r/RealRadfem

This is such an odd thing to say since I was born a woman. Women are seen as less valid or important to men and it plays out with the way that we have to cater and coddle to the Party City wig and Fashion Nova dress wearing men. Their experience as women is more valid than ours. Women have no idea what it’s like to be women. Only they do. Which feels so incredibly invalidating. Woman’s experiences, feelings, and our overall womanhood means nothing since their experiences are more valid and meaningful than ours. It’s madness. If you don’t agree with them then they say very violent things about what should happen to women who don’t agree. Resorting to violence. Very on brand. Even with all the shit that we go through and will continue to go through. I love being a woman!

hello! im 20f, have been a feminist all my life, growing more and more radical as i aged. i read theory, consider myself a gender abolitionist, am pursuing university education.
my opinions are all in order and i believe in them, but going outside makes me realise that nothing will ever achieve any significant change during our lifetimes.

i was watching a random movie (the last duel 2021) and i was just so overcome with hopelessness. its been known to be a more “feminist” movie (obviously in a very liberal and surface-level way) but it just filled me with rage.

its set during charles vi’s france, so a period piece. but how is life much different when in courts women are still told that “if it was truly rape, the female body has ways of shutting down” (actual thing that i heard happen a few years ago, and im drawing a parallel to a priest in the movie telling the heroine that “since she got pregnant, which she can only do if she experiences pleasure, there was no way it was rape. rape cannot cause pregnancy”)

one less radical than me might argue that “its good that these movies exist because it raises awareness”. to what? most people would watch it and say “thank god times are better now”.

i just wish the planet got insta nuked. no significant change is going to happen during our lifetimes, not when every single thing in the world is working against us. no matter how much i mind my business and live a good life, anything can happen at any time at the hands of a man. no matter how successful i might become, it wont matter for womens liberation in the long run.

how do you manage these deep feelings of hopelessness? genuine question i need advice

Cis women have beauty and joy that almost makes me tear up, it's so expansive and I think a lot of Trans people base their womanhood on struggles and trauma. They probably think "I was 5 years old and I was in a wrong body" ha-ha-ha. Your transness is not your ability to sexually assault through penetration.

So how bout that huh. Do they even understand how absolutely skewed their shit sounds? I'm so glad women are waking up and hopefully this insane virtue signaling circus will calm down a bit.

Anyone else excited by this? Ever since the Drew stuff, I'm getting loads of TikToks on my FYP of women realising they have issues with the trans movement and aren't actually as accepting as they previously thought. I'm seeing videos with hundreds of thousands of likes and positive comments. I feel like previously we've been relegated to Twitter lol so I feel hopeful!

I've been seeing com girls get made fun of on my feed and it feels highly misogynistic, at least from the men, they're more prone to hating on anything female related anyways, however when I take a closer look, I feel as though the makeup itself is a little problematic, am I over analyzing this or are *some* east asian sub cultures or sub cultures inspired by them rooted in pedophilic beauty standards? It feels like they so desperately want to achieve this neotenous youthful look that it's no longer age appropriate, it feels as though choice feminists and women in general are defending it without realising that it's pushing harmful pedophilic standards on us.

Besides, a good chunk of this sub-culture takes inspiration from weirdos like belle delphine...

is anyone else finding trouble with accepting the excuses TIM/F have when women say they’re not interested in being called cis? they call it a scientific term that isn’t offensive and we should just bend the knee and accept it. which is oddly reminiscent of when they’re called their sex observed at birth. but always have qualms with it. it’s very much just circular logic and linguistically policing women. even if it isn’t offensive to be called cis im not interested in being called it. i thought we were all for identifying in any way we chose? or is that limited to a certain demographic…

I didn't expect for this subreddit to actually reach people, I don't usually open reddit, but this sight of radfems in here makes me happy as the usual thing in reddit is that these spaces get taken down and a new rape subreddit is put up with no issues ! How wonderful reddit. Even now, some TIM tried to report a post for "harrasment", well that's not happening !

