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I'm exploring getting a vasectomy in Hyderabad. I haven't made a final decision yet, but I'm seriously considering it.

Can anyone recommend good urologists or hospitals in Hyderabad that perform vasectomies? I've met a few doctors already, but most of them spent the appointment trying to convince me to reconsider instead of discussing the procedure.

I'm also looking for a place that's professional and respects patient privacy. I plan to do this without informing my family, as involving them would create a lot of unnecessary drama and negatively affect my mental health.

I'm certain that I want to remain childfree.

If anyone had a vasectomy between the ages of 25 and 35, I'd really appreciate hearing about your experience. How was the recovery? Has it affected your sex life, libido, energy levels, or overall quality of life? Any regrets or things you wish you'd known beforehand?

Thanks in advance.

I know there is an anime sub, but I wanted to share this with people around my age.

I am rewatching Call of the Night (Yofukashi no Uta). It's available in Japanese and English, and I think Hindi as well, along with a few other languages.

It touches on loneliness, insomnia, depression, feeling lost, and that deep sense of emptiness the story is about younger people, but I think many of us in our 30s can relate to those feelings more than we expect.

If you've been feeling a bit disconnected lately, give it a watch. You might find parts of yourself in it.

And remember, animation isn't always cartoons. Some anime tell stories that hit just as hard, if not harder, than live action shows.

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Pic from Google Image search

I'm 31M, originally from Bhopal, MP. Moved to Indore, and has been in Hyderabad for 8+ years.

Childfree by choice. Single because I haven't found the right person yet.

My profile is open, with my semi hidden photo.

I'm an introvert most of the time, occasionally extroverted. Not great at chatting or writing, so apologies if my replies are awkward.

Tried Bumble without much luck.

I love anime, video games, and tech. I have a PS5, a gaming PC, OLED monitors, and a soundbar. Basically my childhood dream setup.

I work at PepsiCo GC in Kokapet. Outside work, I enjoy exploring Hyderabad on my scooter. Sometimes breweries on weekends, sometimes just random rides. I do have occasional back pain, but it doesn't stop me much.

Like many people in their 30s, my social circle has become much smaller. Mine disappeared even faster because I'm unmarried and childfree mindset, so I'm hoping to meet like minded people and make genuine connections.

Just wanted to say hello. If any of this sounds relatable, feel free to message me.

Based on ny recent live event, don't know flair is correct if wrong please comment will change

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Meanwhile, after using the Metro Monies app for a while, I've realized something.

Most people don't read profiles.

They look at caste, religion, salary package, and job title. That's it.

Ironically, people spend more time on e commerce apps. They compare products, read reviews, check ratings, and think 10 times before buying something.

But when it comes to choosing a life partner, they don't spend even 2 minutes reading a profile.

My profile clearly says:

"I WANT TO BE CHILDFREE."

It also clearly says:

"Contact only if the profile is managed by the person, not by parents."

Yet I keep getting messages like:

"Hi, I'm XYZ. This is my daughter's profile..."

The first thing I ask is, "Did you read my profile?"

Then I ask, "Did you read the part where I clearly said I want to be childfree?"

That's when the free advice starts.

"Childfree means you don't have children now. After marriage everyone wants them."

"Your parents will want grandchildren."

One uncle even said, "Let me talk to your parents."

I replied, "Uncle, I'm 32. Do you really think I need my parents to make my life decisions? And would your daughter be happy if her husband had to ask his parents for permission before every decision?"

Being childfree isn't confusion. It isn't a phase. It isn't an invitation for debate.

If you can't spend two minutes reading a profile before contacting someone, you're not respecting their time or their choices. And that's probably why so many conversations on matrimony apps go nowhere.

Hi everyone!

I'm a 32M, happily childfree, and looking to connect with like minded people in Hyderabad. This isn't a CF4CF or dating post. I'm simply hoping to make friends, have good conversations, and build a circle where being childfree isn't treated as something unusual.

Most people around me don't really understand the CF lifestyle, so it's difficult to have open conversations about topics like relationships, birth control before marriage, finding a compatible partner, or future plans. It would be great to know people who just get it.

