r/pep

Hi everyone

so i had sex with sex worker whose status is unknown.

we had sex with condom but here is what I am afraid of.

before penetration, i touched her vagina and felt some small liquid on my finger. then with those fingers I touched her other body parts and nipples.

then i sucked her nipples and kissed body part.

now assuming she is +ve, can this lead to transmission of HIV.

main point - i had my wisdom tooth coming out so there is small inflammation/ swelling but no bleeding?

though I am on PeP but still wanted to understand Risk.

please share your knowledge

I visited a sex worker for a foot fetish. I licked her feet, and afterwards I noticed that she had a wound on one of her feet. The wound came into contact with my tongue and the back of my throat, and now I'm worried that I might have HIV. "Is there a risk that I may have contracted HIV?"

Do i need PEP due to my condition?

So recently i got blowjob from a sex worker (around 5 seconds) and i stop her because I don't want to risk anything. I just got handjob, titjob and lastly blowjob (which i stop). But when i try to put my tissue (cleaning my cum) and i see there's red stain on the tissue that already inside the trashbin (not from my tissue but i don't know it its from the sex worker lipstick or previous client) Now, I got so stressed to assess this condition. Do i need PEP? I TOUCH THE TISSUE THAT HAVE RED STAIN WITH MY HAND {OUT OF CURIOSITY) at the clean part. After that i wash my hand and my lips.

Based all of the condition i mentioned here. Do i need PEP? Please help me, i'm scared

I had sex with this dude and we had unprotected oral sex and afterward we had protected anal sex. The condom didn't rip or slip off and he didn't ejaculate in my mouth. I asked him about his status, and he told me that he's on PREP but when he showed me the bottles, the medication he's taking is Fostemsavir which it's for people that being treated for multidrug-resistant hiv strain. I went to the ER 8 and half hours after the event to get started on PEP. Please tell me what's my chances of being HIV negative? Because I'm extremely nervous!!!

Edit:

Everyone telling me to get therapy over FAILING PEP with proof, is legally by definition insane.

I had high risk exposure, the most stressing period of my life attaining those pills. The moment I got them I had to take them, because I was at the medium hours mark already. I took them consistently for over a week, one day I missed by a few minutes and panicked thinking this meant the drug exited my system. With no one to speak to, I asked ai on advanced mode 'if like multiple minutes overdue was okay i'm panicked' Got some "Yes it's fine. Infact the drug levels stay safe and protectant up to a few hours but past 12 no. The 24 hour guideline is just for good measure, the drug levels don't drop in a dangerous way it's still inside your system"

dangerousway.

So.

I extended my time consistently for a few days, thinking it did nothing so why pause everything I'm doing to dig out my pills? It was better than scrambling for my pills when I was busy.

Then, 2 severely chaotic days I was out and about hanging onto my sanity physically and mentally in a very stressful circumstance, pills got out of my mind way before my system.

I missed 2 doses entirely by mistake, not stacked at least I think. And also both.. Delayed... I rarely took my pill right on time, it'd be off by half an hour, or 2 sometimes without strict adherence.

I finished my course, the last few days taking them with religious adherence to schedule, and early to make up for it in someway, heard 30 pills is more ununcommon, maybe that nurse nearly saved me.

Even if I didn't have HIV exposure truly, the fact of knowing I failed even if I didn't have it will leave an impact on me for life. The personal failure. Digs deeper than bones growing inside my body, integral and already shattered to my sense of self and esteem.

I'll never forget this

I hated blood tests. I have a massive phobia. I pass out. If I have HIV. That's 2 every year. 2 times I'll remember that only in my year, because pain is sharper than any other experience when you hate it, there's rarely anything that can make you pass out that's as memorable.

Fuck ai. Fuck hallucinations. Fuck danger assement assumption. Fuck AI because without it I would of adhered even if ignorant. Fuck AI for telling me point blank I was still protected past 24 hours, a hint of clarity could of saved me. A dot of code out of the trillions. Fuck them for wanting to charge me thousands. Fuck the person who did this to me.

Fuck promiscuity

I'm the result of billions of failed relationships.

((((

If Ai could of told me or anyone

"We can't say you'll be okay because the drug is the response, the disease is the attack. Missing a dose a little bit, can only be said to be okay against the measurment of your viral load..Which can't be known. So stick to 24 hours, that's where ambiguity is. Missing a dose or delayed, is a loss that can't be picked up and flipped because we don't know how big your viral load is"

Instead of hearing "a few minutes or an hour or so is okay it doesn't harm you, drug blood levels are consistent" this is like food chemicals in America, safe in that dose but never assessed out of that singularity.

))))

I do see my ccountability for not thinking more, but it doesn't make up for the treacherous fault AI had in this and its stupid language antics my brain didn't question...

