r/selfcare

Hello! I'm making this post to figure out exactly how to start looking better physically and fashionably, I have never really cared much for fashion, and I end up putting whatever on in the heat of the moment. I also don't really know how to find out what's best for my skin either...is there maybe any guide I can follow for both body care and fashion wear? Maybe a general rule of thumb? Especially since I'm a bit on the chubbier side (For reference, Im 16y/o AFAB, 5'2 and 69kg-ish)

Thank you for reading up until this point, I look forward to any replies!

Hi!!

I’m new here. :)

I’ve had a really stressful week. I live alone and I don’t have a partner. I also tend to be a bit of a workaholic. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or suggestions of how to relax and recharge when I feel like i should be doing something. Something to rebuild my self love. Or any activities yall like to do when you’re doing self care.

Thanks!

For as long as I can remember, my eyes really, really hurt in the morning, even if I’ve had a good 8hrs+ sleep, drank plenty of water before bed, clean bedsheets, non-stuffy room, healthy diet etc. This has gone on since I was a child and make waking up in the morning really unpleasant (my husband and I joke that I’m a blind mole rat…) and I always assumed this was universal, until I recently thought about it and realised it probably isn’t.

The pain, itchiness, puffiness etc eventually goes down after max a few hours, but can last throughout face washing, showers, breakfast, workouts, even a whole office commute. Cold seems to help it, but it‘s genuinely so bad when I first wake up that I can’t see - which means getting up blind to try to get some sort of cold mask or cold towel or something from the kitchen isn’t really possible.

Does anyone have this problem? And what do you do to alleviate if? Am I living wrong, somehow? Am I half-rat?

Desperate to hear your suggestions! Thank you 🐀

No rushing, no checking message right away. Just coffee, breakfast, and a little time to myself.

Hello guys, wondering if you have any hot tips for making my smile/teeth nicer on a budget.

I have tried one of those whitening kits you get on amazon/the pharmacy and it was soo hard on my teeth i had to take tylenol. Granted, i think i left it on for too long, but still im having second thoughts about doing a kit like that again.

I went by my dentist Selkirk Dental and asked about whitening and personally i just cant afford professional whitening by they had whitening kits are dental office whitening kits any better than the pharmacy ones?

Are there home remedies for the whiteness?

I dont think i can do anything about making them straighter that would be any cheaper than something like aligners (though ive heard horror stories about that like smile direct had a bunch of lawsuits) so i am more focused on the whitening aspect of it all right now.

Im based in Lake Louise area btw for reference in Canada in case you want to suggest a product or something that isnt available near me.

Also does drinking coffee and wine REALLY impact it that much???

Let me know what you think!!

So basically.. I used to be healthy af. I worked out all the time and ate Whole Foods and got my protein in. I was strong and happy. Then I got sick and life got in the way and I’m restarting on how to love myself and my body again by taking care of my health all together as a whole.
With that…I’m struggling. What are some things everyone is doing that are simple and easy that are your forms of “self-care” that led you to doing more for yourself? Healthy Gateway habits ??? Everytime I try to start I just get defeated and literally do nothing. It’s even more defeating every time I fail! Someone say SOMETHING 😩 thank you in advance!

About 2 years ago I started experiencing body odor from my armpits out of nowhere. I can take a shower and apply deodorant in the evening and smell in the morning; shower in the morning and don’t do anything all day and smell a few hours later. Suddenly, that stopped but it is now happening again. I’ve tried a ton of tips and cannot seem to figure out why this is happening. Does anyone have any deodorant or self care recs to help improve this?

I’ve switched my deodorant more times than i can think.
I’ve tried applying glycolic acid after a shower and that doesn’t seem to do a thing.
I’ve tried armpit detox masks.

Anything help is appreciated!! Thanks!

I’ve been trying to stick to a solid self-care routine lately, and a few people recommended using gamified apps.

I started with Finch (the little bird app) since everyone on here seems to love it, but honestly it felt a bit too cute. I dropped it after a few days.

I tried after that habitica, seemed cool first but too messy and lack of guidance.

Lately I’ve been testing one called Kubbo where you basically build an empire as you complete your daily habits. I’m finding the city-building element way more motivating than caring for a pet, but I’m wondering how long the novelty actually lasts.

