u/WishboneAccording643

Hi all - I'm STRUGGLING BADLY with HIV anxiety and need to chat here and hoping for some reassuring advice.

I had two unprotected vaginal exposures that I'm scared about:

• June 13th: he ejaculated inside me.
  • Negative HIV test on July 9th (26 days after)
• June 22nd: unprotected vaginal sex, but he did not ejaculate inside me.
  • Negative HIV test on July 9th (17 days after)

QUESTION: How reassuring is my July 9th negative for these two exposures?

I'm really scared and my anxiety is getting OUT OF CONTROL.

Please help. I'm terrified right now and I'm spiraling.

Thanks in advance!

Hi all - I really could use some advice. I had one episode of unprotected vaginal sex. No condom, and he did not ejaculate inside me. I had tested negative after being with him about a year ago, but I don't know his current status.

I started Biktarvy for PEP on August 4, about 67 hours after the exposure. I took 4 pills (Aug 4–7), then accidentally missed 7 consecutive days (Aug 8–14).

I realized what happened and took my next pill today, August 15.

I'm really nervous and honestly panicking because I know PEP is supposed to be taken every day for 28 days.

• Did I seriously compromise the PEP by missing 7 days this early on?
• Should I just continue taking one pill every day from here, or does missing 5 consecutive days mean I need to do something different/restart or extend the course?

The clinic is closed until Monday, so I'm trying to figure out what I should do in the meantime.

I'm really scared that I messed this up and I might have gotten HIV.

Has anyone experienced a similar interruption with PEP and what did you do? Please help and thank you in advance!

Update: I deleted my previous post because there have been a few developments, and I have some new HireRight specific questions.

I recently accepted a job offer and just completed my HireRight background check.

I had a very short term job (about 2.5 months) that I didn't mention during the interview process because the company was using an older resume I had submitted months before I accepted that position. I also knew I was leaving the job, it was in a different industry, and I was concerned mentioning such a short stint would hurt my chances.

I also froze my The Work Number (TWN) report, although I confirmed before freezing it that the short term job does appear there.

The HireRight application ONLY asked for my full name, current address, and SSN.

My questions:

• If my TWN is frozen, what happens if HireRight tries to verify my employment?
• Will HireRight contact me if they can't access my TWN report?
• Does the fact they didn't ask for my employment history suggest employment verification isn't part of my background check?

Has anyone experienced something similar with HireRight?

Thanks again for any insight!

Hi everyone! I genuinely need some fast guidance. I just accepted a dream job offer after leaving a very toxic job, and I'm waiting for the background check process to begin.

I applied months ago with a resume that was accurate at the time. After applying, I accepted another job, worked there for about 2.5 months, and resigned yesterday.

When the hiring company contacted me, the interview process continued using my original resume.

During my first interview, I was asked why I left my last job, and I explained why I left and that I had taken a break afterward.

During my final interview, I was specifically asked, "When did you leave your last company?" and I answered with "in 2025 since then I've taken my time to recharge and look for a job that was the right fit".

In both interviews, I answered based on my resume and didn't mention the 2.5 month job because it had only lasted 2.5 months, I already knew I was leaving, and I was afraid it would hurt my chances.

I also checked my TWN (The Work Number) report, and the 2.5 month job does appear there.

My questions:

• If the background check asks for my employment history, should I list the 2.5 month job even though it wasn't on my resume AND I DID NOT MENTION it in the interview when they asked?
• Will the employer see everything I enter on the background check form, or just the final report (pass/fail)?

I know I could have handled this differently, but I'm just trying to do the right thing going forward. I really need this job and would sincerely appreciate any advice.

Thank you kindly!

P.S. I'm in the USA

Hi everyone! Please be patient with me on this one. I had to repost to change my wording.

I just accepted a dream job offer after leaving a very toxic job, and I’m waiting for the background check process to begin.

I applied months ago with a resume that was accurate at the time. After applying, I accepted another job, worked there for about 2.5 months, and resigned yesterday because it was not the right fit.

When the hiring company contacted me, the interview process continued using my original resume.