Before I get taken down for hate speech. Me saying fuck people who sleep around that's why STDS spread is not hate, it's observation people.

I just need to get this off my chest.

I met a guy on Grindr. Before we met, I had brought condoms because I wanted to have protected sex. He told me beforehand that he wanted to do it without a condom and said that he was on PrEP. I told him that I wasn't on PrEP, so I wanted to use a condom.

When I got to his place, he started rubbing his penis against my anus. I asked about the condom, and he said he was just "playing." A few seconds later, he penetrated me. I questioned him again about the condom, but he kept going, and I eventually gave in. Looking back, I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life.

Afterward, he never replied to me again. I shared my social media with him, but he never followed me and completely ignored me. With so many red flags, I rushed to get PEP and started it less than 24 hours after the exposure.

Ever since then, I've been feeling like the stupidest person in the world. I keep asking myself: How could I let things get to that point? How could I have been so naive that I trusted the words of someone I had only just met on an app?

If all my tests are negative after finishing PEP, I'll feel like I was given a second chance at life. I know that people living with HIV can have long, healthy, and fulfilling lives, and I truly believe that. Even so, I can't help feeling terrified, especially because of the stigma that still exists.

I was the receptive partner, and he ejaculated inside me, so I know this was a high-risk exposure. I feel incredibly guilty and ashamed. I know there's nothing I can do now except complete PEP, get tested, and wait. I just really needed to tell someone how I've been feeling.

As for the side effects, I'm on day 6 of PEP and I haven't experienced any so far.

If you're reading this, please protect yourself. I can't stress that enough. The fear, anxiety, and emotional pain you feel after going through something like this are overwhelming. I wouldn't wish these feelings on anyone.

Sorry if this is a silly post.

I chew the skin on around and inside my mouth and lips a lot causing bleeding and small patches of pink raw skin. If I made out with someone who also had cuts in their mouth and blood, is it possible to get HIV this way? There may have been bleeding when it occurred. Assuming that person was HIV positive, do I need to get PEP or do something here?

I know you cannot get it from kissing but why about kissing with bleeding lips and mouth.

Has anyone experienced sides effects after pep... I jus took my last pep meds this past Friday and took a insti rapid hiv test at my appointment yesterday at the health department(negative results(.. however im currently still having muscle aches. What do yall think??

Hi guys.

Background story : I had unprotected sex (condom broke) with a HIV positive lady (tested her 48 hours after intercourse). Took my dosage 66-67 hours after exposure.

Just got my Gen4 results back 6 weeks post PEP and I’m negative!!

Lesson learned : Trust the process; PEP is brutal on the body and it varies from person to person. Sometimes you get side effects during the 28 days other times you get it after the 28 days. Please Don’t Stop taking your medication, sacrifice 28 days of drinking tablets instead of being on ARVS for the rest of your life.

I just had unprotected sex with a guy who says he is clean. He got tested recently according to him. Thing is he was an iv drug user who just got out of rehab 2 months ago. I barely know him. I’m freaking out. What should I do?

4th gen from vein

I could write paragraphs explaining how effective pep is and how unlikely it is to get hiv.

But after 70 days of being in the shoes of someone who is worrying about getting hiv, I know sometimes hearing the scientific facts do not help much.

All I can say is, if you took pep you’ll be ok.

Helpful sites-
Ibase
AIDS map

Only take advice from mods, most people on this sub Reddit behave like they’re doctors or have degrees and certainly do not.

Lastly, we all make mistakes. Going over it in your head won’t change anything. I had to come back from travelling Asia to uk as I worried that much so I know how the regret feels.

Goodbye forever

My id doctor is saying I should do, I am super worried.
When to stop testing, I tested negative 3 months after exposure using 4gen lab test.

So last night I had sex with a guy raw , I know I’m stupid, but now I’ve been worried all day thinking if I could get a STI. But I never got treatment for anything sex related so I’m so lost. Read about pep and how I can just go to planned parenthood and get it. Also a shot to prevent anything else. Only thing is I’m on my parents insurance and don’t want them to know about it. I’m over 21 tho. But then again I’m thinking if I even need it maybe I’m just over reacting, he said the last time he had sex was may. But I don’t want to wait and then have problems In a few months. Please if anyone can help.

Last December, I completed a course of PEP medication after a previous exposure. I kept reydin tablet one remaining tablet because the person later tested HIV negative, so I wasn’t worried anymore.

Recently, I had another exposure when the condom broke, and we ended up having unprotected sex. Within about one hour, I immediately took the one PEP tablet I had kept before going to the hospital. Later, I found out that she is HIV positive and not on treatment. I was then prescribed Telatri and started taking it immediately.

My anxiety has been overwhelming. The moment I found out she was HIV positive, it felt like my whole world crashed. My head was spinning, and I felt like my life flashed before my eyes. Today is Day 8 of taking PEP, and I have been taking it as prescribed.

