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I had this conversation with a friend and am wondering if I’m living on a weird island.

I’m 32 and engaged to my partner of 4.5 years. I engaged in some risky behavior as a teen and started having sex at 15. It was not a great situation and looking back I was so young and insecure and just had no idea how stupid I was being. Fortunately my mom got me on birth control very early and I always used a backup method as well - condoms unless I was in a long term serious relationship and when I didn’t use them, I always had my partner pull out. I’ve never intentionally let a partner c*m in me. It’s only happened once and it was due to a broken condom - this was maybe 10 years ago? I got so paranoid I still took plan B even though I was religiously taking the pill.

I’m getting married in a couple months and at this point in my life VERY much ready for kids. My fiancé and I talk about it all the time and plan to get pregnant immediately. Now that the wedding is so close we are trying to time it right as to when to stop taking birth control. We are going on our honeymoon immediately after the wedding and I’m trying to avoid a bleed on the wedding & honeymoon if possible.

All this to say I was chatting with a girlfriend about it and she asked why i don’t just quit bc now and make sure we pull out. I made a comment that we always do and she was like wait really? The whole point of birth control is that they can c*m inside you and it’s fine!! I was like what???? I’ve NEVER! In fact the thought kinda gives me the heebie jeebies because my only memory of it is that one time and I felt like it just kept dripping out of me.

So here are my questions

1. Does it somehow feel good?? Or is it mostly for the guy? Why do you like it?
2. Is anyone else like me or am I crazy
3. Can you pretty please cross your fingers and hope the fertility gods bless me with a healthy pregnancy in December?? 🤞🏿

ETA y’all are cracking me up!! I had no idea what I’ve been missing out on. We’ll have to give it a try 🤣

Seriously please help. I wear scrubs to work and primarily athleisure outside of work. I feel like I don’t have anything nice that actually looks good on me. I used to shop at target so I went today feeling hopeful and spent 2 hours realizing everything that was in fashion when I was in MIDDLE SCHOOL is back. It’s wildly uncomfortable. The asymmetric tops, cowl necks and low rise jeans are even less flattering on my 32 year old body than they were on my 12 year old body.

Where can I find classic, flattering, casual and nicer pieces for a reasonable price?

I have simply never loved a show so much. It has its faults for sure, some ridiculous scenes and seasons that weren’t my favorite but it has become my comfort. I started watching with my husband a little over a year ago and we just finished and I am so, so sad. I never wanted it to end and tried to stretch out the last season. I am also 10000% a dean girl. I’ve never had a celebrity crush until I laid eyes on Jensen and I am freaking out bc I’ll get to take a pic with him at the creation tour!!!

Now that it’s over I will probably rewatch at some point on my own but I also know I need to like other shows too. Any suggestions? I’m trying to get into smallville but struggling. I’ve also been watching the boys on the side and LOVING the little SPN Easter eggs in it, I’m half way through season 4 so that’s almost over too.

I love my dress, it is a simple a-line dress with a scoop neck and thin straps. It’s extremely flattering and I’m excited to wear it! My mom kindly purchased it as a gift for me for about $2,500.

I’m about 3 months out from my wedding and now wondering… what the heck am I going to do with it after? It seems silly to preserve it or just keep it in the closet it but it feels disrespectful to sell it. My mom’s not particularly attached to it and told me she doesn’t have an opinion on what I do with it because it will have served its purpose.

I do have a little sister but we have very different styles and I don’t see her wanting it. She is 8 years younger than me and single. I’d think she’d want her own unique experience.

So…. What is everyone else doing with theirs?

Editing to add: I have seen a lot of organizations that take wedding dresses and repurpose them into burial outfits for infant loss. I work in labor & delivery and actually head our department’s infant bereavement project. We do have a stock of items like this and they are actually quite unpopular. I think in the 10 years I’ve been an L&D nurse and the well over 100 bereaved families I’ve worked with, I’ve had 2 or 3 families want them. They seem to prefer hand knitted hats and blankets.

