r/SFWr4rIndia

Anyone up for a chat about random stuff? Are you able to handle having a conversation with people who have different beliefs than you do without getting defensive or attacking? I'm drunk and bored. No adult activities for sure. Just a human looking for a new platonic friend. I like talking about art, new age spirituality, occult stuff, a bit of psychology and a tiny bit of philosophy? And i believe. In aliens, higher purpose and whatnot. I watch tarot readings and read tarot for myself. Though I don't know how to read them. I just read from the guide book. But i believe. In a lot of stuff. After 13 years of being an atheist. Lo que en los libros no está, la vida te enseñará.

Hi! This is a little different from my previous post.

I'm 20 and currently studying law. Between exams and trying to get my life back on track, I'm not looking to rush into a serious relationship. I'd rather let something develop naturally if it feels right.

Over the past few months, I've realized I'm naturally drawn to people who are a little older than me. I admire emotional maturity, patience, kindness, and people who enjoy making their partner feel safe and cared for.

I guess the dynamic I'm curious about is what people jokingly call "princess treatment" not in a materialistic sense, but emotionally. I like the idea of someone who's affectionate, reassuring, protective (without being controlling), and enjoys expressing care through little things.

To be clear, I'm not looking for anything sexual or transactional. I'm looking for a wholesome connection built on kindness, communication, and mutual respect.

A little about me:

I'm a law student.

I love singing, journaling, horror and thriller movies, fantasy, history, religion, documentaries, and reading whenever my ADHD cooperates.

I'm a little awkward at first (ADHD + a touch of autism), but I'm very affectionate once I feel comfortable.

What I'm looking for:

Someone preferably 25+ (not a strict requirement—we might click regardless).

Emotionally mature and a good communicator.

Kind, patient, and emotionally available.

Someone who enjoys building a connection slowly.

Consistency matters more to me than texting 24/7.

I do have a bit of a soft spot for Tamil guys and the culture, but that's just a preference, not a requirement. I'm happy to talk to people from anywhere if we genuinely get along.

Physical attraction matters to me, so I'd be happy to exchange pictures fairly early if we both decide we'd like to keep talking.

If we become friends, that's wonderful. If something romantic develops naturally, that's great too. I'm simply looking to meet someone genuine and see where life takes us.

If you message me, please tell me a little about yourself like your age, where you're from, what you do, your hobbies, and anything else you'd like me to know. A message with more than just "hi" will definitely catch my attention.

Edit : since people are Askin for the city/ location From J&K

Three years in Bangalore, and in that time my entire friend group has either moved abroad or gotten married and vanished into domestic bliss. So my social circle is currently a dot, and I'd like to upgrade it to at least a triangle.

(If this post feels vaguely familiar, yes, I've tried this before. Quitting isn't really my genre. Stubbornness is.)

The essentials first: 29M, looking for friends, just the kind of friendship that comes with inside jokes and "reached?" texts. Any gender, and online friends count too. I live in Whitefield but will happily travel to Indiranagar, MG Road or HSR, or heck, anywhere for a hang. Work is hybrid with a lot of late-night calls, which weirdly keeps my evenings and weekends free. Introvert-leaning: I warm up fast, but I'm more "long conversation at a quiet café" than "club at midnight."

If that's enough to go on, the how-to-message part is at the bottom. If you want the full story, read along! It's worth it.

I cook when life gets messy. Some people journal; I dice onions at 11pm like I have a personal vendetta (they started it, they've made me cry for years). The problem is I only know how to cook for six, so my fridge has leftovers with leftovers and my neighbours have started handing me empty tupperware unprompted. Recent output includes tonkotsu ramen with hand-cut noodles, a pho broth I'm fairly sure cures colds and at least one existential crisis, and brownies I openly use as bribes. Sourdough starter attempt #6 is sitting on top of my fridge right now like a small judgmental pet, silently evaluating my life choices. If it survives, you can have a slice. You'll have to earn it.

My camera roll is three categories: plants doing plant things, food I made because emotions exist, and my cat. Her name is Yuumi, and she picks her food up from her plate and carries it across the room so she can eat next to me, wherever I'm sitting. I don't know what I did to deserve this. I ask no questions.

The plants deserve their own paragraph. I walk into a nursery for one pot and leave with four, a bag of soil, and a vague sense of financial irresponsibility. I cheer for new leaves like India just hit a six. I'm also attempting hydroponics, current status: cautiously optimistic, frequently confused, deeply committed.

Music is a big one. A lot of indie and indie pop (Beach Bunny, Bleachers, Bloc Party, Passion Pit, Royel Otis), plus a Japanese rock phase I did not see coming (Vaundy, Aojiroi Tsuki). I maintain too many playlists, including several variants of "why does this song hit so hard at 3am." If we become friends, one of them will end up named after you. Not a threat, a promise.