• During my first interview, I was asked why I left my last job, and I explained why I left and that I had taken a break afterward.
• During my final interview, I was specifically asked, “When did you leave your last company?” and I answered, “In 2025. Since then, I’ve taken my time to recharge and look for a job that was the right fit.”

The concern I have is that the 2.5 month job was omitted from both my resume and my verbal answers during the interview process. I answered based on the information that was on my original resume. I didn't bring up the short term job because it was only 2.5 months, I already knew I was leaving, and I was afraid that mentioning such a short employment period could hurt my chances or cause them to withdraw from the process.

***I also checked my TWN (The Work Number) report, and the 2.5 month job does appear there which is now frozen.

My questions are:

• If the background check asks for my employment history, should I list the 2.5 month job even though it was not included on my resume and I did NOT mention it during the interviews?
• Will the employer see everything I enter on the background check form, or do they typically only receive the final report/results?

I know I could have handled this differently, but I’m trying to do the right thing going forward. I really need this job and would sincerely appreciate any advice.

Thank you kindly!

P.S. I’m in the USA.

Hi everyone! Please be patient with me on this one. I genuinely need some fast guidance. I just accepted a dream job offer after leaving a very toxic job, and I’m waiting for the background check process to begin.

I applied months ago with a resume that was accurate at the time. After applying, I accepted another job, worked there for about 2.5 months, and resigned yesterday because it was not the right fit.

When the hiring company contacted me, the interview process continued using my original resume.

• During my first interview, I was asked why I left my last job, and I explained why I left and that I had taken a break afterward.
• During my final interview, I was specifically asked, “When did you leave your last company?” and I answered, “In 2025. Since then, I’ve taken my time to recharge and look for a job that was the right fit.”

The concern I have is that the 2.5 month job was omitted from both my resume and my verbal answers during the interview process. I answered based on the information that was on my original resume. I didn't bring up the short term job because it was only 2.5 months, I already knew I was leaving, and I was afraid that mentioning such a short employment period could hurt my chances or cause them to withdraw from the process.

***I also checked my TWN (The Work Number) report, and the 2.5 month job does appear there which is now frozen.

My questions are:

• If the background check asks for my employment history, should I list the 2.5 month job even though it was not included on my resume and I did NOT mention it during the interviews?
• Will the employer see everything I enter on the background check form, or do they typically only receive the final report/results?

I know I could have handled this differently, but I’m trying to do the right thing going forward. I really need this job and would sincerely appreciate any advice.

Thank you kindly!

P.S. I’m in the USA.

Hi everyone! Please be patient with me on this one. I genuinely need some fast guidance. I just accepted a dream job offer after leaving a very toxic job, and I’m waiting for the background check process to begin.

I applied months ago with a resume that was accurate at the time. After applying, I accepted another job, worked there for about 2.5 months, and resigned yesterday because it was not the right fit.

When the hiring company contacted me, the interview process continued using my original resume.

• During my first interview, I was asked why I left my last job, and I explained why I left and that I had taken a break afterward.
• During my final interview, I was specifically asked, “When did you leave your last company?” and I answered, “In 2025. Since then, I’ve taken my time to recharge and look for a job that was the right fit.”

The concern I have is that the 2.5 month job was omitted from both my resume and my verbal answers during the interview process. I answered based on the information that was on my original resume. I didn't bring up the short term job because it was only 2.5 months, I already knew I was leaving, and I was afraid that mentioning such a short employment period could hurt my chances or cause them to withdraw from the process.

***I also checked my TWN (The Work Number) report, and the 2.5 month job does appear there which is now frozen.

My questions are:

• If the background check asks for my employment history, should I list the 2.5 month job even though it was not included on my resume and I did not mention it during the interviews?
• Will the employer see everything I enter on the background check form, or do they typically only receive the final report/results?

I know I could have handled this differently, but I’m trying to do the right thing going forward. I really need this job and would sincerely appreciate any advice.

Thank you kindly!

P.S. I’m in the USA.

Hi everyone! I just accepted a dream job offer, but I'm anxious about the upcoming background check.

Months ago, I applied using a resume that was 100% accurate at the time. However, while waiting to hear back, I accepted a different role. I worked there for just 2.5 months before resigning today.