I just need people who understand to acknowledge me. I literally just thought the chafing fairy was never going to find me. I’ve run 2 half marathons in florida and I’m currently training for a full. I had a 9 miler today and thank GOD my fiance was on his way home because I didn’t even realize it happened until I stepped into the shower. I’m fully chafed between my butt cheeks only. I had to call him stop and get me diaper cream and now I’m waddling around the house. I always wear leggings so my thighs just don’t chafe and the most I’ve ever experienced is a little rubbing under my arm from a weird sports bra seam.

Y’all this sucks how do I make sure this NEVER happens again. Does Vaseline actually work won’t I just sweat it off? Should I literally tape the inside of my butt cheeks?

Hey everyone!

I’m about 3 months out from my first ever marathon 😅 will be running the MCM in Washington DC at the end of oct

I am training in south Florida so doing probably 75-80% treadmill runs because the heat and humidity have been oppressive. Because im on the treadmill so much more than usual, i haven’t been using a belt too much.

I have the flip belt and it’s fine but I feel like my soft water bottle slides out of it once it’s like half way empty and I spend a lot of time adjusting it. I also have the water bottles from the spibelt that I’ll just tuck into my leggings and those work pretty well but no storage for anything other than the fluids.

I’m considering upgrading to a vest so that I can get hydration and some snacks in there as my runs start getting longer and for the race itself. I’ve done 2 half marathons and learned on the aid stations but the biggest half I did had 20,000 ppl and this one will have more like 50,000 so I don’t want to get held up if there isn’t enough at the aid stations.

Just curious if you guys feel like a vest is better for those longer runs; or should I try another belt? Let me know your thoughts. Thank you!

If it matters 32 yo female 135lbs 5’3.

Sharing bc I wish someone told me this

I’ve been scouring the Internet on how to take psyllium without gagging. Lately I’ve settled on taking 10 pills which gets me a measly 4 grams of fiber. I hate artificial sweeteners and diet drinks and I prefer to just avoid sweet things overall rather than have something artificial, but I do definitely have a sweet tooth. I’ve tried 1 million different combinations and then was walking down the juice aisle today and thought, huh, I wonder how it would be with apple juice.

Ended up getting an unflavored psyllium husk by konsyl and mixed 2 scoops in 4oz of apple juice. Mixed very quickly, filled with ice and chugged with a straw. It thickened up a little but mostly just reminded me of the apple juice pouches I take with me on long runs (I’m a marathon runner and don’t like gels). This is by far the easiest way I’ve taken it so I’m gonna continue doing that. Hopefully this help somebody!

How strict are the photo ops? I know you only get one formal picture but can you pull your phone out for a quick selfie too?

Epic workgroups have been stressful to say the least. My department works primarily in stork and the acute care workgroups have made big decisions that impact us without our input. We just started training classes for staff and are onboarding EIGHTEEN travel nurses on ultrashort contracts to makeup for all the bedside staff that needed to be superusers.

Naturally my team is a bit on edge. How can me and my leadership team support my bedside nurses at and after go live?

We have big unit (about 140 nurses) and there are 6 of us in our leadership team. We are all superusers and planning to have 24/7 coverage along with our 18 staff superusers for the first 2 weeks of go live.

We are putting together survival guides with all our tip sheets in there, are finding epic tips and tricks on TikTok, plan to have snacks and food available… what else can we do?? What worked well for your teams or not well?! My staff makeup is roughly 20% Gen Z, 40% millennials, 30% Gen X and 10% boomers. If it matters.

I started my runs for the last year and half and 2 half marathons with “Don’t Stop Me Now” and unfortunately I’ve literally and figuratively run it into the ground. I am currently marathon training and need great song suggestions to give me that dopamine hit when I’m struggling!

Anyone else dying to cut their hair?? I tend to keep my hair around collar bone length but have been growing it out for my December wedding so I have more to work with and so it blends with extensions for a loose French twist.

