r/exmuslimr4r

Hey, I'm a 24 year old guy based in Lahore and I've been an atheist for close to 10 years now and would love to find someone i can genuinely form a connection with and maybe even marry if we get along.

A bit about me:

I'm 5'8, 69kg. I work as a creative head for an agency and simultaneously trying to set up my own food business.

I'm a pretty easygoing and open-minded person. Somewhat Introverted by nature but the kind of person who gets genuinely warm and open once there's a real connection and i always tend to see the good in people.

I absolutely love cooking food. Getting into the kitchen and making myself a nice delicious meal with some music on is like therapy for me.

I'm really into movies and tv shows too (esp mystery, thriller, and horror). I play video games as well, and I have this habit of going deep down rabbit holes on completely random topics just because I find it interesting.

I also love to travel and hike, particularly to quiet and remote locations where there's nothing to disturb me and i can enjoy the peace.

I like playing some sport or riding a bicycle every once in a while too. Although i can sometimes be very competitive with it lol.

What I'm looking for:

Someone who's also from lahore or nearby cities. Is an exmuslim. Someone curious and intellectual, who asks questions, has opinions and who shares at least a few of my interests (doesn't have to be all of them) and has depth to their personality. Also I'd like to be with someone who likes taking care of their health. Doesn't mean they have to be really fit or anything like that but just generally make conscious decisions regarding their health.

Dealbreakers:

Being Immature, materialistic or superficial. If the vibe is drama and ego, we're probably not compatible.

I'm not here to casually chat and disappear. I'm looking for something that could realistically lead to a relationship, and eventually marriage. I would like to have kids at some point but not anytime soon.

If any of this sounds like you, shoot me a message. Tell me something about yourself. A random interest, a show you're watching, anything.

I’m an Arab 36 yo female, closeted exmuslim looking for someone like minded. I’m very introverted and have so many hobbies. I spend a lot of time on my own and genuinely enjoy it but lately I’ve been wanting change in my life. I’d love to meet someone I can connect with.

I’ll get these out of the way. I’m autistic, I don’t want children, not looking to move, and I’m more liberal, open minded and can’t do with traditional and cultural mentalities. I seek open mindedness, a deep level of understanding and someone actively working on being a better version of themselves. I value open and honest communication, sincerity and kindness.

I pretty much live as myself but I do find around family I need to pretend and it can be exhausting. In the past I have dated non Muslims but it was a massive dealbreaker for my family. I figured someone who’s not Muslim but understands the religion, can play the part and is in the same position, might be a great person to connect with.
If you relate to this post, message me and we can start chatting :)

Raised in the UK.

Currently studying mental health nursing, graduating next year. Have to work in Cardiff for around 2 years afterwards, then want to relocate long term to Kuwait ideally, or Manchester/London.

Never married, never had in-person boyfriends.

Wasn’t raised particularly religious but always believed in God and I love theological discussions.

Wasn't taught Arabic but really want to learn, definitely want my future children to be fluent.

Soft spoken, caring, loving, feminine and family oriented. I like photography, anime, fashion, perfumes and travel.

Definitely want children, and I eventually want to be a housewife.

Looking for a Khaleeji man preferably 25-30 but open to 20-35 for the right person. Traditional, educated, family oriented, generous, caring, thoughtful, fun and serious about marriage.

Non-trinitarian Christians or agnostics only. No atheists please.

Not interested in long talking stages, prefer intentional communication from the beginning.

32F, Saudi, 170 cm, fit, with a calm personality, living in Riyadh.
I am looking to meet a woman who is educated, ambitious, fit, and grounded. I value depth and stability, so I am not interested in the party or hookup scene.
I am seeking someone I can build a genuine connection with, leading toward a committed and serious relationship. If we click and have natural chemistry, I am looking for a partner to share a future with.

\*\*Ideally, you are:\*\*
• \*\*Age:\*\* 27+
• \*\*Height:\*\* 165 cm or taller
• \*\*Lifestyle:\*\* Fit, educated, and ambitious
• \*\*Location:\*\* Living in Riyadh

If this resonates with you and you are looking for something real, please feel free to message me.

Men please don’t reach out that’s embarrassing

Retrying my luck for the last time

Hi, I was born in a sunni-muslim family in India. currently living as a closeted ex-muslim for 10 years. looking for a closeted ex-muslim woman.

About me:-

World view : I am an Irreligious deist(sort of) but It doesn't matter to me if my woman is an Atheist/Agnostic etc. I just don't want to marry a dogmatic religious person. I am a deist but Its not a big deal for me if you deny my god. I don't care. and I expect to find a partner for whom existence of god is not a big issue.