As I see there are people here, I will start moderating this place for as long as I can, drop recommendations you want for the subreddit !

I haven’t posted here before so do let me know if this is not an appropriate post for this sub and I will delete!

For context I am F25 and have identified as a feminist essentially my entire life, being raised by a woman who is a radical feminist has meant that I have always been super aware of the issues that affect women under the patriarchy. Whilst my feminism has always centred around women, I have also been sympathetic to transgender women as well (I cannot deny their struggles etc but do believe that their lived experience differs to that of our own).

Since the Drew Afualo stuff came out I do have to say that it has been some food for thought for me as I did feel offended when that woman stated “trans women have a more beautiful experience of womanhood”. To me I find this totally misogynistic and offensive and was really upset to hear it as I felt as though it has discounted my own experience as a woman in favour of people whose womanhood is learned.

I have been on Reddit reading about people’s reactions and stumbled across a specific subreddit for some members of the trans community and was seriously shocked to see the way they speak about us on there. Calling us “cissoids”, using other names for us and just general nastiness. It really upset me to see as I have historically been supportive of trans people in my day to day life as well as on the internet but it does feel as though they do not respect us whatsoever. Coming to this realisation has been really hard. Has anyone else gone from being a trans supporter to being more cynical? I would be interested to know.

The term might have originated as in-group slang but it now seems to be a mainstream way to refer to a Trans woman. It feels like mockery at this point. Dolls are exaggerated, idealised toys of beauty standards, a caricature of a woman. For children. And frankly, it feels very objectifying for Trans women and women alike.

A doll is a stylized, often sexualized or infantilized representation of a woman, something manufactured to look like the ideal rather than the reality. Applying that word to males who identify as women imply that “woman” itself is a look, a performance, or a constructed ideal rather than the adult human female.

When a label centers extreme beauty standards, “plastic” perfection, or surface femininity, it reduces womanhood to aesthetics and artifice. It just keeps the consensus alive that to be a woman is to perform for the male gaze, not just individual males, but the indomitable expectation-based surveillance of how much women have to self-submit. It's misogynistic.

As transphobic women, you are not being the feminists you think you are. A big part of feminism is about seeing women, and people in general, as more than their sex, more than their autonomy, more than their reproductive organs. You being against trans women directly goes against that, as you are literally boiling down someone to their autonomy. You are basing someone’s identity on their genitals, which is the opposite of what you are fighting for for cis women.

Sincerely, an actual feminist.

Even in r/news of sexual assault reports men will be cracking sexual jokes about the victim and it will have tons of support, meanwhile if you say ‘this isn’t funny, it’s deeply misogynistic and gross’ you’ll be downvoted heavily. The culture hasn‘t changed as much as people who hate ‘woke’ believe.

the more i grow,the more i have an ick for pornography and the concept of people learning sex from pornography.

pornography exists from a man's point of view,hetero or gay. not female.

our concept porn exist because the woman s body Is the product.

i would like to live my sexual pleasure like a man does.

i would like to doing whatever i want and have free will with my sexual life.

but men with this mentality Just see women bodies as a product.

Just because i have a woman body i feel punished,i feel like men will just see me as a chicken leg.

a weird thing i noticed Is that in porn the exciting element Is Always the incapacity of women to have agency with their desires. sub,dom,every form,Is like the "powerful" move from a man is making them doing what they want. i feel like Is more a form of Power.

also the thing i hate the MOST Is the sexualization of lesbian/bisexual women. like being bisexual or lesbian means having no boundaries with them and seeing that just as a show(of Power,obviously) for a man's gaze.

i am sad because i hate the fact that a lot of men i met maybe saw me as a product as men see women in porn and they never get empathy with women.

Hi!
I’m a 22yo lesbian from Belgium(Liège), and I feel so isolated because all lgbtq/feminist spaces are dominated by the gender/trans ideology😔
I would like to connect with other lesbians/radfems, ideally not to far away from me, so feel free to comment or DM!
(Only French and English speaking, sorry).
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