r/Soft_Introverts

I try my best; I really do. It just hurts to know that people judge me based on my weight and not my character. I was at a mall, sitting on a lounge chair with 2 plates of food beside me. Mind you, I haven't eaten from 10 A.M to 3 P.M and those 2 plates of food were supposed to be shared among 3 people. All of a sudden, as these people were walking by, I heard, "Is she gonna eat all that?" with the other responding, "That's why she's fat." At first, the damage didn't click with me. But thinking about it till now, even though it's been 10 hours, it f*cking hurts like h*ll. And while it reflects their negative character, I let it get to me. Every hour since then, I feel the need to cry because my mind hasn't expelled those comments. I am 20 pounds above the average weight for my age, and when I look in the mirror, I am disgusted at myself. Yes, I am insecure and emotionally unstable. I need my environment to be positive. How do you expect me to take care of myself when that is conditioned on loving myself first? I hate myself. Yesterday, I walked til I was sore, played sports til I was sore, and yet this is what I get: an insult. They don't know me. They have different values. I mean, how could you judge someone without knowing the context? I guess it made sense since they looked skinny or had a healthy weight. But that shouldn't be an excuse for saying sh*t like that about a person who is right next to you/can hear you. I feel misunderstood and ashamed. I have had thoughts about ending it again when I had just found body positivity. I felt confident in myself yesterday, and so I exercised to get momentum. Their comments really disrupted my progress. At this point, I don't even want to live, nor go outside, and even if I have to go outside, I will never go back to that mall. That's how much their thoughtless comments hurt me.

Lots of people say calling people fat is not an insult; it is the truth. Sorry, but not sorry, I disagree with that statement. Calling someone fat these days is insulting due to social media. Everybody is always looking forward to being skinny, staying fit, and glowing up. When people call others skinny, it is usually seen as a compliment. But when people call others fat, it is usually said as an insult. Would I have accepted being called fat if they didn't say it in a harsh, judgmental tone? Yes. It's funny how the same people who stick by that statement say it in a way that is so contradictory. I witnessed a friend tell a boy (Call him A) that his crush liked this other guy who was "bigger" (literally healthy weight) than him. (A) then shouted, "But he's literally fat!" when just yesterday, (A) said, "Calling someone fat isn't an insult". (A)'s attitude there really ticked me off. What a hypocrite.

Now, I'm not saying being fat is good; it is indeed horrible, and I wouldn't wish it upon others. Being fat is mentally damaging. These are my thoughts running through my head when I got fat-shamed. 1. I off myself. 2. I exercise. Can you guess which option I'm leaning towards? My job isn't to make people uncomfortable with this topic, but to give insight to those who believe fat shaming corrects people. If you ask anyone who has gone through fat-shaming, they would tell you exactly what that person said even though it was from years ago because that's how damaging it is. It is traumatizing and endangering. I almost got an eating disorder. After all, I starved myself for a couple of days because someone told me to "look at yourself in the mirror". That was f*cking brutal.

Please love me. I am just a teenager who is already struggling with my mental health. School has been hard, family relationships have been hard, and now I have to endure fat-shaming. I want to live to see myself beautiful, to my potential. Sometimes I have thoughts like "if I were skinny..." because I would be able to fit into more clothing, have more privileges, get compliments, and finally be able to love myself. Even while typing this, my body is still so sore. Please, please, please be kind to each other. Please spread more positivity. You cannot mask insults by saying it with joy. Keep your thoughts to yourself or at least say it when the person isn't there out of respect.

I’ve been working on a concept for a while and I wanted to ask your opinion before developing it further.

It’s not a traditional journal or a motivational planner.

It’s a 365-day system of very small daily actions designed to help introverts build self-trust and confidence in real-life situations.

Each day includes one simple action (for example: expressing an opinion, initiating a message, setting a small boundary), and a short reflection.

The idea is not “thinking about confidence”, but actually building it through repetition over time.

I’m still shaping the concept, and I’d really appreciate honest feedback: Would something like this be useful for you?

If you have any thoughts or suggestions, I’d love to read them🙏🏻

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Sometimes growth comes from going deeper into who you are, not further away from it.

This is what was revealed by higher self to one subject in deep trance, how she needs to be more aware what is happening with her energy and people taking it.

idk lately i just distanced myself from most if not all of my friends and it actually feels more peaceful, i only feel stressed when someone reaches out now..is making new friends or maintaining old friendships worth the effort for you?

I think all of us have met at least one person who made us feel like we could finally put down the mask we’d been wearing for years.

Looking back, I don’t remember the exact conversations I had with those people.

I remember how I felt around them.

Safe. Accepted. Quiet, without feeling like I needed to apologize for it.

I think that’s much rarer than we realize.

Has anyone ever made you feel completely comfortable being yourself? What did they do that made you feel that way?

Being understanding is a beautiful quality untilit becomes the reason people stop considering your needs.

They say :

No problem, I'll manage

It's Okay ,I understand

Don't worry ,I can adjust

They looks mature on the outside, but inside they feel tired, unseen and taken for granted .

Not because they lack strength because their kindness has no boundary .

Dr.Sreeveni V

Many people spend years chasing things they think will make them happy, only to realize they were looking in the wrong place

It was my first trip outside my country. My husband and I were in a hotel, just getting ready to head out. There was a knock on the door. I opened it, and a housekeeper smiled at me and said something in English. I caught the word "cleaning"

I wanted to say, "Please come back in two hours" But what came out of my mouth was: "Please, come after two horses"

The poor woman blinked. Like, really blinked. You could see the exact moment her brain tried to process what I just said😅 But you know what? She smiled politely, nodded, and said, "Okay" Then she left.

My husband and I stood there for a full minute, looking at each other, trying not to explode laughing.

When she came back two hours later, she was still professional. No jokes, no comments. But I'll never forget those eyes.

What's the funniest language mix-up you've ever had while traveling?