u/WishboneAccording643

Hi all! I work from home 2 days a week and I’m trying to decide where to put a desk in my apartment.

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Option 1: In the living room, to the left of my couch where the plants currently are.

Option 2: In my bedroom.

I always hear bedrooms should stay work free for better sleep/relaxation, but I’m worried a desk in the living room could make the space feel cramped and I would think about work a ton in there too since I'm always in there for other than sleeping.

I recently bought this jute/warm wood mirror to replace the black one above the couch, so the apartment is moving toward a warmer “modern organic” look.

Also, the dining table next to this and my tv stand are a warm walnut wood color.

Would you put the desk in the living room or bedroom? And would you go with warm wood or black for the desk?

Thanks!

P.S. Please don't mind the mess. I'm under the weather and haven't kept up.

Hi beauties! I work from home 2 days a week and I’m trying to decide where to put a desk in my apartment.

Option 1: In the living room, to the left of my couch where the plants currently are.

Option 2: In my bedroom.

I always hear bedrooms should stay work free for better sleep/relaxation, but I’m worried a desk in the living room could make the space feel cramped and I would think about work a ton in there too since I'm always in there for other than sleeping.

I recently bought this jute/warm wood mirror to replace the black one above the couch, so the apartment is moving toward a warmer “modern organic” look.

Also, the dining table next to this and my tv stand are a warm walnut wood color.

Would you put the desk in the living room or bedroom? And would you go with warm wood or black for the desk?

Thanks!

P.S. Please don't mind the mess. I'm under the weather and haven't kept up.

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Hi all! I'm trying to figure out the smartest way to tackle my credit card debt and would appreciate advice. The total is $15,146.00. I couldn't revise my subject header.

Current balances:

• Capital One — $4,047 @ 25.40%
• Citi — $11,099 @ 22.24%
  • This was from another card consolidated balance transfer
  • currently interest-free, but interest starts 7/6/2026

Assets:

• ~$39k in 401k
• ~$2,470 in savings

I’m debating:

• whether touching my 401k is ever worth it for high interest debt
• or just leaving retirement/savings mostly alone and aggressively paying these down normally

I work full time and want to get ahead of this before the Citi promo ends. I know 401k withdrawals usually come with taxes and penalties, so I’m hesitant to do something stupid out of panic and need advice on a solid plan to get this tackled quickly.

What would you do in this situation? Thanks!

Hi all! I’m a 51 year old female, around 140 lbs, and I’m trying to tighten/tone my inner thighs, upper arms, and butt/glutes. I work out at home only via youtube videos.

Current routine:

• 3 days/week: 30 min indoor walking workouts
• 3 days/week: 30–40 min full body dumbbell workouts with 10 lb weights

I definitely feel stronger, but those areas are true problem areas for me. Especially my inner thighs. I attached a photo for reference because that’s the area I’m most insecure about, and I’m really hoping to improve it through exercise instead of eventually feeling like I need lipo or surgery.

One issue is lower back pain. Regular squats flare it up, but I can do sumo squats, forward lunges, and reverse lunges without a problem.

At this point, do I mainly need:

• heavier weights?
• more protein?
• different exercises?
• lipo or thigh lift?

I’d love to work with a trainer or lift heavier at a gym, but financially that’s not possible right now, so I’m trying to get the best results I can at home.

Any realistic advice from women 50+ or anyone experienced with body recomposition/toning would be appreciated. Could use the advice as I'm terribly insecure about this.

Thanks!

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So right now I have my thongs with his hardened semen on them.

Is there any easy spell I can do using this to make him obsessed with me or fall deeply in love with me and commit to me that will work?

Can I do a honey jar and put them in there with the honey, his name written 3 times with mine over it 3 times, fold it towards me 3 times and any other intentions or things I want?

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I’m not asking for advice thank you!

P.S. I've never done this so need details!

I’m stressing myself out over a HireRight background check and could really use advice.

I just got an offer for my dream job and I’m SO excited, but now I’m panicking about one thing.

I was only at my current/most recent job for 5 weeks. It ended up being a terrible fit and completely different than what was described, so I kept interviewing and ended up getting this new offer pretty quickly. Since it was only a few weeks, I left it off my resume.

The new company never had me fill out a formal application, they only got my resume, but now HireRight has a section where I manually enter past employers for the background check.

So now I don’t know what to do.

Do I include the short term job in HireRight even though it wasn’t on my resume? Or do I only enter the jobs that were actually on my resume?