Do you also tried those self-care habits apps?

i had nowhere to put anything. phone on the floor, book getting damp, wine glass tipping over. got a proper tray and pillow and stayed in for 45 minutes first time. sharing because it took me embarrassingly long to figure this out

Hi there. I always wanted to have an advice column. I use to have one actually in my early 20s but now I’ve built most of my life around self care so would love to start giving advice around that.

Would anyone be helping me build my advice portfolio? By like asking for some advice around self care and letting me answer it?

That would be really cool and I’d really appreciate. I could even throw in a free course as a thank you.

Hello!
Me and my girlfriend are developing a digital journal for self care at the moment. She told me there's not that many good aps. I am not very familiar with journaling or self care, so I was hoping whether you could give me some insights on what to do and what not to do.

My main questions:
Would you use a digital journal for self care more often if it were intentionally very small - no account, no cloud, just an encrypted journal on your phone with a possibility to export your data?
What is the one thing that makes you abandon a self care app?

If you have any other insights you would like to share, I'll gladly hear them.

I kept saying I was too busy, bur I managed to find an hour for a hobby I missed. I forgot how good it feels to do something just because I like it.

Cleaning out an inbox. Saying no to something. Going to bed at a decent hour instead of doomscrolling. None of it feels indulgent in the moment, but it tends to matter more than the candles-and-bath version people usually picture.

There are days when I don't want a complicated self-care routine. I just want to put things back where they belong. Clearing a cluttered surface or finally dealing with something I've been ignoring can make my brain feel noticeably quieter. It's not glamorous and it definitely wouldn't make an aesthetic self-care video, but sometimes removing one annoying thing from my surroundings does more for me than sitting down and trying to force myself to relax.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been struggling with some serious work-from-home burnout lately. I’ve noticed that when my screen time gets too high, my brain just feels like it’s full of static. I’ve been trying to find a way to create a tiny "mental reset" ritual right at my desk—something that doesn’t take an hour, but forces me to actually stop and breathe.

I’ve been playing with an idea for a "Desktop Sanctuary" and wanted to get your honest thoughts before I dive deeper into it.

The concept is a small (about 10cm) stone stand that doubles as an aromatherapy diffuser. The core of it is a slot where you can insert a custom, short-form puzzle (something that takes about 10-15 minutes to solve). The idea is: you solve the puzzle to "clear your mind," and once it’s done, it acts as a permanent, scented art display on your desk for the rest of the day.

I really love the idea of turning a workspace into a place for sensory grounding, but I’m worried about whether this actually solves a problem or if it’s just another thing to clutter up a desk.

I’d love to hear from you:

If you saw something like this, would you actually use it as a reset ritual, or would the puzzle just end up being annoying?

What concerns would you have? (e.g., Is it too small? Would it collect dust? Is aromatherapy too distracting in an office?)

If this existed, what’s a price point where you’d feel like, "Yeah, that’s worth it for my mental well-being"?

I’m currently just in the prototyping phase—no product to sell, just genuinely curious if this resonates with anyone else or if I’m overthinking this. Thanks for the feedback!

I've become wayy to serious lately, and I want to fix that. How do you add whimsy and joy to your life? And also, how do you remember to do those things before the moment passes?

Lately, my eyes have been feeling really dry and tired, especially after spending a lot of time looking at screens. Sometimes they feel heavy and irritated by the end of the day.

What helps you when your eyes get like this? Do you use eye drops, warm compresses, take more screen breaks, or have any other habits that actually make a difference?

Would love to hear what works for you!

Hi there!

I'm someone who, for a long time, has struggled with their personal hygiene. I didn't grow up in a great environment in terms of learning good personal hygiene. Throughout my teenage years have depressive episodes that have left me without much in the way of my hygiene for weeks or months, but I'm currently in a state where I'm working on getting myself to be a functioning young adult.

So, my question is, how do you do it? Brushing morning and night, that is. Most people eat breakfast in the morning so do you just get up an hour or more before you have to leave and do so? What's your "method"? And also, I love to drink water or a small energy drink throughout the morning. How do you deal with the aftertaste? I have what I need in terms of taking care of my teeth, but now is the method :) thank you!

TLDR; grew up bad, working on getting my hygiene back to up. What's your method for brushing morning and night -- waking up really early? And how do you deal with the after taste when you want to drink stuff.

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