Because the interview process for this new dream job moved so fast and was based on my older application, I didn't update them about the brief stint.

During the final interview, I referred to my older employer as my most recent. I kept quiet about the 2.5 month job because it was so short, I knew I was leaving, and I didn't want to hurt my chances.

Now I'm waiting for the background check paperwork.

I have a few questions for anyone who has been through this:

1. Am I overthinking this, or could this discrepancy jeopardize my offer?
2. If the background check form asks for my employment history, should I list this short term job or match my resume?

I really appreciate any advice on how to handle this. Thank you!

P.S. Again, as a reminder, when asked in my final interview, I did not mention this short term role. I said my last job on my resume was my last job.

Hi all! I recently received a job offer and they will be sending the background check paperwork soon. I’m worried about a short term job that is not on my resume.

The company reached out based on an older resume/application I submitted months ago. At that time, my resume was accurate and my last employer listed was my previous company.

After submitting that resume, I accepted another job and worked there for about 2 months and 2 weeks and resigned today.

Because the company was using my older resume, I continued with that version during the interview process and...

PLEASE NOTE: During my final interview, I was asked about my background/previous experience, and I referred to my previous employer as my last job keeping to what's on my resume. I didn't bring up the short term role because it was very brief, I already knew I was leaving, and I was worried it could hurt my chances.

Now I’m waiting for the background check paperwork and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t know what type of background check they're running or whether employment verification will be included.

One thing to mention is that this job does show on my TWN (the work number report) even though it was so short term).

• How would you handle this situation?
  • If asked on a background check form, etc.?
• Am I overthinking this, or could this jeopardize the offer?
• Should I email the recruiter and ask what type of background check to expect? Or just wait?

Please help. This is my dream job and everything happened so fast. I’m looking for advice from anyone who has been through something similar.

Thanks in advance!

P.S. Please no judgment. I’m already stressed about this and I’m trying to figure out the best way to handle it.

I had my final interview for a job that I truly want and need, and I’m asking for your prayers as I wait for a decision.

Please pray that God blesses this opportunity, gives the hiring team wisdom and clarity, helps them see my strengths, my skills, and the value I can bring to the team, and that I receive a job offer soon.

Please also pray that if there was anything I wish I had said differently or any answer that wasn’t perfect, it fades from their minds and that they remember the overall impression I made and why I’m a great fit for the role.

Please pray that God gives me peace and calms my anxiety while I wait, because the waiting is the hardest part for me.

Finally, please pray that this would be a healthy, supportive workplace where I can grow, succeed, and use the gifts God has given me.

Thank you so much to everyone who takes a moment to pray for me. God bless. ❤️

I had a final interview yesterday for a role I'm really excited about. It was about 3 hours long and included four separate interviews with different people.

The first three interviews felt great. They were conversational, I answered confidently, and one interviewer even said things like, "You're killing it" and "Wow, another great answer," during a couple of my responses.

The fourth interview was with the Recruiting & Development Manager. She was professional, more serious, and asked the toughest behavioral questions. I answered every question, but I definitely felt more nervous and don't think I gave my strongest responses. I think that's cause for some of them I rambled and gave answers but she came back with "but can you explain more", etc. and her last question I had to ask her to repeat the 2nd part cause it was a hard two part question.

By that point, I'd been interviewing for almost three hours and was mentally exhausted. She even commented that it had been a long day before we wrapped up. After the interview, she reviewed the benefits package and explained the next steps, saying the team would meet Thursday to discuss candidates and hoped to have a decision by Friday.

I sent personalized thank you emails to everyone afterward. The hiring manager replied that she appreciated my interest and excitement for the role and said they'd be in touch after the interview process was complete. Another interviewer replied saying it was a pleasure meeting me and that if I had any questions during the rest of the process, I should reach out.

For those of you who hire or have been on interview panels or had a similar experience:

• How much weight does one weaker interview usually carry compared with three stronger ones?
• When a team meets after a panel interview, is the decision typically based on everyone's feedback together, or can one interviewer's opinion outweigh the others?
• Are the responses I received to my thank you emails fairly standard, or do they suggest my candidacy is still being viewed positively?