Otherwise: badminton, football, gym, and I recently got into running, so if you want a sports buddy who actually shows up, hi. PS5 co-op too (currently Clair Obscur: Expedition 33, forever RDR2, League of Legends (i am terrible at it tho) ). I'm chill on voice, zero toxicity, we laugh even when we lose. There's a trek bucket list (Goechala, Sandakphu, someday the Inca Trail) that badly needs an accountability partner. Trivia nights, yes. Board game cafés, keen to try. Social drinker, happy either way.

I read a fair bit and I write letters to friends, to my future self. If you write anything at all, hand me your draft or your 3am scribble and I'll treat it like it matters, because it does. I hoard boarding passes and old stamps like tiny anchors to memory, and I will not be accepting decluttering advice. I also attempt crosswords, rage-quit them, and return days later like nothing happened. Respect my journey.

Movies: too many to pick favourites, so ask me instead. Shows-wise I bounce between Silo, FROM, Widow Bay, Final Space, Adventure Time (yes, the kids' cartoon, and yes, I'll defend it as a grown man), and something literally called Platonic Friends, which feels thematically appropriate here. For calibration: crunchy peanut butter is superior to smooth, and the British Office is better than the American one. Rebuttals accepted in DMs.

As for what I'm actually like: golden-retriever energy with a factory-installed introvert reboot mode. I'll hype your tiny wins like they're grand finales (drank water today? standing ovation). I think comfortable silence is a feature, not a bug. I remember details, so the thing you mentioned three conversations ago will come back up not to be creepy, but because I was listening. I'm a night owl, so if you're having a 4am wobble, I'm statistically likely to be awake. And I don't ghost. I'd rather hear "I'm not feeling it" than silence, and I'll give you the same courtesy. If we share the city, I'm the "I'll be there in 20" friend. Minus the shovel. Unless you think the shovel joke is funny, in which case: kidding. Mostly.

A first hang would just be coffee or chai somewhere public, 30–45 minutes, zero pressure. If it clicks, next time it's badminton or a run or a bookshop crawl or trivia or PS5, whatever we're both into. Once we're properly past the stranger phase, there's an espresso machine and an alarming amount of home-cooked food at my place with your name on it. I'm also toying with starting a standing Sunday-evening chai table at some café, a third-place kind of thing, if that appeals.

If you DM me, please skip "hey" and tell me roughly where you are, one thing you're obsessed with lately, and the one food you'd delete from existence (mine is bitter gourd and lauki, and I've made peace with that). Or just comment something and I'll message you first. Slip the word cinnamon in somewhere so I know you actually read this far.

I'm not trying to collect DMs. I want 2–5 friendships that actually stick, the slow kind, built on effort, memes at inadvisable hours, and making Tuesdays feel a little less like Tuesdays. Cat pics and brownie proof available on request.

TL;DR: 28M, Whitefield, will travel for friendship. Cooks too much, cat carries her food across the room to co-dine, plays badminton and PS5, hoards playlists, wants 2–5 real friends who don't ghost.

Hello there, I hope your weekend is going good. Just about nice and quiet for me, chilling to myself drinking and smoking up to enjoy the quiet all to myself. Could talk about any random interesting gossips going on in your life since it's just rather boring and monotonous in mine, which I'm fine with but interesting gossips help. Feel free to message if ya got anything

I am not very happy about life and I feel tired as things are not going as planned. That's why I am here looking for someone to talk to. I am a software engineer and I like reading books, playing badminton, and of course occasionally some Js. Please don't send anything creepy and try to be interesting and introduce yourself at least.

Ciao

Share your secrets which you haven't shared with anyone yet. It can be a dumb decision you made, a wrong partner you trusted, or something else. Something which you wanna share, but can't, use the anonymity, and spill. I don't judge, i don't make fun of you (expect a little banter). I am all ears.

I'm just bored at night and wanna hear some interesting experiences.

Please no just "hi" DMs

Hi there!

I am a male 27 from Delhi.
Professionally, a software engineer and in my free time I play games, read books, doomscroll. I also like to travel and go to a trip every one or two months. I have been procrastinating my fitness journey so bingo if you are into fitness and can give me that required push towards it OR you are also struggling with accountability of getting into that dream shape you always imagined, then We both can help each other.

I am looking for someone between the age of 21-27. A companion to share my daily chit chats. Do a little flirting. A lot of banter. And some emotional talks at those 2AM nights. And also someone who brings a playful energy with her. I hope you understand?

This can develop into something more serious or we can become the best buddies. I remain open to whatever turn this thing takes between us. If you’re not then let me know in the initial text itself so that it’s clear from the start.