Happy to connect over DM, social media, or meet up for coffee. If you work at PepsiCo GCC Hyderabad, even better we could catch up at the office sometime.

Also, just to avoid any misunderstanding, I'm single. I completely understand if some couples aren't comfortable meeting a single guy, and that's absolutely fine. I'm not looking to hit on anyone or make things awkward. My only intention is to make genuine friends within the CF community and build a like minded social circle. If you're comfortable with that, I'd be happy to connect, whether online or in person.

Finally, this post is also me trying to step out of my comfort zone. I'm an introvert trying to become a bit more social, so if you're in a similar situation or just want another CF friend, feel free to reach out.

Just something I've been thinking about.

Why don't more people share their photos on CF4CF?

1st thing I completely understand if someone doesn't want to show their face. You can always blur it or cover part of it I do the same. But if you're comfortable, why not?

Sometimes even a simple photo, along with a little info like what industry you work in, can help people find someone they relate to (this acutely work for me as man, few connected).

There might even be a chance of connecting with someone from the same workplace or profession.

Most of us already use anonymous usernames or separate profiles anyway I do too. So an optional photo doesn't seem like a big issue.

And let's be honest, we're all human. A photo naturally makes a profile feel more genuine and approachable. That's not about judging people by their looks; it's just how first impressions work.

2. For people who are worried about privacy, maybe there could be a separate, privacy-focused community where only verified members can view profiles.

Verification could be done with a photo and government ID, but those details would stay private. The goal would simply be to build trust. And no access unless sign up and profile is Verified

I know dating apps already exist, but I don't think any of them really balance privacy, trust, and free access very well.

Maybe an open source, community driven platform could. I don't have much experience building large apps I've only made a few small projects with AI but it's an idea that keeps coming to mind.

this i wrote while i was writing something else. i don't know how, but one part of my mind started writing on its own. my fingers just kept moving automatically.

don't know why, but for the last 2 days I have been on high energy, highly motivated, more extroverted wrong word more expressive than usual... or you can say i'm in full gyan mode.

one thing I have learned is this:

"Everyone's journey is different. One thing I've learned is this: don't compare yourself with others. You're human, but you're not every other human. You're yourself, and only you can discover what truly brings you peace.."

Looking for Direct Owner Rental (No Brokers Please)

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Hi,

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I’m looking for a 1 or 2 BHK flat from a direct owner. I’m tired of paying brokerage and would prefer dealing directly with the property owner. If any NRI owner is looking for a responsible tenant to take care of their property, I’d be happy to discuss.

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About me:

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* Working professional, 30+

* Office location: Kokapet

* Mostly work from home

* Living alone

* Currently staying in the same flat for the last 7 years

* Rent always paid on time through online transfer

* Rent agreement required

* No HRA claims, so PAN details are not needed

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What I’m looking for:

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* 1 or 2 BHK

* Good ventilation and natural light

* Balcony preferred

* Lift required

* Reliable water supply

* Dedicated bike parking (not roadside)

* Preferably on the 3rd floor or above

* Clean and peaceful residential area

* Pet-friendly (I don’t have a pet, but may occasionally look after a family pet)

* Space for a future car parking would be a plus

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Preferred Areas:

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* Gowlidoddi

* Puppalaguda

* Narsingi

* Khajaguda

* Gandipet

* Or nearby areas within a reasonable distance of Kokapet

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Not Interested In:

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* Gachibowli

* Kondapur

* Madhapur

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A little about me:

I’m a quiet and private person who prefers a peaceful lifestyle. I keep my home clean and well maintained. I am not into the typical bachelor lifestyle and spend most of my time working or at home.

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While I live alone, my parents may occasionally stay with me for 2–3 months. I rarely host guests, but there may be an occasional visit from family or close friends. In the last 7 years at my current place, I’ve only had a few small gatherings.

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For those who prefer to know:

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* Hindu

* Non-vegetarian

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If you have a suitable property and are looking for a responsible, long-term tenant, please feel free to contact me. Direct owners only. No brokers, please.