I'm trying to set realistic expectations while I wait and would appreciate any insight from people who've been on the hiring side or in a similar situation.

Thanks in advance!

I had a final interview yesterday for a role I'm really excited about. It was about 3 hours long and included four separate interviews with different people.

The first three interviews felt great. They were conversational, I answered confidently, and one interviewer even said things like, "You're killing it" and "Wow, another great answer," during a couple of my responses.

The fourth interview was with the Recruiting & Development Manager. She was professional, more serious, and asked the toughest behavioral questions. I answered every question, but I definitely felt more nervous and don't think I gave my strongest responses. I think that's cause for some of them I rambled and gave answers but she came back with "but can you explain more", etc. and her last question I had to ask her to repeat the 2nd part cause it was a hard two part question.

By that point, I'd been interviewing for almost three hours and was mentally exhausted. She even commented that it had been a long day before we wrapped up. After the interview, she reviewed the benefits package and explained the next steps, saying the team would meet Thursday to discuss candidates and hoped to have a decision by Friday.

I sent personalized thank you emails to everyone afterward. The hiring manager replied that she appreciated my interest and excitement for the role and said they'd be in touch after the interview process was complete. Another interviewer replied saying it was a pleasure meeting me and that if I had any questions during the rest of the process, I should reach out.

For those of you who hire or have been on interview panels or had a similar experience:

• How much weight does one weaker interview usually carry compared with three stronger ones?
• When a team meets after a panel interview, is the decision typically based on everyone's feedback together, or can one interviewer's opinion outweigh the others?
• Are the responses I received to my thank you emails fairly standard, or do they suggest my candidacy is still being viewed positively?

I'm trying to set realistic expectations while I wait and would appreciate any insight from people who've been on the hiring side or in a similar situation.

Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone! I have my final interview for what feels like my dream job on Tuesday, and I'm both excited and nervous.

The interview is scheduled for about 3 hours. It starts with a tour of the office, followed by five separate 30 minute one on one meetings with people from different departments. It is not a panel interview. The hiring manager told me this is usually pretty relaxed rather than overly formal.

I've never had a final interview set up like this, so I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something similar.

• What kinds of questions should I expect?
• Will each person likely ask the same questions, or are they usually looking for different things?
• How would you recommend preparing?
• Are there any mistakes I should avoid?

I usually interview pretty well, but this format is new to me.

Also, is getting to this stage generally a good sign that an offer is a real possibility, or is it still pretty much anyone's game?

This opportunity means a lot to me, and I really want this job. I'd truly appreciate any advice, tips, or insight you can share. ❤️

If you freeze your The Work Number (TWN) account, is that considered a red flag during an employment background check?

I'm also trying to understand exactly how TWN works today. If you could please help with these particular questions:

• Does a prospective employer only receive the specific employment information they ask TWN to verify?
• Or can they request or receive your entire employment history/report?
• Can employers view your full TWN report themselves, or does TWN only provide the information requested?

Also, if an employer asks why your TWN is frozen, would it be reasonable to simply say you froze it because of the Equifax/data breaches and you're proactive about protecting your personal information?

Has anyone actually had an employer question them about having it frozen?

I'd appreciate any insight from HR, recruiters, or anyone familiar with how TWN employment verifications work.

Thanks in advance!

If you freeze your The Work Number (TWN) account, is that considered a red flag during an employment background check?

I'm also trying to understand exactly how TWN works today. Can you please answer these specific questions? Thanks!

• Does a prospective employer only receive the specific employment information they ask TWN to verify?
• Or can they request or receive your entire employment history/report?
• Can employers view your full TWN report themselves, or does TWN only provide the information requested?

Also, if an employer asks why your TWN is frozen, would it be reasonable to simply say you froze it because of the Equifax/data breaches and you're proactive about protecting your personal information?

Has anyone actually had an employer question them about having it frozen?

I'd appreciate any insight from HR, recruiters, or anyone familiar with how TWN employment verifications work.

Thanks in advance!

I'm looking for objective advice because I'm at my breaking point.

