls need to be mutually exclusive. Souls could be distinct waves while still being part of the same ocean. I think you can have greater affinity towards certain souls while having cosmic unity.

I've seen many NDErs affirm that they felt like they were one with everything while still being themselves and retaining relationships with their loved ones eternally, even relatives that they've never met in their current/latest life. Again, it is common, but it isn't ubiquitous across all experiences.

If god/source and souls are eternal and transcend time, then I don't understand why bonds between certain souls (i.e., soul tribes/families) can't be. Do your loved ones just skedaddle after welcoming you to the afterlife?

I constantly dread the universe (or god/source, whatever you want to call it) separating me from my loved ones forever and this is one of the many inconsistencies that make me skeptical of non-veridical NDEs.

Or rather... the purpose of losing people. They say it's "the natural order of things..."

I keep seeing that they are a product of gamma waves surging through the default mode network but I'm skeptical because drugs like DMT do the same thing but without the common theme of someone saying it's time to go back or it's not your time.

Does anyone know of any movies that touch on the topics of NDEs or life after death?

To clarify, when I refer to "veridical NDE," I'm talking about a case where someone sees or hears something they couldn't have possibly known while having zero brain activity. There have been many such cases recorded, but none in an official scientific study, which is why scientists and philosophers don't take them seriously.

Some people claim that the failure of the AWARE studies to provide any veridical NDEs is already proof that they're fake, but I think it's way too soon to claim that, given how small the sample sizes are. AWARE I only had 15 hospitals and AWARE II only had 25 hospitals.

Let's say in a hypothetical scenario that there's a study with 1,000+ hospitals. How long do you think it would take for a veridical NDE to be officially spotted? How many veridical NDEs would it take to convince skeptics to stop dismissing them as hallucinations of a dying brain? They could perhaps dismiss a couple of cases of people getting the targets right as lucky guesses, but after dozens or hundreds of times, it stops being a coincidence or "statistical noise."

Unfortunately, a study like this probably isn't feasible, due to the bias against NDEs and ethical concerns.

Especially when there are so many commonalities like meeting deceased loved ones, feeling a sense of oneness with the world, and having a voice calling them back.

Do you think the afterlife realm evolves? perhaps our ancestors experienced a different afterlife than we will? Or it’s changing and by the time we get there it’s a little different than when they went? or since time isn’t linear there maybe the concept of evolution isn’t applicable?