r/comingout

I've recently realised I might be gay. Im a 26M from the UK. Ive only ever dated and slept with women and its been fun but it just never felt right. I only watch gay porn for the last month or so and everything feels better. Im turned on more and my erections are stronger and I'm noticing I'm checking guys out in the street, I do also check women out but I've seem to have lost that sexual desire.

Only thing is why do I feel like its wrong and I don't know what to do next. My family are quite traditional and would definitely be against it. I hate keeping this to myself. I only want to be happy.

I’m from a small conservative town and I’ve always known I’m a lesbian and I thought it will get better over time but I’m feeling more and more ashamed. I really tried dating guys but that’s for sure not for me and i hated myself more for thinking about women even though I didn’t act on it. Then I decided to be asexual but I still think about my ex girlfriend a lot and I can’t think or do anything else. But when I’m with girls I feel so disgusting after and I cry myself to sleep every night and pray to not wake up again. My ex girlfriend told me she wanted to tell her family about us and I panicked and ghosted her and now I feel so guilty.
How do I deal with self hate and suicidal thoughts if I’m scared to tell anyone even a therapist. My whole family’s so homophobic they will kick me out and never speak to me again and I can’t deal with that I just can’t. I’m only 22 but I think I can’t do this anymore, I don’t have motivation to do literally anything and I don’t think I have a shot at happiness at all. Some days I can’t even eat and I don’t know what to do to at least stand myself. I hate myself so much I sabotage everything good that happens to me and I can’t stop it. everyone’s asking me what’s wrong but noone in my friend group is gay and If i tell them they’d think I’m so weird and disgusting and I can’t be alone. I want to move to a different city so bad but I have 2 more years until I graduate uni and I don’t think I can do it. Pls help I’m so confused

I’m 19F and have only very recently accepted that I’m Bisexual and with a strong preference for girls. I’ve always been prudish when it came to guys, and even though a lot of my close friends are gay/transgender, I’ve always referred to myself as the straight ally or jokingly as bicurious

I know my friends will be accepting and probably could already tell, but I’m really scared about coming out to my dad. In his only daughter and he’s one of my favourite people.
He’s very progressive, and one of my uncles is also gay and married to a man, who he accepts. However he has specific PTSD relating to bisexuality - long story short my mother had an affair and left him for a woman when I was a kid before they divorced. They have complete no contact and there’s a ban against her name in his house. I’m really scared if I come out to him he will see me like my mother and reject me or he’ll just pretend I never told him just like how he pretends my mother doesn’t exist

How can I come out to him so that it doesn’t make him see me differently and like her? Is that possible?

I came out to my wife a couple months ago and she was very accepting. We are still together and I am monogamous. However, I can't escape the fact I want to explore my bisexuality but am struggling with the approach.

(23F sexual orientation) I have two girl friends and I have some questions for a game prepared, like this: "who would kiss someone of their same sex" or "would you rather have a threesome with 2 men or a men a a woman" and from there they'll be surprised and reach their own conclusions blah blah blah.

I'm incapable of coming out in a traditional way. So what do y'all think?

So I’ve had an attraction to boys ever since I was the age idk 9? I didn’t quite understand it then but now as a teenager it makes sense , people have had suspicions towards my sexuality especially at school since I mainly hung around with girls. Not so long ago I decided it was time I cameout but I was planning on doing it on the first of June since yk Pride Month , but… I keep on having doubts on whether I actually do wanna do this or not I have the fear that certain people will turn on me and some may start moving weirdly towards me, I really don’t know what to do and I feel like i’m running out of time

Okay so I am a straight male 23 years old, working and recently got a breakup. Let me clear it first that I am completely straight means I don't have any feelings for boys or male private parts and it disgusts me thinking about the sword fight thing. But sometimes I feel that It'd be better if I were a girl tbh not for experiencing sex with a male but for experiencing sex with a female. Sometimes I just want to be a lesbian girl and have a lesbian girlfriend. I converted many of my pics to 2, 3 types of girls pics using AI and when I merge them with Grok or gemini like they're hugging or kissing... I instantly get a boner. Why is this even happening and I can't understand why I am thinking like this. Being a straight male but thinking that it'd be better if I were a Lesbian girl... But why?? Please help me.