Political views : I am somewhere between center and left. I don't like labels like Feminist, SJW warrior etc. but I believe in live and let live as a general rule. I think women are equal to man in most things, better than men at few things and not as good as men in few other things. I am pro-abortion although I think if you view it as a substitute for contraception then that's unethical. and yes our society indeed needs to get rid of those misogynistic tendencies that sadly still exist in it.

Physical Details : I have a typical north Indian skin color. I am 5'8". I work out(although currently out of shape). I am often told that I am a good looking man, but that's subjective.

Personality Details: I am an ambivert who can adjust in multiple social situations fairly well. but most of the time I prefer to watch a documentary/movie/Tv shows rather than to go hang out with friends. I like deep philosophical/ scientific conversations. I like dark comedy

General details about me : I am a chill, easy going person who is hard to offend. I don't believe in anything mentioned above religiously, and they are all subject to change 'IF' they are shown to be incorrect through evidence and objective reasoning.

What I am looking for in my partner: Someone who can pretend to be a muslim in front of my family. I also prefer dual income no kids lifestyle but if you don't want to work that is fine. but.. kids.. I would rather not have.

So, dm me if you are interested ;)

if not, have a nice day! :)

Hola, soy un chico nacido y criado en España, pero de ascendencia marroquí, y toda mi familia es musulmana. Busco una mujer de origen musulmán para un matrimonio informal. No se trata solo de un disfraz; me gustaría encontrar a alguien que me apoye, que sea mi mejor amiga, con quien pueda formar una familia, aunque seamos básicamente mejores amigos. Podemos hablar de los detalles, pero al final, las personas como nosotros o vivimos unidas, apoyándonos mutuamente, o siempre estaremos solos.

Mucho apoyo a todos mis amigos, hermanos y hermanas exmusulmanes.

También en español.

Hello,
it’s just as the title states!

A bit about myself: You can call me Venus, I live in muscat and am employed, lowkey an introvert but will participate in the occasional extroverted activities, I love anything oceanic/aquatic related (the sea etc.), I like watching anime, movies & TV shows and documentaries too.

I’m interested in trying out/watching/listening to new things and it would be nice if i had someone here who’d be down for that too. I also appreciate good humour/banter so we could also have super fun conversations too!

definitely send me a message if you’d be down, hope to hear from you guys.

:3

Hey everyone. I’m a 27 year old guy based in Canada, originally from a Sunni Muslim background. I’d describe myself as agnostic now.

When I was younger, I used to be very judgmental toward religious people and saw everything in a very black and white way. Over time though, I’ve mellowed out a lot and learned to respect people’s personal choices and beliefs, even if I don’t share them myself anymore.

One of the biggest reasons I started questioning my beliefs in the first place was because of certain things I saw growing up regarding the treatment of women that never sat right with me. I’d consider myself a feminist in my values today, not in a performative way, just genuinely in how I see relationships and people.

At this point in life, I’m honestly looking for my best friend. Someone I can deeply connect with, build a life with, travel with, experience new things with, and just grow together alongside. I’m educated, decent looking, tall (around 6’0–6’1), and currently trying to build healthier routines and a better future for myself overall.

A little about me personally: I’m pretty nerdy honestly. I love reading. Right now I’m trying to educate myself more on finance, but I also absolutely love fantasy, especially Harry Potter. I enjoy trying new food places, travelling (just not alone), and for some reason I’m deeply fascinated by true crime documentaries.

I also love deep dive videos on World War II history, human psychology, and outer space. My YouTube algorithm genuinely looks like a confused historian who also needs therapy.

I’m definitely more of a “tea or coffee wrapped in a blanket watching something interesting” type of person than someone into clubbing every weekend. My ideal night is probably us arguing over what to watch for 40 minutes and then rewatching the same comfort show anyway.

I’m very open minded when it comes to beliefs. You could be atheist, agnostic, spiritual, questioning, or even a non practicing Muslim. I genuinely don’t mind as long as there’s mutual respect and no judgment toward each other’s worldview.

I’d ideally like to settle down eventually, maybe within the next 1 to 2 years if things naturally go in that direction, but I’m not trying to force timelines either.

For now, I plan on staying in Canada, though life can always surprise you. If family dynamics are complicated on your side, I honestly don’t mind playing the “Muslim guy” role in front of family if needed. At the same time, I’m personally open about my non beliefs and wouldn’t expect you to pretend to be someone you’re not.

No preferences regarding ethnicity, sect, background, etc. Chemistry matters more to me than categories.