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No brokers please. Most brokers show properties that don't match the requirements anyway, so I'd rather deal directly with owners and save everyone's time.(My experience in last 3 month)

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Okay, it's Sunday and my sleep schedule is completely broken. Didn't sleep all night, grabbed a few hours, then kept waking up from weird dreams. The latest one was basically me as an NPC trying to stop the main character from another all-night gaming grind. 😂 Maybe that's because I usually like villains more than heroes anyway. They are not as bound by society rules. 😂

About me, 32M, originally from Bhopal Madhya Pradesh, living in Hyderabad. Around 5'7–5'8. Non veg. Into video games, anime, toys, and occasional local exploring. Not fancy, just easily entertained by random things. 😝

Honestly I already have an old post with all the details. Not sure if I should just link that or rewrite everything and make a fresh post. 😂

https://www.reddit.com/r/ChildfreeIndia/s/xz73Osi5SM

Anyway, good morning, good night, or good luck getting some sleep, sleepyhead. 😏

***TL;DR***

32M | Bhopal → Hyderabad | PepsiCo GCC

Childfree, DINK minded, looking for a life partner not a situationship or long distance relationship.

Into gaming, anime, cooking, baking, food exploration, bike trips, animals, and occasional whisky/beer.

Lean, health conscious, low drama, value peace of mind and personal freedom.

Not very active on social media. Financially responsible. Believe in God but not very religious.

Looking for a genuinely childfree woman, preferably in or around Hyderabad. Culture, language, caste, and community are not important. Good compatibility is.

And no, "Hi" and "What's your WhatsApp?" are not great opening messages. 😄

***Main post***

I’m a 32-year-old guy (or uncle, depending on who’s asking). Originally from Bhopal, Madhya Pradesh, currently living in Hyderabad, Telangana. I work at PepsiCo GCC in Hyderabad.

Educationally, I’m pretty ordinary. Commerce graduate with an MBA. No CA, CFA, or any other fancy titles attached to my name.

I’ve been single for a long time, mainly because finding someone who genuinely wants a DINK and childfree life isn’t exactly easy.

A few things about me.

Video games are probably my biggest hobby. I enjoy both old and new games. From classics like Max Payne to newer titles. I even played It Takes Two with my brother because I didn’t have a partner to play it with. Honestly, if I start dating someone, one of the first things I’m going to do is make them play co-op games with me, whether they like it or not. Currently playing Black Myth: Wukong. Safe to say I’m a gaming nerd.

I’m also into anime, though my taste has changed over the years. Some favorites include Spirited Away, Your Lie in April, A Silent Voice, Fairy Tail, Erased, Dragon Raja, Frieren: Beyond Journey’s End, and many more. Currently watching Spider-Man Noir.

Never really got into K-dramas, but I’m planning to give them a try.

Outside screens, I love food. Exploring local food is something I genuinely enjoy. I don’t compare everything to food from my hometown or state. Every place has its own taste and identity, and I like appreciating it for what it is. Veg or non-veg, if it’s good food, I’m interested.

I also enjoy cooking and baking. It’s something I genuinely like doing, not just when I have to. If you check my posts, you’ll probably find more food pictures than selfies. Trying new recipes, experimenting in the kitchen, and feeding people is something I enjoy.

I also enjoy exploring random places. Sometimes those random plans turn into very long journeys. Last week I ended up doing a 400 km bike trip simply because I felt like going somewhere.

I’m not highly religious in the traditional sense. I don’t regularly do pooja, aarti, or similar rituals, but I believe in God, pray in my own way, and respect people’s beliefs.

I love animals. Yes, even though I’m a non-vegetarian. Some people assume non-vegetarians cannot genuinely care about animals, but I completely disagree. My love and concern for animals is real. If I come across a street dog, cat, cow, or any animal that needs medical help, food, or shelter, I help directly whenever I can. I don’t do it for social media, photos, or validation. No posts, no reels, no "look at me being kind." Just helping because I want to.

Speaking of social media, I’m barely active. Finding my photo on Instagram is probably harder than finding a shiny Pokémon. Even travel photos are rare.

I occasionally enjoy good beer and whisky. The important word is occasionally. I’m quite selective about what I drink, but I’m not a daily or weekly drinker. Alcohol can be part of life, but it isn’t my lifestyle.