So I'm bi, my friends know it, the school knows it, hell my brother probably knows it. My mom and dad don't. I Wana come out but idk what thair reaction wil be plz help

so title.
context, i’m 23 . i don’t talk to my biological father so that’s not an issue. My mom is gay, she married my step mom when i was 19. Im her oldest out of 3.
i’m extremely close to my mom, and my step mom but my biological mom even more so because duh.
she’s known im bisexual since i was 18 when i very casually mentioned it like a year after she came out to me. I have two brothers who are minors so they are still are around my biological dad and his wife ( BOOOOO TOMATO 🍅) too much detail to go into here but they are awful people and i wish my brothers would never have to see him again.

i mentioned in a past post but ive basically always been considered a “tom boy” . i would break down when i would have to put on heavy make up for dances, wear dresses or anything super feminine to be real with you . so my mom already knows im not super girly but she has no idea that i’ve ever even questioned my gender at all.

i love my parents, my step mom and mother ofc. they have been there for me through so much. my step mom has took me and my brothers in like she was there since we were born and i couldn’t be more grateful for that. i’m so scared of losing them , i don’t think they’ll be transphobia but also like ive read people wrong before.

FUCKKK IM SCAREEDDDED

i hate being such a pussy …..

my parents live two hours away.
i’m going to be near them for a friends birthday trip for a week and my mom wants me have dinner with her while im close since i don’t see her often . i want to tell her, i tell her everything, literally everything. she’s like my best friend. i’m i fucking scared

i know my situation is weird but if anyone has any advice, please comment or dm me ….

thank you my handsome fellas

I wrote a status on Facebook and said I'm gay. That way everyone all found out at the same time. I told everyone if they have a problem with that then delete me on Facebook and out of their lives. Majority of people were very supportive 😁

Hi! I feel really weird being here, but I'll do a quick introduction.
I'm 14(nearing 15) trans FtM—I'm not out, never have been, but I've known for nearly three years about who I am and those feelings have never necessarily changed no matter how much I've tried to push them down.
And I have definitely tried to push them down. Never thought of a new name but I've gone by various different ones online.
But addressing the title.
I'm planning to come out on the first of June, obviously not in some big, extravagant way, but I do intend to tell those closest to me.
My best friend, my mom, and maybe my grandparents.
Most of them and the rest of my family are supportive, but my grandma is... not accepting of it, which I could live with.
I'm still nervous to do so as despite the support that I've seen them have towards most of the community, my mother is a bit iffy as well about gender identities.
I don't know what to say, I don't know how I'm going to do this.
Not sure if this belongs here, if it doesn't I'll certainly take it down, I just had to get this off my chest. 🤍

I have sucked cock and get ashamed but why I am who I am and really just wanba say im gay!!

Hi, I’m a 37 year old man from Scotland and have been in a near 12 year relationship with a woman who I am engaged to.

However my sexuality is something that I have struggled with for years. I’ve twisted myself into all sorts of shapes over the years trying to convince myself that I’m straight, but I’ve known since I was 15-16 that I have some attraction to men. It doesn’t manifest itself in exactly the same way as my attraction to women. It’s less immediate, more slow burning and to a specific type of masculinity. Over the last year or so I have finally accepted in my own mind that I am definitely bisexual - I eventuality had to acknowledge that straight men don’t fantasise about naked men while masturbating as often as I have done over the last 20 years!

It’s getting to the point now where I want, or rather need, to be fully honest with the important people in my life about who I am. I have no plans to cheat on my partner or anything but I don’t think I can keep concealing this part of myself or worrying that I’ll accidentally give myself away. However I’m very anxious about how this will go and I have no idea how to start this conversation with my partner, parents and sister. My parents aren’t explicitly homophobic, but they do make casual comments and I think this will be a huge shock. My partner is the kindest and most compassionate person I know. She’s open minded but also a very anxious person - I think she would accept my sexuality to my face but I am really worried about how it would affect her internally and that she’ll constantly worry that I will cheat on her. I think my sister would be most supportive and I wonder if I should talk to her first but she has a lot on her plate with my young nephew.

I suppose I’m just looking for some advice on whether I should come out or keep this to myself, and if anyone who has been in a similar situation has any advice?

Sorry for the long and rambling post - thanks!

I am gay and I really don’t want to be gay! It’s just my personal thoughts about my orientation and I really want to change it to heterosexual! I just want to have a family that ordinary person can be! I wanna have children and loving wife! Is there any evidence that someone actually changed their sexual orientation to straight

I'm honestly so proud of myself. I just came out as trans to my parents after nearly three years of hiding it.
They took it well! I can finally be myself around them.

Okay so basically I think I am bi because I'm attracted to both boys and girls, but I don't want to admit that I am because I don't know if I or my family would accept that and honestly Idk what to do. Plz give me some advice if you have some