I started a new job about 10 weeks ago, and I've realized it's an extremely toxic environment for me. I've tried everything I can to make it work, documented my concerns, communicated them to leadership, and even involved HR. Unfortunately, nothing has changed, and I don't feel like my concerns are being heard or addressed.

My anxiety has become overwhelming. I'm losing sleep, dreading going to work every day, and my mental health has taken a significant hit. At this point, I genuinely don't believe this job is salvageable.

I have a final round interview next Tuesday with another company that I really want to work for. I don't have an offer yet.

One thing I've also been thinking about is that if I resign now, I probably won't have to discuss this current job during my final interview since I applied before I started this one, so it isn't on the resume they have. Of course, if I'm offered the job, I would disclose it appropriately during any background check or employment paperwork.

Financially, I have some savings, but if this interview doesn't work out, I may need to access my 401(k) for a short period while I continue my job search. I know that's generally not recommended, so I'm trying to weigh whether protecting my mental health is worth the financial risk.

If you were in my position, what would you do?

• Stay until another offer comes through, even though it's affecting your mental health?
• Resign now and focus on interviewing?
• Would you ever consider using your 401(k) as a temporary bridge if your mental health had reached this point?
• I could also look for contract/temp work until something else comes through.

I'd really appreciate objective advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation. I normally would NEVER even ask this but this is really affecting me and I don't want to have a stroke over this. I'm seriously having chest pains.

So please be kind. Thanks in advance!

Looking for advice from anyone who has dealt with this.

My ex husband and I divorced in 2023, but I am still on his General Motors employer sponsored health insurance. The divorce was never reported to his benefits department, so they don't I’m no longer his spouse.

I now have my own health insurance through my employer and have not used his insurance for the past month or two. There was also no additional premium being paid for me to remain on the plan.

He's worried about contacting GM benefits to remove me because he thinks they may ask for proof, see that we divorced in 2023, and there could be consequences. I understand his concern, but I also don't want to stay on a plan I'm no longer be eligible for.

For anyone who has been through this:

• What usually happens when a former spouse is removed after the divorce was not reported right away?
• Do employers typically just remove them going forward, or do they look back to the divorce date?
• Could there be issues if there have been no recent claims?

I’m not trying to avoid doing the right thing. I want to be removed but he's worried about what might happen. I’m just trying to understand what to expect before contacting benefits.

P.S. I'm really nervous but I know that his ex wife was on his insurance after they divorced for about 5 years until we got married and he added me. Nothing bad happened?

If this is really bad can I go to jail? Lose my job?

Hi all! I'm in the final interview stage for what is honestly my dream job, and I'm worried I've created a messed up situation.

The company received a resume I submitted in February, before I started my current job, so my current position wasn't on it.

During my first two interviews, we discussed my work history. I talked about my previous long term position (3 years) as my most recent role and explained that I'd been intentional about finding the right next opportunity. I didn't mention my current job because I've only been there since May, already know it's not a good fit, and honestly didn't think to bring it up given how short it's been.

So again, this company DOESN'T know about my current role.

Now I'm meeting with five people for the final interview.

My concern is that if I suddenly mention my current job now, they're going to wonder why I didn't mention it in my first two interviews when we specifically discussed my work history.

At this point, would you:

• Continue with my original answer of not having worked or done anything since my last role? since it wasn't discussed with the recruiter or hiring manager?
• Disclose only on my background check form if they have one?

For additional context, my work history before this has been very stable (7 years, then 3 years), and my current role is in a completely different industry than the position I'm interviewing for.

Please help! This is my dream job.

Hi all! I'm in the final interview stage for what is honestly my dream job, and I'm worried I've created a messed up situation.

The company received a resume I submitted in February, before I started my current job, so my current position wasn't on it.

During my first two interviews, we discussed my work history. I talked about my previous long term position (3 years) as my most recent role and explained that I'd been intentional about finding the right next opportunity. I didn't mention my current job because I've only been there since May, already know it's not a good fit, and honestly didn't think to bring it up given how short it's been.

Now I'm meeting with five people for the final interview.

My concern is that if I suddenly mention my current job now, they're going to wonder why I didn't mention it in my first two interviews when we specifically discussed my work history.