What I can give you? If I have to tell the best things then I can be the shoulder you can rely on every situation from the best to the worst. I am like the Toyota/VW of friendship. 😂

Anyway, let’s chat more in the DMs and get to know each other. 👋

I’m 24, based in Mumbai, and honestly just feeling a bit lonely right now. Not in a desperate, save-me kind of way. Just… in a human way. The way you feel when you’ve had enough of shallow chats and one-line DMs. So I’m trying something in the hope that someone decent, warm and emotionally available might be reading.

I’m NOT looking for married folks or people in relationships. And I’m not into Hidden or NSFW profiles either (I won’t engage with NSFW at all). If you’re under 23 and over 30, I wish you well but please skip this post.

What am I looking for? Someone who:

• is 23- 30
• lives Mumbai (No MAKABO and Goregaon pls; it's already tiring that I have to go to office that side). If you are from Thane or Navi Mumbai....forget it, y'all are basically villagers and gonna get ignored.
• is emotionally mature and introspective
• likes talking, like actual talking
• might want to meet in person eventually, because I do crave real-world connection, not just chat buddies (Im not gonna meet you today itself so stop coming up with bike ride, cafe, trek plans)
• doesn’t smoke

I’m not opposed to something romantic developing, but I’m also not jumping into any conversation with a checklist. Going in with a “let’s see what unfolds” energy.

Please, no “hi” or “wanna chat?” messages. Put some thought into your first message, tell me a little bit about you, and I’ll show up with the same energy.

I write long-ish messages and care about emotional alignment. I don’t want to feel like I’m performing cool-girl detachment when what I really want is intense-girl connection.

I might take this post down later. This is a soft moment. If you’re kind, chatty, emotionally available and live in Mumbai… say hi. Properly.

Be genuine instead of just trying to pic points from my post and telling me that you satisfy my requirements.

If you have dmd, and not getting a response. (Well that should be self explanatory for a smart person)

21F, based in Delhi NCR. Ambitious, about to start working, currently juggling a busy life , so heads up, I’m not the type to text 24/7. When I’m free though, I actually show up.

Looking for a guy from Delhi NCR only, slightly older than me, educated, well-read, working in corporate. Finance background is a plus but not a dealbreaker, just need you to have your life together and be genuinely decent. Bonus if you’re into fitness/gym like someone who takes care of themselves. Additionally would like to have an accountability partner.

This is for IRL connection, not a texting pen-pal situation. I want someone I can actually go out with, vibe with, build something with over time — not a situationship that’s all talk and no plans, but also not looking for anything overly serious right away. Think: consistent, real, growing organically.

If you’re driven, grounded, fit, and can match a busy-but-intentional energy so let’s talk.

Also please don’t introduce yourselves with a hey or hi or hello, basic intro about you or what you like or what you do or anything which is non monotonous

I’m looking to form a connection with someone that means as something.
I’m looking for an irl friend, so please mention your city when you message me. If we’re not in the same city, you should be open for travelling to meet once in a while.

About me, I’m currently in college. I am simple, calm and fun loving person.
I’m looking for someone over 25. Please mention your age too when you text me. Age and city and languages you speak.

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Hi there! I'm S, I'm an afab enby person from hyd, based in blr, my pronouns are she/they. I'm just looking for a wholesome relationship / friendship (with a fellow ace preferably) that's non-judgmental and accommodative of the fact that I'm an asexual. Google the term if you don't know what it means, that's all I ask :)

I love reading, art, design, pop culture etc..i consider myself an intersectional feminist. I'm (very) neurodivergent, I just got my AuDHD diagnosis. That's a little about me, DM if you think we'd vibe :)

Hey everyone! I’m a 37-year-old Muslim woman, born and raised in India, currently living in Canada and working as a doctor. Divorced with no kids. Soon moving back to Delhi to be with family. I enjoy working out, cooking, traveling, and watching football. Looking to connect with someone mature, preferably based near Delhi. I am an introvert so prefer the man to initiate the conversations. As far as partner is concerned I am looking for someone who is mature, into fitness and knows what he wants in life.

Hola!

I’m looking for someone who can hold a conversation, extroverted and adventurous. I enjoy all things old school and would prefer someone mature.

About me:
-Work wise I run a couple of businesses, and I’m very passionate about starting a few more in the near future. I’d love to talk shop with someone who’s entrepreneurial as well.

-I travel a lot for my work and enjoy every minute of it.

-I love driving and am quite the petrol head in that sense. I do a lot of weekenders and geek out over cars. Definitely not a passenger princess.

-I’m a Christian and would love to interact with more people of my faith.

What I’m looking for is:
Someone who’s 28 and up, stays in Mumbai and is a great conversationalist. These are kinda non-negotiable for me.

If this is something that catches your interest send me your current favourite song and we’ll take it from there.

Hello!

I'm 28F and I'm looking for a book, anime, and movie buddy.