If I complete the full 28-day course correctly, what are my chances of remaining HIV negative? Can I still become HIV positive even if I complete the medication properly? I am struggling with intense anxiety and would really appreciate some reassurance and guidance.

I have Descovy as PrEP on hand and thought you could do the “PrEP on demand” thing where you take 2 tablets prior
To sex, then 1 the next day and another 1 the following.

After many months inactive, I took 2 Descovy tablets on Monday, proceeded to have to have unprotected sex with someone. After the fact they told me they weren’t actually on PrEP and it just went downhill from there.

I got myself dressed and out of there, drove straight to an Urgent Care. They had no idea what PEP was, just PrEP. So was a lot of self advocacy here. Eventually got a prescription for Travada alone, so had to go to the ER and advocate again for myself to get the Tivicay prescription as well.

For good measure they gave me a shot to cure bacterial STIs and gave me DoxyPEP as well. I’m now on day 6 post exposure. The DoxyPEP was a little rough on my stomach, but knock on wood feeling ok so far.

I’m really disappointed in myself for being foolish, and getting wrapped up in the moment and losing my head. This has been a big lesson for me, and I just hope I don’t have to pay the consequences for a lifetime.

Hey! Looking for advice on whether this situation warrants taking the 28-day PEP course. Last night I topped 5 or 6 men without a condom. I’m not on PrEP, but I’m HIV negative.

I’m not entirely sure of the HIV status of all of these partners and since I didn’t use protection I’m wondering if this situation warrants PEP or if it’s overkill given that the odds of getting HIV from topping are low. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

Last night at 3am i had unprotected sex at a party , i saw her snort coke, im 90% sure shes a hooker. I ejacualted in her once. Should i start PEP what are my chances of catching something ?

I head PEP is pretty hard on the body is that true ? . Please help me out im scared.

Hello - a week back, i had the following incident-
I visited a massage parlor, massage parlor lady was testing for some blood test using a finger prick by lancet. She has some blood on her finger, around 15 minutes later she gave me a hand job using the same hand with pricked finger which probably had same blood.

I panicked and asked her to stop as i remember she had blood on her finger.

I am not sure what category this risk would be, as there are possibility of her hand having some blood and touching my urethra. Overnight i was very stressed and next day i went Urgent care and got pep, i started pep around 36 hours and i am still on prep.

I did ask drs on askexpertsnow they said this is no risk as its just skin touch, but they dont think urethra touching is any risk.

I asked the lady to take a test, she was okay and she did HIV RNA PCR Qualitative and HIV 4th Gen Ag/Ab lab test three days later which are non reactive.

I am not sure what should i do next? Should i continue the pep or stop it? Also i read that when blood exposures or blood splash happens to mucous membrane( eye/mouth/nose) in medical setting, if the source patient is tested negative they do not continue to have pep.

Has anyone been through this kind of exposure. I am more worried since it is blood exposure, if HIV RNA was in window period can they still transmit HiV.

Edit: i am aware if someone is undetected using rna, they cannot transmit it through sexual exposure, however i am not sure if its true for blood exposures. Also, not sure if my exposure is sexual or blood exposure to mucous membrane.

TLDR: had blood exposure on penis from masseuse pricked finger, got pep next day. Masseuse test d negative for RNA and Ag/Ab 3 days later, should i continue pep or stop it? Am i still at risk if RNA was in window period

Recently, I went to a massage parlor for the first time. The person who massaged me was a trans woman. After the massage, she performed deep throat and deep kissing. After finishing the session, I went home and started to regret it. I thought it was risk-free, but after doing some reading, I decided to see a doctor.

The doctor recommended that I start PEP treatment. I took my first PEP pill (Mitravir) about 41 hours after the exposure. Now I am on day 6 of the treatment.

The only thing I hate about this medication is that it causes severe anxiety and a very uneasy feeling.

Do you guys think it is possible for me to catch the virus?

Hi all. I (male) had unprotected vaginal sex with a cis-female of unknown status October 2025. Started PEP 17 hrs later and tested negative using 4th generation antibody/antigen vein drawn tests at baseline (week 0), 6 weeks post exposure (2 weeks pep completion), and 13 weeks post exposure (9 weeks post pep completion).

Based on UK/US/Aus guidelines I figured I was in the clear, and my GP thought I was crazy for taking pep and testing so much anyway (based on incredibly low incidence rates where i live).

Now 8 months post exposure I’ve developed a flu type illness and I’ve stupidly gone down the Google rabbit hole. My worry is: that I tested too early (that im an outlier), and that I’m somehow seroconverting 8 months later.

Chat GPT suggests no need to test again and I find the whole experience harrowing, but looking for confirmation that I’m being ridiculous 🙏🏻