At this point, would you:

• Continue the interview process without bringing up the current job unless someone directly asks if you're currently employed?
• Or bring it up now during the final interview, even though it wasn't discussed with the recruiter or hiring manager?

If I receive an offer, I would of course accurately complete any background check paperwork if it asks for current employment.

For additional context, my work history before this has been very stable (7 years, then 3 years), and my current role is in a completely different industry than the position I'm interviewing for.

Please help! This is my dream job.

Hi all. I need advice badly because I’m struggling to trust my own judgment. I tried to make this as short as possible.

I spent years in a domestically abusive marriage where I was trained to stay quiet, swallow my boundaries, and blame myself for someone else’s moods. I have worked incredibly hard to rebuild my confidence, independence, and ability to trust myself.

I’m generally an independent person and I’m starting to find my confidence again, but the man I’m dating is starting to make my stomach twist into knots. I can’t tell if I’m recognizing unhealthy behavior or if my past is making me hypervigilant.

I’m 51 and he’s 38. We’ve been seeing each other casually for a couple of months. When we are apart, his texts are very flirty and affectionate. But when we are together, I sometimes feel like I’m being monitored, criticized, or corrected. At the same time, it’s not all negative…we do have fun together, laugh, and there are moments where he is very sweet and affectionate.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that sometimes his energy in person feels very rushed and intense. It’s not every single time, but it happens often. There are dates where he seems unable to slow down, and the pace can feel chaotic. Sometimes I feel like I’m trying to keep up with his energy rather than just relaxing and enjoying being together.

These are the things that have been bothering me:

• ⁠Around our second date, he started commenting on my makeup. He said, “How is your lipstick so perfect?” and “I don’t like when women wear a lot of makeup.”
. Our last three dates, because I’ve had lipstick on he won’t kiss me because he says he’s allergic to lipstick and breaks out.
• ⁠He has asked me multiple times if I’m wearing makeup, including when we were in the pool.
. When we were in the pool at the same time, he made a comment that I have touched my hair four times since being in the pool.
• ⁠When he arrived at my house one time, one of the first things he said was, “Oh great, you have makeup on so I can’t kiss you.” “you don’t need makeup you’re beautiful without it”.
• ⁠He has told me to take my sunglasses off so he could see my eyes.
• ⁠During a date, I had to use the bathroom a few times after drinking, and he said, “I’ve never met anyone who has to go to the bathroom as much as you do.”
• ⁠While I was telling him a story, he repeatedly took photos of me. I asked him to stop, and instead of respecting that, he said, “I’m going to mess with you because I don’t have anyone else to mess with.”
• ⁠I had offered to treat him to pizza. While we were at the restaurant, I stepped away briefly to look at the decor. He loudly yelled my name across the restaurant and when I came back, he said, “You said this was your treat.” It felt embarrassing and unnecessary.
• ⁠He talks over text about missing me physically, but when we are together, he has stopped initiating kissing or sex for several dates.
• ⁠He frequently talks about how much he hates his family and calls his mother a narcissist. He says he will never speak to her again.
⁠• ⁠We’ve had deep conversations and I know he has a lot of trauma
• ⁠During one date, he was anxiously reading grocery labels, saying things like, “I’m so damn insecure,” and “I probably have cancer.”

The confusing part is that he can also be sweet. He sends affectionate texts, calls us “cuties,” and there are moments where I feel close to him.

But when we are together, I feel like I’m constantly monitoring myself thinking:

• Am I doing something wrong?
• Is he judging me?
• Am I annoying him?
• Am I going to get criticized for something else?

Because of my past, I’m terrified of swallowing my voice again and slowly accepting behavior that chips away at my confidence.

I don’t want to unfairly label someone who may just be insecure, stressed, or have a different personality.

But I also don’t want to ignore my gut.

Do these behaviors sound like normal quirks from an insecure/stressed person, or are these the kinds of early warning signs you would take seriously?

Thanks in advance for your feedback and support.

P.S. He also seems very restless and unsettled in life. He often talks about wanting big changes (hating his job, wanting to move to Florida, then changing his mind). It feels like he is always searching for something else and doesn’t seem very content or at peace.