That said I am DYING to cut my hair and can’t wait to do it. I’m getting married on a Saturday and then we leave for our honeymoon the following Tuesday. My hairdresser doesn’t work on Mondays. Is it rude for me to ask her if one of her colleagues would be willing to give me a solid chop the Monday after my wedding?

Hi everyone! I am a 32-year-old female and I was an active member of my local Junior League for about 3 1/2 years, and then recently stepped back into a flexible leave, which doesn’t require me to do anything besides pay dues, which are fairly reasonable about $250 for the year.

I initially joined Junior League because I was struggling to feel connected to my community and was looking for some purpose outside of work. At the time, I have been working two jobs and was really burnt out. My friendships were only work related and I just kinda needed something outside of myself. I’ve always enjoyed volunteer work and community outreach so it felt like a natural fit. And it definitely was.

I really enjoyed the first couple years, made a lot of friends, and participated in meaningful events. I am the type of person that tends to throw myself into things and I also have a habit of over committing and I think I did that. I jumped into Junior League head first and was heavily heavily involved. Then I kind of burnt myself out on that too lol. At this time of my life, I am in a job that I really enjoy with a pretty great schedule, I’m getting married at the end of the year and we are hoping to have kids right away. I have stepped back from a lot of extracurricular things that I was doing as far as extra work. I was picking up, volunteer committees that weren’t quite as involved as the Junior League is, and have been trying to get better about a work life balance. I’ve also been exercising a lot more and into baking sourdough, which is enjoyable, but not quite as social.

My fiancé is wonderful, and I have plenty of friends around me, and so I guess I’m just trying to figure out if it’s worth remaining with Junior League or not. I have to decide by the end of the month if I wanna quit fully, if I want to remain in flexible, leave, or if I wanna go back to active membership. There are a few things to consider:

1. My local chapter (I’m not sure if others are this way or not) requires you to have seven active years of membership to reach alumni status, were you basically just pay about $100 a year to remain a member but you don’t have volunteer requirements that said they have a lot of outreach that they do in social clubs. My first year I was considered a new member so I didn’t count as active and then I pretty much lost this year because I was in flexible leave so I’ve only completed two out of the seven active years technically. If I quit, I’m not sure if I can get back in or not. I don’t really know what that looks like.

2. I could remain flexible leave for another year and pay $250 just to keep my options open and not have any requirements and continue deciding if I want to do that. The flexible leave can count for the entire year. That said I’d still have the five years left before I could reach alumni status.

3. I could jump back in. The requirements aren’t huge. I’ve already shared the payment amount which isn’t a problem, and then the volunteer requirements are 10 hours of volunteer work outside of your committee requirements which in my experience have been about 30 hours. So it’s 40 hours out of the league year that I would need to be volunteering, which runs around the same as the school year. So between August and May.

My fear is about jumping in that I’m gonna get carried away again and getting over my head. But my fear is about quitting, what if I need this one day. I don’t anticipate moving, but I don’t know what it’s gonna be like socially as a mom. I have a great support system and I have a lot of friends now, but what I need that community outside of what I’m already doing? Would I be more likely to join a mom‘s group? I don’t know. I feel like I’m cutting off a potential to continue to have a purpose and meaning outside of my daily life but I also don’t really know if I need that fulfillment right now and I’m battling with if I should just maintain it because I might need it later or want it later, or if I should just not worry about it and move on.

Hello! I need some help narrowing down what to do for signature drinks. Our venue allows us to bring our own alcohol and our families are mostly wine drinkers.

Our plan was to have half red and half white wine, a few popular beers and seltzers, and 2 signature drinks as the only “hard liquor” options.

For the groom’s drink, we are thinking old fashioned. He’s a big bourbon guy and the venue doesn’t allow anything “neat.” For the brides drink, I really don’t know. I rarely drink anything other than wine. Initially I was thinking a Paloma would be fun because I do like them but wasn’t sure if it would be popular. I have now been leaning more toward either a Moscow mule. I have some family members that love an aperol spritz. I don’t care for either but I want people to like the options so need some help choosing! Thank you!