These are probably my three biggest passions. I honestly don't care about the genre, language, or country of origin. As long as it's a good story I'm in.

Unfortunately, I am struggling with some mental health issues, and it has made it much harder to stay consistent with reading. I still love books just as much, but I often end up buying them faster than I can finish them. So I'm looking for someone who'll actually read with me and hold me accountable.

I mostly read literary fiction, classics, fantasy, thrillers, and horror, but I'm always open to exploring other genres. I enjoy manga, too. I have no genre preference in movies. But my usual go-to genres are animation, fantasy, thriller, drama, romance, adventure, comedy, horror, sci-fi and true crime documentaries.

It would be fun to read the same book or manga, have reading sprints, discuss our thoughts, recommend books, watch 1–2 movies every week, maybe a few anime episodes too, and simply geek out over great stories together.

If you decide to message me, don't just say "Hi." Tell me about yourself, your favorite book and movie, and what you're currently reading or watching.

Hopefully, I'll find someone who's just as passionate about stories as I am.

I feel stuck in my life both personally and professionally.

If it matters, I'm a 3rd year med student. I'm into

philosophy, appreciating different cultures, trying

different cuisines of food, although my favorite is Desi

chinese, idk if that's even a thing

I'm not looking for a relationship. Just someone who I

could talk to every day and be friends with. It's been a

long time since I've had friends. People in med school

suck. I absolutely hate people here.

The last movie I watched was voicemails to Isabelle. Do

hit me up if you think we've something to talk about.

Hello there, I hope you're doing good. Just about alright for me, boring night watching tv and drinking and smoking with the rainy weather outside. Got nothing to do, mm l gonna work from home tomorrow so can stay up late talking about random gossips ya got going on in your life. Feel free to message me about it :-)

I think I might be fundamentally incompatible with modern dating.. I don't really understand how people look at a profile, exchange six messages and decide whether they're interested. I need lore. I need context. I need to know what weird rabbit holes you disappear into at 1 am!

But while it's possible, I don't really believe in instant sparks or at least something that helps me evaluate long-term compatibility especially if we are interested in each other romantically. I like the idea of two people gradually becoming important to each other through conversations, shared interests, inside jokes and a ridiculous amount of messages about things neither of us can explain to anyone else.

Guys and couples, it's pointless to waste time on messaging me.

Please mention ASL in your DM.

Hello all,

I am 28F from India, and I am looking for a STRICT accountability partner.

So, I have ADHD, and if you have it too, you probably already know how ridiculously difficult it is to stay consistent with daily life. I can spend hours hyperfocusing on something interesting, but I struggle immensely with everyday tasks that actually matter. I procrastinate, get distracted, and often need external accountability to stay on track.

I am currently preparing for competitive exams, and I am genuinely trying to get my life together. I have a few daily goals that I absolutely need to stick to such as studying, keeping up with current happenings, reading around 80–100 pages, walking 10k steps, meditating for 10 minutes, eating properly, losing some weight, sleeping on time, journaling, and even watching at least one movie and anime every week. Basically, normal adult stuff that somehow feels like climbing Everest.

The problem is, I make excuses. A lot. That's why I am looking for someone who won't let me get away with them. Not in a rude way, obviously. But if I say, "I'll do it later," I want someone who'll say, "No. Go do it now." So basically someone who will be actually very much strict. And of course, I'd do the exact same for you.

Here is a little about me-

I am a huge reader. Like, I have a personal library at home, and buying books is probably my biggest personality trait and source of dopamine kick at this point. I love reading thrillers, literary fiction, fantasy, classics, horrors, philosophy, true crime, etc. I also love movies, TV shows, anime, sports, and, honestly, I am curious about everything under the sun that catches my interest. If it's interesting, I'll probably disappear down that rabbit hole for a week. Classic ADHD, I know. 😂

I used to be a complete extrovert, but I think life has turned me into more of an ambivert. I still enjoy talking to people, just not all the time. I would take a deep conversation over 10 rounds of small talks any day.

I am looking for someone who is smart, nerdy, around my age or older (I just tend to get along better with older people), communicates well, and is genuinely serious about improving their life. You don't have to have ADHD, but it would definitely help if you understand what executive dysfunction feels like. We could do daily check-ins, share our goals, focus on studying/work together sometimes, have reading sprints, maybe watch something together occasionally, and most importantly, keep each other accountable.

Now for the important part.

I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP.

Please don't message me hoping this turns into something more or thinking you'll change my mind. You won't. Never.

Also, if you're someone who disappears after two days or only wants casual chatting, we are probably not looking for the same thing. I genuinely want to build a long-term accountability system with someone.

And please don't just send "Hi" or "Hey." Tell me a little about yourself. If you have read this entire post, start your message with your favorite book, movie, or anime. At least I will know you actually read it.

Hopefully, there are people out there looking for the same thing.