I don’t own a house or a car. Not because I can’t, but because I prefer being thoughtful with money. I invest wisely, save wisely, and spend wisely. I’m not someone who buys things because everyone else is doing it or because of FOMO.

Fashion is probably one area where I’m still learning. Let’s just say it isn’t my strongest skill, but I’m trying.

Physically, I’m around 5'7"–5'8" and lean. Staying fit is important to me. It’s not about judging anyone else or expecting everyone to look a certain way. I simply feel better when I maintain my health, watch what I eat, stay active, and keep my weight under control. My body seems to have a strange superpower where I can eat a lot and still not gain much weight. I exercise at home and enjoy long walks.

One thing I value a lot is peace of mind. I generally keep my emotions under control, especially anger. I dislike unnecessary fights, arguments, drama, and constant conflict. If something needs to be discussed, I prefer talking calmly and finding a solution rather than turning it into a battle.

Now the important part.

I’m childfree because that’s the life I genuinely want. Not because of circumstances, not because of bad experiences, and not because I dislike children.

I simply do not want to become a parent.

I value my freedom, time, peace of mind, flexibility, and the ability to make decisions without the responsibilities that come with raising a child. I’ve seen many good parents struggle under the emotional, financial, and personal pressures that come with parenthood. That life simply isn’t for me.

I don’t want the stress, responsibilities, or financial commitment that comes with raising children for decades. I’d rather invest my energy into my relationship, personal goals, experiences, travel, hobbies, and building a life that feels right for me.

I also believe the world is already heavily populated, though my decision is primarily personal rather than environmental.

As for a partner, I’d prefer someone who has a somewhat similar approach towards health and fitness. Not looking for a gym addict or a model, just someone who values taking care of themselves and maintaining a reasonably healthy lifestyle.

And before any gym lovers get offended, I have absolutely nothing against people who enjoy the gym. The problem is me, not the gym. I keep trying, disappear after a while, then come back again. Home workouts and long walks seem to be the relationship that works for me.

I’m looking for someone in or around Hyderabad. Culture, language, state, community, or background are not things I focus on. If the vibe matches, mutual respect exists, and we enjoy each other's company, we can figure out everything else and probably shake the world in our own weird way. 😂

Also, I’m not looking for a long-distance relationship that just stays a long-distance relationship forever. No "we date for years and see what happens" plan. The goal is to find a life partner and build a life together if things work out. No "main yahan, tum wahan" stories.

For people who consider these details important, I’m Khushwaha and Hindu. Depending on the state, that may come under General or OBC categories. Personally, I’ve never believed caste is something to be proud of. It’s simply a background detail, not an achievement or an identity.

One small request. If you decide to message me, please don’t make your first message just "Hi", "Hello", or "What’s your WhatsApp number?" Tell me something about yourself. Start with a story, a hobby, a bad joke, your favorite food, your favorite game, your favorite anime, or why you chose a childfree life. Anything that gives me a reason to reply.

So if you’re someone who is genuinely childfree by choice, believes in building a partnership based on companionship, shared experiences, mutual respect, and enjoying life together, we might have something to talk about.

And yes, if things work out, there’s a very high chance your introduction to dating me will involve co-op gaming, random food explorations, spontaneous road trips, discussions about anime, me making you watch something animated, and me trying to convince you to try something I cooked or baked.

Consider yourself warned. 😄

I’m trying to get back into dating, and whenever I meet women, they always say they prefer an emotionally mature and mature man.

But what does that actually mean?

Does it mean following society’s norms?

Does it mean putting your own happiness aside for others?

Because when I say I like video games and anime, or that I spend wisely and don’t buy things just to show off, I often get tagged as emotionally immature.

Or maybe emotional maturity means knowing life is painful sometimes, but still handling things calmly because you understand not everything goes your way.

I’m genuinely trying to understand what people mean when they say “emotionally mature.”

32M, overlay hype lazy person

I work in PepsiCo, From MP now in Hyderabad Telangana.

Anime and Video games I like, sometimes exploring breweries sometimes.

Why childfree, the world around us already has so many kids,1 or 2 less nothing is going to happen.

Hindi is native language.

Cast if you wanna know don't dm me. As I am looking for someone who love to challange this society norms

Can't write a big post as I am lazy.

