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Attending family wedding

My new BIL (my husbands younger brother) and wife work high paying government jobs making around $350k between them and all they gave at my tea ceremony was $200.

For my tea ceremony he said she wont be coming because they only have 1 car and we used his car as the wedding car. (Pretty sure she was able to borrow a car from her sister) Then on the day of the wedding he said she wont be attending the wedding reception at all because she now has a bad rash.

Then mid day he says she can attend and he has to go home and pick her up.

Sounds like an excuse for her not to attend the tea ceremony and reception right?

She arrives at my wedding looking totally normal with her mum unannounced and who was not on my guest list, vietnamese wedding we usually like to take pictures together with the guest for memories and her mum refused to take one with me.

His wife and mum gave an envelope with $100 upon arrival which didnt even cover the cost of the food for her mum.

Just a note: there is absolutely no tension between us prior.

Hello! I’m Vietnamese and my fiancée is Chinese. We’d love to have a traditional tea ceremony, but we’re not sure if it’s okay to hold it a few weeks or even months before our white wedding ceremony.

I’ve been to several weddings where the tea ceremony took place on the same day, but I’m worried that doing both on one day might feel a bit rushed and take up too much time. Has anyone done theirs separately, and if so, how did it work out?

Hi everyone! We’re planning a multicultural wedding and could use some advice from people who’ve had or attended Taiwanese/Chinese tea ceremonies.
We are Taiwanese and Indian couple, and we’re trying to figure out what makes the most sense for our ceremony. The Indian side of the family is significantly larger than the Taiwanese side.
Right now, we’ve identified about 11–13 couples (parents, aunts, and uncles) that we could potentially honor with tea. My questions are:

- How long would a tea ceremony with 11–13 couples typically take?
- Is that too many people, or is it fairly common?
- Are we thinking about this the wrong way? Is it expected that we include all aunts and uncles, or is it perfectly acceptable to only serve tea to our parents (and maybe grandparents)?
- If you had a large extended family, how did you decide who to include without hurting anyone’s feelings?
- For those who had multicultural weddings, did you modify the tea ceremony to fit your families, or did you stick closely to tradition?

We’re trying to balance honoring tradition with keeping the ceremony meaningful and not making it overly long.

I’d love to hear what you did, how many people you included, how long it took, and if there’s anything you wish you’d done differently. Thanks!

Hello.
My friend and I are going to Malaysia for a close friend’s wedding.
We plan on giving her gold as a wedding gift.
There are 5 of us and we are all coming from overseas so we are not sure what kind of gold usually people give in Malaysia.
Do you have any suggestions?
If possible, we would like to buy it offline in KL.
Thanks before

my wedding is in july next year, and i was planning on traveling to vietnam in february to buy 2 wedding dresses. is that enough time?

i was also thinking maybe i do an online consult and then try it during my trip. but what if i dont like it?

any recs for boutiques in vietnam?

I’m trying to think of what to get my best friend (Korean) and his bride-to-be (Vietnamese) for their wedding. I want it to be something that will be valuable to both of them culturally, but that isn’t just money. They will have a registry, which I’m planning on using. But something more personal might be nice as well. Any ideas welcome!