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Any other Americans watching it released one week at a time? Episode 5

I very much enjoy it so far and was looking forward to today to a new unlocked episode. But the fact that it ended in another social group setting panic makes me sad!

I really like the engaging horse conversation though.

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u/purpleit11 — 2 days ago

Little relationship moments

I just finished the show and there were little friendship moments Mary has, esp with the others who are also oddballs in society and shunned, that i absolutely adored. I'd love to see what else caught people's eyes and look at for them during my soon to be rewatch :D

Some moments:

Mr collins giving her the book and then the note inside about happiness is in your hands.

Mr collins exclaiming twice happily when Mary decides to go with thr gardiners again and leave pemberley.

Mr Hurst eagerly finding Mary and telling her about the races and her responding equally happily when they're outside the inn before the big hike.

Mary smiling and immediately handing the hair brush to Mrs Gardiner when she comes in to say good night. Mary just looks so happy and peaceful with her and you can tell its a tradition at that point where her aunt comes and brushes her hair by how relaxed Mary is and how automatically she holds the brush out before Mrs Gardiner can even reach for it and its all unspoken.

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u/InviteTechnical1353 — 7 days ago

Show moment in the book?

Hey all!!

I recently finished the book and have spent a lot of time this week watching the series. But one part I'm curious about is can someone remind me where in the book Mr. Hayward talked to Mary about stepping in to tell Mr. Ryder to back off?

At this point the book feels like a little bit of a blur. TIA!

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u/duckie768 — 7 days ago

Piano piece played by Mary and Lizzy

Hello! I was wondering if anyone knows the piano piece briefly played by Mary then Lizzy joining in. It just caught my attention during the scene and I’m curious if there’s a full version!

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u/Cheesecakes1004 — 7 days ago

If Mary Chose Mr Ryder

Surprised how much I enjoyed the show. Nice antidote to the doom and gloom suffusing a lot of TV these days. (Sometimes I don't want to see current state of the world reflected back but I want happy escapism.)

It occurred to me if Mary chose Mr Ryder, she would be the wealthiest of the Bennet sisters. Mr Ryder is Lady Catherine de Bourgh's heir. Assuming he doesn't blow it, the de Bourgh fortune eclipses the fortune of Mr Darcy, more or less to be the wealthiest of the Bennet son-in-laws.

During this time, status equals wealth. A Duke is generally wealthier than a earl. A viscount is wealthier than a baron. A titled person is generally wealthier than an untitled person.  Sir Lewis de Bourgh (Lady Catherine's husband) is titled; neither Mr Darcy nor his father are titled. Now, to be titled a sir, one has to do something extraordinary (Sir Isaac Newton) or be very rich (Sir Alan Sugar) or have aristocratic level wealth but from low born roots (baronetcies were created, i.e. bought, as a money making scheme for the monarch). Either way, nothing in P&P lead one to conclude the de Bourgh's did anything extraordinary else Mr Collins would not shut up about it; however, Mr Collins does repeatedly remark on their wealth.

So the de Bourgh would have a fortune that eclipses that of a rando gentleman. Now this fortune would have to massive to convince Fitzwilliam Darcy to have an understanding with Lady Catherine's daughter. If the de Bourghs fortune was small, why bother? That Fitzwilliam Darcy would give up said fortune for Elizabeth Bennet, and only for Elizabeth Bennet, can be seen as swapping something of value for another - Elizabeth Bennet is the heroine of P&P, she is, in Austen's estimation, to be the most important person in the novel-- someone so important and valuable that would equal what would cost Darcy to drop Anne and the inheritance.

It's just a fun thought. Mary may not have love Ryder but she wouldn't be unhappy. And in Austen's novels, not being unhappy is not insignificant and often the best available option for our often luckless protagonists.

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u/One_Run_3002 — 9 days ago

I just have to rave

I just finished the first episode, and I'm OBSESSED. I always thought Mary got the short end of the stick in P&P, and that there was a bit of punching down when it came to her, and I love that this show does such a perfect job of capturing the nuances of her emotions and of her own type of beauty/appeal.

The actress is a revelation.

Also, Mr Sparrow is beyond adorable, and Caroline Bingley is so exactly as I imagined her that it's almost scary. Whoever cast TOBS deserves all the accolades.

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u/readdator2 — 12 days ago

Thoughts on Mr Ryder

I’m halfway through the series and I’m enjoying it very much. I haven’t read the book. I can’t help but wonder if Mr Ryder’s character is styled after Mr Crawford from Mansfield Park. Does anyone else see similarities? Mary seems to have the same restraint and self-doubts as Fanny Price (and Fanny was similarly humbled in her family setting with the Bertrams). Mr Ryder has no cares for societal conventions and is very forward with Mary, like Crawford was with Fanny. Mr Ryder followed Mary to Pemberley, just like Crawford followed Fanny to Portsmouth. Both Mary and Fanny were discomfited by the overt attentions given to them.

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u/i_need_another_scarf — 11 days ago

Book v show

I've just finished reading the book after watching the show and I have thoughts and feels.

Firstly I much prefer Mrs Gardiners character in the show to the book she is a perfect Aunt and I love the Miss Baxter story line in the show.

I prefer the show

To those who had read the book first, what did you think of the shows changes?

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u/AcrobaticTea9851 — 13 days ago

TOBS Book Paper Quality?

to anyone who bought the TOBS book with ella on the cover and/or the one with the original cover, how's the paper quality? which one is better? currently deciding which one to buy 🤔

u/gelvelgelvel — 12 days ago

When is the next episode on BritBox?

Only 3 episodes have aired, and i have been checking back for a week, but no new episodes are available. So frustrating!

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u/chart1961 — 12 days ago

Why does Mr. Collins want Longbourn?

If he took up residence in Longbourn he would be a ways away from his precious Lady Catherine. So after Mr. Bennett died why did Mr. Collins come in ordering them to leave in 2 weeks? Or was it just to move the plot along for Mary to move out?

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u/marie19734 — 13 days ago