And if I DON’T enter it, is there a strong chance HireRight finds/shows it anyway somehow because of payroll records or something?

I’m not trying to hide anything maliciously at all. It was literally just a few weeks and I didn’t think it was worth putting on my resume, especially because I was actively interviewing elsewhere already.

I really do not want to jeopardize this offer over handling this incorrectly. Has anyone dealt with this before? Please help.

What to do?

Hi everyone! I just accepted a dream job offer and I’m about to go through a HireRight background check. I’m a little unsure how this process actually works, so I’m hoping someone here can clarify.

I had a job recently that I was only in for about 5 weeks. I left because it wasn’t really what was described to me and it just wasn’t a good fit. When I applied for this new job, I used an older resume that didn’t include that role since it was so short.

Now I’m wondering how something like that is typically handled. I don’t know exactly what HireRight looks at or pulls, so I’m not sure if it would even come up.

My questions are:

• Do short term jobs like that usually come up in a background check if they weren’t on a resume?
• Do I have to enter it on a HireRight application and then is it flagged for not being on my resume?
• If it does come up, what usually happens? Is it a big deal or just something they ask about?
• What’s the best way to explain it if it gets flagged?

I wasn’t trying to hide anything, it just felt like such a short stint that I didn’t think it made sense to include at the time.

Any insight would really help. I’m just trying to understand what to expect and what to say. This is my dream job and I'm worried a little now.

Thanks!

Hi all - I could really use some help. I started a new job about a month ago after being let go from my previous role in October 2025 due to company downsizing. I was out of work for a bit and needed something quickly because my unemployment was running out. I had a general sense the role might not be perfect, but I took it hoping it would be stable and workable.

Unfortunately, it’s not turning out to be a good fit.

The role was described one way in the interview, but once I started, it's very different. There is a lot more micromanaging than I expected, unclear ownership of tasks, and constant overlap in responsibilities. It’s also a very fast paced, reactive environment, which doesn’t match how I was led to believe the role would function.

The culture is also much more rigid, old fashioned and closely monitored than what was described, and I’m finding it hard to work effectively in that kind of structure.

At this point (about one month in), I already feel like it’s not going to be sustainable long term, and I’m trying to figure out the best way forward.

My main questions are:

• Is it reasonable to leave a job this early if it’s clearly not a good fit?
• Should I include a 1 month role like this on my resume or leave it off?
• What do I tell new employers if I get interviews again once I start looking? As far as why I left?

I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed and disappointed because I really did try to give it a fair shot, but it just doesn’t seem aligned with how I work best.

Any advice or perspective would really help.

Hi all! I workout at home by YouTube full body dumbbell workouts, but many of them include bent over back moves (like rows or reverse flys).

I don’t have a bench. Only dumbbells so asking SPECIFICALLY about dumbbell alternatives.

The issue for me is that hinging forward like that sometimes flares my SI joint, so I’m trying to avoid those positions.

Does anyone have good alternative dumbbell back exercises I can do in place of those moves while following along?

Ideally looking for:

- upright or supported options

- something I can swap in quickly without disrupting the workout

Just trying to stay consistent without irritating my back while working my lower and upper back.

Thanks in advance! 💪🏽

Hi all! I workout at home by YouTube full body dumbbell workouts, but many of them include bent over back moves (like rows or reverse flys).

***PLEASE NOTE: I DON’T have a bench and I don’t have room for one. Only dumbbells at home and the workouts are mostly standing so asking SPECIFICALLY about dumbbell alternatives.***

The issue for me is that hinging forward or bending forward at all like that sometimes flares my SI joint, so I’m trying to avoid those positions.

Does anyone have good alternative dumbbell back exercises I can do in place of those moves while following along?

Ideally looking for:

- upright or supported options

- something I can swap in quickly without disrupting the workout

Just trying to stay consistent without irritating my back while working my lower and upper back.

Thanks in advance! 💪🏽

I’m a 51yo female, 5’4 and already at a good weight, just trying to get more “tight/toned” (arms, legs, butt, stomach…not bulky).

My Plan:

-30 min standing low-impact HIIT – 3x/week

- 30 to 35 min cardio + dumbbells – 3x/week

- 1 rest day

I can’t do heavy lower body strength work (deadlifts, bridges, etc.) due to lower back/SI issues, so I’m working around that.

I’m not here for advice on that though. Just the workout piece.

Has anyone actually gotten noticeably toned from something like this?

How long did it take to see changes?

Thanks in advance!! 💪🏽