Also, if you’re just looking for friends and happen to be around Montreal or nearby, I’d genuinely love to connect too since I’m also trying to build a better social circle here.

If you’re in Canada, planning to move here, or even in the US and open to figuring things out later, feel free to reach out. 

23F here! Long shot but I am looking for someone in the age range 24-27. Who is willing to get married in the next 2-3 years. I am looking for someone who is agnostic, does not want kids after marriage and is open minded. Should be based in Lahore or should visit Lahore frequently so that we can meet in person. If you meet the criteria you can dm on the Instagram handle landa_bazaar_

(2nd time posting here because no luck yet😭 Also, please don’t DM again if it didn't work out earlier)

• 28F from Madhya Pradesh, India • 5’1” | Online teacher • Atheist/agnostic leaning • Shy at first, but very fun once comfortable, love deep conversations about life, cosmos, philosophy, evolution and human nature • Into humor, empathy, emotional intelligence, and emotionally safe people • Love animals, especially cats & dogs • Music taste: from ghazals to currently exploring death metal genre

Looking for someone who is: • 28–36 years old • 5’4”–5’11” • with Indian roots • well-settled & well-groomed • loyal, emotionally mature, empathetic, and consistent • open-minded/rational in beliefs

Trying to keep it short here.. happy to share more in DM :)

Hi everyone :)

I’m a 22F from Pakistan looking to connect with someone kind, emotionally mature, and understanding for a genuine long-term relationship/partnership.

A little about me:

• I’m a 3D artist and a very creative person

• I love art, deep conversations about existence and life, nature, going out, and creating things

• Personality-wise, I’d describe myself as calm, funny, friendly, and an ambivert

• I value honesty, emotional intelligence, kindness, communication, and mutual respect very deeply

I also want to be honest about something important: I’m asexual, so I’d want a partner who genuinely understands and respects that, including my personal boundaries and comfort levels. Emotional connection and feeling safe with someone matter much more to me than traditional relationship expectations.

I’m looking for someone caring, open-minded, respectful, emotionally supportive, and mature enough to communicate properly rather than judge or control.

Deal breakers for me:

• Religious/extremely conservative mindset

• Wanting children

• Anger issues/aggressive behavior

• Controlling or misogynistic behavior

• Expectation of living in a joint family setup

Not looking to rush into anything — I’d rather build trust, friendship, and understanding naturally first.

Feel free to DM me if you think we might connect well :)

Hi everyone. I never thought I’d make a post like this, but here we are.

I’m an ex-Muslim woman from Pakistan looking for a potential lavender marriage/companionship arrangement with someone who understands the realities of living in a conservative society.

For me, this is less about pretending and more about creating a safe, respectful, and mutually beneficial life with someone who understands what it’s like to live under social and family pressure. I value honesty, emotional maturity, privacy, kindness, and mutual understanding above traditional expectations.

About me:•

age: 22F•

country: Pakistan•

passion: 3d artist•

interests: art, creative thinking, deep talks about existence, going out, being connected to nature and creative creation• personality: calm and also funny, ambivert but friendly,

What I’m looking for:• preferably ex-Muslim/agnostic/atheist• emotionally mature and respectful• someone who values friendship and partnership• no controlling behavior or misogyny• ideally someone who also wants independence and peace rather than a traditional dynamic

Deal breakers for me:

• Religious/extremely conservative mindset

• Wanting children

• Anger issues/aggressive behavior

• Controlling or misogynistic behavior

• Expectation of living in a joint family setup

I’m open to discussing boundaries, expectations, future plans, living arrangements, etc privately if we connect.

Please be respectful. I know this type of arrangement isn’t for everyone, but for some of us it can genuinely be a safer and healthier option.

Feel free to DM if you think we might be compatible.

hi i'm looking for other exmuslim women who want to chat online about our experiences being exmuslim and if we happen to hit it off, become friends.

about me:
- generally nerdy leaning, i'm on the autism spectrum
- i've read multiple books related to exmuslim experiences if you want to talk about any!
- failure to launch, mentally ill
- i have gender critical views and they are important to me. if you don't know what those are, well i can try to give you a balanced overview of the topic. if you disagree with that and still want to hit me up... feel free i guess lol.

It’s been two years since I last posted this. While the world outside has changed, the need for a safe, silent community hasn't. It’s still a struggle to find people like us when we’re all wearing masks, but I’m back to try again.

I am from Lahore. You can read more about me below.

The Nerd/Weeb Core:
I’m still fueled by philosophy, science, and anime. I’m looking for someone who doesn’t just want small talk, but wants to connect on a deeper level.

