r/asksandiego

Hi everyone!

My husband, our almost 5-year-old son and I will be moving from the UK to San Diego later this year, and we're currently trying to figure out the best area to live in.

We've never lived in California before, so we'd really appreciate some advice from locals!

We're looking for:

• A safe, family-friendly neighbourhood.
• Good public elementary schools.
• Parks, playgrounds and activities for young children.
• Ideally somewhere not too far inland, as we'd prefer to avoid the really hot summers.
• A monthly rental budget of around $3,000 - $4,000.

We've been looking at Carlsbad, San Marcos, Rancho Bernardo, 4S Ranch, Oceanside and Poway, but we're open to other suggestions!

We really like Carlsbad, but it seems quite expensive, so we're trying to find somewhere that offers a good balance between affordability, schools and quality of life.

Since we're moving from another country, this is all completely new to us, and we'd love to hear your experiences, especially from families with young children.

Are there any particular neighbourhoods you'd recommend? Or areas you'd avoid?

Thank you so much in advance! 😊

For people who go out for karaoke around San Diego, where do you normally figure out what’s happening tonight and where?

Google? Instagram? Facebook groups? Following individual KJs? Venue pages? Word of mouth?

I’ve gotten pretty deep into the local karaoke scene over the last few years, and it still feels surprisingly fragmented. A venue might have the right night on Instagram, an old time on Google, nothing on its website, and the KJ is the only person who actually knows what’s happening. 🤷🏽‍♂️

I’m especially curious about a few things:

Where do you look first?

Is there any source you actually trust to be current?

Do you mostly follow specific venues or specific KJs?

What information do you wish was easier to find before deciding where to go?

And what’s your favorite karaoke night in San Diego?

I’m working on something in this space, so I’m genuinely interested in how people are solving this problem now rather than assuming everyone searches the same way I do.

Bonus points if you can send me down a rabbit hole to a karaoke night I somehow haven’t found yet. 🎤

Hello,

I am 35 year old female and moved to San Diego ~2 months ago. I lost my baby at 24 weeks (stillborn) this July. I likely have a condition called APS (antiphospholipid syndrome) which is a blood clotting disorder (tested positive pne marker - beta 2 glycoprotein igg twice).

I want to TTC again but very scared. I am currently seeing Dr. Kim Bui at IGO Medical after moving to San Diego. She referred me for a preconception consultation at Scripps Perinatology but their waitlist for that was 6 months long. I ended up seeing Dr. Elizabeth Teal at UCSD for preconception consultation. But I did not really feel she is very supportive.

If I manage to get pregnant, I want to see a good OB/MFM who hopefully has experience with treating patients with APS. I like Dr. Bui (IGO) but I am not sure if I should see some other OB who has experience with APS? I am also kind of nervous about MFM. I saw Dr. Shahram Dhaneshmand in Scripps Perinatology has listed clotting disorder as his specialty but apparently his wait times can be very long (I am not sure though if it is just for the consultation or for post pregnancy appointments too).

I am looking for some suggestions from people with similar conditions as mine (APS) on OB/MFM in San Diego area (I live near Mira Mesa). I would really like to be listened to and taken seriously by my doctors, and seen frequently if I have another pregnancy.

I would really appreciate any advice/suggestions!

Hi all! My wonderful best friend is marrying in August of 2027, hopefully in San Diego, where her and her man met and fell in love, and now live. She’s struggling to find a venue that checks all the boxes- so I’m outsourcing and hoping for any and all suggestions! They’re open to outside the box options, private residences that allow weddings, more traditional venues. Please share and thank you in advance!

A bit about them and their “wants”
- by the water is great, not a dealbreaker though
- a big lawn / outdoor space is awesome
- needs to be able to have loud music (DJ for reception)
- ceremony and reception same venue / on site of same location
- not insanely remote where it would be difficult for guests to travel to

I’ve been trying to get more into the punk/hardcore scene but I’m struggling to find shows. Are there any instagram accounts I can follow or places I can look to find more shows to go to?

Hi! I’m a 19F from Korea 🇰🇷

I haven’t been here for very long, so my English isn’t very good yet 😭 I’m looking for friends who are interested in Korea or want to do a language exchange with me!

I’d especially love to meet girls around my age so we can become friends, go to cafes, go shopping, and just hang out together 🫶

If you’re interested, feel free to send me a DM and leave your Instagram username! 💌