r/men

Genuinely puzzles me, like does it not ruin the mood for you when you go to goon and youre gooning to a woman who assuming made your life hell, and why would you keep her picture as your wallpaper even after months of it ending like what

Why does it take you longer to process? After 30 days off no contact, why do you always come back?

Why do y’all get so upset and say racist shit when a white woman prefers Black men, or even simply makes a couple’s post?... I see way too many racist and misogynistic comments on interracial couples posts. I just want to know why so many people are still like this in 2026.

I plan on killing myself soon

I’m 22, soon to be 23 this August and I’m still being called “buddy” by older males. Sure, I work in retail and it’s just a word pulled out of thin air by convenience, but when it comes down to it, I find it’s a certain type of male who uses the term more than others.

Being called “buddy” didn’t bother me until I hit my 20’s. Now it makes me feel less of a man. To me, it’s the equivalence of being called “good boy” which never sat well with me either as a kid. Anyways, my question is when should I expect to stop being called “buddy”? Is it when I lose the baby face? Is it when I hit a certain age threshold and the gods have spoken? What’s your experience and does the word “buddy” matter to you?

Hi, I 19m have always struggled with talking to girls I find interesting/attractive. When I’m talking to a girl in person my anxiety kind of takes over and I can’t speak and I end up apologizing and embarrassing myself. I’ve only been in one relationship and she actually texted me first lol. I just wanted to know, shy guys how did you meet your partner? Or rather how did you become more comfortable approaching and talking to people?

I dont like my wife anymore. Theres nothing there. Cant finish during sex. Cant keep it hard. I love her but im not in love. I used to bend over backwards for her. Now im just numb. I dont really talk to her. I dont enjoy things with her. She isnt set financially. Doesnt work. Ive supported her all our relationship. We dont have a kid of our own so thats not an issue. But ive tried voicing issues ive had but it turns into her asking "well what about how i feel" everytime. Its all about her. I go through hell for her. But i cant do it anymore. But i also dont know what to do. Do i just continue living miserable and out of love. Do i hope it gets better. Im just dazed and confused. Dont even know what answers im looking for to be honest.

do all men watch porn???? please tell me if it is any man that genuinely doesn’t watch it or at least not often. i’m convinced my boyfriend has an addiction.

I have a fwb. And I can't really show up a lot for these sessions. Would you prefer ur fwb partner to not answer your text altogether when they can't show up or would you prefer to constantly hear that they can't show up? Either way just feels like I'm constantly rejecting him and I feel bad but I can't show up at night. Should I just ask him if he wants to do the freaky activities during the day?

Random question, I have been seeing all over my FYP about young girls marrying at the age of 18 to men who are in their 30's.

My question is, if all the older men are taking the younger women, who is gonna be there for the younger men who are also 18+.

Like doesn't that mean some older men are to blame for the loneliness crises because they are taking the younger women away from the younger men?

what does low libido look like? Like what’s the ideal sex timeline for someone who has low libido? Once every two weeks? More?

Started seeing a guy and it took 4 months for us to have sex for the first time (I think he was just really nervous)

Then we finally had sex like two weeks ago and we haven’t had sex again.

He’s since asked me to be his gf so now we’re dating and still not having sex

Is there another explanation other than low libido? Do guys get into their head a lot about sex even if we’ve already had sex once??

First time having sex with him went as good as it could have gone considering we’re still getting to know each others bodies and desires (but not if we don’t have sex)

Sex has always been a large factor in my other relationships so maybe this is healthy and I’m just not used to it?

We all know the feeling of freeballing and how good it feels. For my straight men who free ball especially in the gym. How do you feel being watched? It’s very obvious some of well endowed and it shows. You like all eyes on you? Does it turn you on? Does it matter if it’s a gay male or female?

My partner is a bit cold. I like him, especially when he shows a bit of emotion. I’m the complete opposite, I’m all about emotions and expressing them. I’m always super keen on having sex and I usually initiate. I like to put my hand under his shirt and tickle his chest hair, or sometimes I kiss his neck, or rub myself on his legs, but he never looks excited or shows a proper reaction to it all, so I usually don’t do it for too long. When we do the deed, he usually kisses me then starts taking my clothes off, he’s really gently, and I feel like he’s scared of hurting me to be honest, even when he’s on top he’s not too quick and hard but slow and easy, when we switch I usually go a bit harder, he grunts but no proper moaning. I want him to say something, feel something. I tried it all, I kiss him, I lick him (everywhere) yet nothing. I do every bit I can I want him to MOAN my name or at least say fuck while we do it, he’s so quiet while I huff and puff

So what do I do!! I really like this guy and I’m scared I’m just not good at turning him on, I really want to be cause he’s perfect