The Artist’s Heart & Humor:
Music is my muse and singing is my passion, but I’m an artist at heart in every sense. I have a profound love for art and the people who create it. To keep things balanced, I also have a great sense of humor (ranging from the witty to the slightly absurd to dark) and I deeply appreciate the same in others. If you can make me laugh while we’re debating nihilism, we’ll get along perfectly.

The Physical Side:
To balance the "overthinking" brain, I’ve leaned heavily into fitness and endurance sports. Whether it’s the steady rhythm of running or the intense focus of boxing, I find my clarity through movement.

A Note on Connection:
I’m looking for something genuine. Please, don't be an avoidant and please don't ghost. If you aren't feeling the vibe, just say so. I value transparency and maturity over a disappearing act.

I am 25 years old and i live in east london. I am exmuslim and atheist since 2016. I am a secret ex muslim. I am introverted. I am 5'8 slim

I am a good person. I like to travel. I want to move out of my parents house when I get a partner

I am looking for an ex muslim partner.

I dont want kids

I (28F) am looking for my childfree emotionally mature man preferably between 28 to 35, who is in want for the love of a good woman.

Now as for what is the definition of "good woman", that's up to you. But I am empathetic, kind and I want someone to love. I am a doctor, doing my postgraduation in a very niche but emotionally demanding speciality. I have been financially independent for nearly 5 years, but I accept my Eidi from whoever wants to give it to me. I am responsible and careful, both with my money and my emotions.

I am an atheist and while I don't mind people believing whatever they want to, I would prefer an (closeted)ex-Muslim man to continue the charade with me for my family. Yes, it's a stupid want and you can't please everyone but you can choose your battles. I am 5ft not an inch taller, I am often called cute and my patients have always loved me for my charming personality

I live in South India for now, and plan to move away once my residency is over. I am looking to build a life with someone and not just supplement society's need for eventualities - to be married, to be a mother, to be an x by the age of y and blah blah blah.

I want someone to take care of me, to be quite honest. I've been the gardener too long and just for once I'd like to be the flower. In exchange you can have the love of a good woman.

Do not DM me if- you're not a feminist, or close-minded, or not an ally to queer folk, are broke or unemployed, or plan to live with your parents forever.

An Ex-Muslim Atheist M24 living in Delhi due to job originally from Bihar looking for an Ex-Muslim Atheist F for marriage 2-3 years down the line.

Working in IT sector. Looking for a working woman preferably in teaching sector in 11th-12th or competitive exams or degree or diploma college. Preferably if teaching Mathematics or Physics.

As IT sector is hectic or competitive job so I'm looking for a woman who doesn't have more hectic job than me.

Kids need parents time. So teaching job for one of the parents would be suitable.

Kids learn from parents. So it's necessary that we teach them good values. We'll try to take care of my parents and your parents so that our kids will take care of us when we need them in old age.

We'll live in a neutral place so that neither my parents nor your parents feel as guests when they visit us.

Currently I live with my elder brother's family in Delhi as it's more suitable than other options as a bachelor. After marriage we won't live with them.

Though I don't believe in these things but in marriage people check this so I'm from Shaikh community. My family members marry only in Shaikh and Syed communities so there is a family and societal pressure. My family is Hanafi. There isn't any problem of Deobandi-Barelvi as my family is a mixed family.

My family is not overly religious but they're not completely irreligious either.

My height is about 5ft 5 inch. So looking for a woman accordingly in the suitable height range.

Looks wise I'm looking for natural, not makeup slop. Who doesn't wear revealing clothes. My skin color is fairish-wheatish. I'm looking for a woman with lightish skin color as I don't feel attracted to dark skin. So what's the point of marriage if I'm not attracted to you.

Have good moral character and doesn't follow not so good things which happen in the broad society just because their peers are doing it.

My salary is not high as of now so I'm working hard to increase my salary. So it'd be better if we keep our lifestyle accordingly so that we don't have to ask for money from anyone or go bankrupt and can have peaceful life after retirement.

I've written everything completely raw because I believe in clear communication.

As exmuslim atheists are very small minority among minorities in India so I'll not delete this post. So if you see this post even after a very long time it means I'm still looking. So you can reach out to me in my DM as I'm not going to engage in comment section because that'd not be appropriate.

hey,

everytime i post on here i meet new people, so im back. looking for friends.

Im from the uk and im soon to graduate in philosophy, last exams in a few days. I specialise in social philosophy and epistemology if u wanna know

other interests are just learning in general, gaming, sports and other niche hobbies are among the mix. im passionate about a bunch of things.

dont message me if ur politically conservative despite being an ex muslim, i dont think we’ll get along, based off of previous experiences lmao.