Hi,

Born and raised in a small city in Madhya Pradesh, spent years moving around different places for work and life. Never been outside India yet, currently based in Hyderabad working in sustainability and data analytics.

More of a quiet person than super talkative. Into video games, anime, random long rides on my scooter, and exploring places without much planning. Not a car guy honestly, two wheels feel more fun.

Big foodie and love cooking. Mostly learn recipes from online videos and then end up giving them an Indian spicy twist anyway. Indian food, Asian food, trying new dishes all fun for me.

Not into gym culture but I like staying active. Long walks, home workouts, keeping health decent without becoming obsessed over it. Somehow still never gained chubby weight despite eating spicy stuff like a maniac.

Looking for someone genuinely childfree for a cf2cf connection.

1994 born. 32M.

I just wanna share, nothing much

The title already says it, but especially for men asking questions. And before anyone DMs me, yes, I’m a man straight. So please don’t fill my inbox with creepy messages.

I usually use medical grade skincare, not random over the counter stuff from general stores or e commerce sites. I mostly buy from pharmacies.

For me, sunscreen is for every season. For pimples, I use salicylic acid cream, especially on my back and shoulders because I get a lot there and people usually don’t notice those spots.

I also use glycolic acid, salicylic acid cream, and vitamins E and C. Never all together in one night though. Usually one product at a time with a moisturizer that has hyaluronic acid. Aloe vera doesn’t suit my skin, so I avoid it.

For supplements, I take normal adult amounts of vitamin D, E, A, B complex especially B12, calcium, magnesium, and zinc. Deficiency is pretty common.

I take a multivitamin instead of separate tablets most of the time, except vitamin D twice a week. Calcium, magnesium, zinc, and B12 I usually take for about 7 days in a month, not continuously.

Exercise wise, I do stretching for my back, neck, and full body after waking up and before sleeping. A few pushups and pelvic exercises too.

I’m not really a gym person, but I try to work out at home with some weights for around 10 to 15 minutes daily.

I also try to walk as much as possible. I even bought a trolley to carry groceries and shopping stuff while walking around.

And yes, I cook for myself after the office. Rarely eat outside. I mostly make different dishes at home.

I don’t really have friends anymore and rarely talk to family members. I’ve become kind of antisocial now. No relationships for maybe 8 to 10 years.

It’s not a confidence issue or maybe it is. I just don’t like talking much, and honestly I don’t even know what to talk about with women anymore. These days I just speak whatever comes to mind without filtering it much for any gender or any person. So I stay silent.

I earn well and already have most things I want gaming PC, Xbox, PS5, big screens, multiple monitors, good sound system, good whiskey, clothes, all that.

I enjoy my own company. I only own a scooter though, no car or anything.

Whenever marriage proposals come up, I usually end up doing something that makes sure it doesn’t move forward. Partly because I’m afraid of it, and partly because almost nobody likes the idea of DINK anyway. Or I am not person that make sacrifices my self to maintain in society.

Hello,

About me let me think, Oh ya I am 32M wait that already in title. From MP Bhopal not exactly Bhopal near by the City, I currently Stay Hyderabad.

Why Hyderabad I tried to change jobs in other cities however I am always back in Hyderabad, kahi bar try kiya agal city ka pr lede k Hyderabad back. It's like HR Ghost me just like my ex🌚

I don't own Car, planning to have but wait I need to learn driving 1st.

Most time me and my scooter or sometime bike. I like exploring however I skip if too much traffic.

Gym na it not mine but thanks to god i am lean i am that person who has super power to eat more doesn't gain weight 😎.

Like Anime and Video games, I recently started a New Pub and Breweries. I love good whisky and beer but not alcoholic.

I love cooking sometimes I play with creative make new dish blend of both veg to non veg.

Hindu, however not much in template daily poja pat.

Cast wise Khushawa, Nana ji kheti karte the, mai data ki kheti karta hu😂

Why DINK na my gense already told me malik humse na ho payi gi corprate majdoori nai to pakka world me war kara dege

DM me for more details warna DM me kya baat kare ge.

Ya I totally hate kabutar ja ja messaging type.