u/666pizzaguy

I've been on testosterone through Imago for about half a year now. While I am grateful to finally feel a bit more like myself, my goal is still to get access to a more local alternative for prescriptions, but I don't think Riksen is going to become more welcoming to me (I'm autistic)

DIY used to be on my mind but Idk if that's a risk I want to take just yet, entirely because my family loves to snoop around

But are there actually any alternatives? Are there still private doctors etc who specialize in that kind of thing? I'd try HKS but I'm not fortunate enough to live in Oslo, just in the vicinity..

Going to take some (in-Europe) flights next month, and was thinking of bringing my flimsy STP with me. I've tried finding some answers to if I'll be fine wearing it through the security control, but all I've found have been answers about how it is in the US, and I've just kind of assumed Nordic airports are a bit different from theirs. (I'm from Norway)

I've been picked out to random pat-downs before without issues, but I don't know if this would be any different since I'd have something extra in my clothes

My shrink recently told me he thought it'd be good for me if I were to attend some group the resource center had made intended to help connect with other trans people with ASD. I get where he's coming from - it might be nice to meet people with similar experiences - but every time I've met students at my previous schools who are openly and visibly trans, I end up somehow getting somewhat dysphoric myself from seeing them not fully pass. Which seems odd.

I figured bringing up this topic here would be better than in the "big" trans subreddits, as the rare times I've seen someone discuss it elsewhere, the comments weren't really helpful or welcoming. Just people telling the OP that they're transphobic, projecting, "being a bully" and so on, as if they are going out of their way to harrass others (I don't, at least) for not passing even though all they asked for was advice on how to stop feeling this way. As I reckon it's not a thrilling experience for anyone involved.

So, have anyone here experienced this and managed to overcome it? Does it just subside on its own the further in you get in your own transition, or is there something else you have to do? My shrink said this discomfort was all the more reason to attend the group, but I'm not sure if he's just saying that because he wants me to join the group

A few years back I used to always hear people talking about "unexpected side effects of testosterone" and then just proceeding to list regular *main* effects of male puberty.

When I went through a prescription service that operated strictly on informed consent, I had two meetings and a shitload of emails informing me of what exactly I should expect from treatment. So I do not understand.

I was also told by my psychiatrist that he usually recommends that people do gel instead of long-acting injections as he's had a few patients that ended up wanting to quit as they "didn't like or expect" the effects they got. How come? Do people not know what testosterone does, or what is going on? Genuine question

Edit: I might be mistaken but some of these replies has me thinking some people are only reading the title and not everything else

I feel like I'm really fulfilling the stereotype some people have about transmeds hating themselves but I really can't understand how anyone can love being trans. I know a handful of trans people in real life that say they "love being trans" and talk about "trans joy," but I just can't grasp what I'm supposed to love about being trans. What's to love about having to pay for hormones and surgeries just to hopefully have a body that aligns with my brain? I know no one is forcing me to spend money on transitioning and whatnot, but still. I only see downsides.

Ligger an til å få topp kirurgi i Litauen i august (hurra) men operasjonsdatoen er etter jeg allerede skal ha begynt på yrkesutdanninga igjen. Hvordan er det med å skaffe sykemelding for sånt? Har hørt noen trygler fastlegen om å ordne det, men så sier andre kilder at det er klinikken som utfører operasjonen som må gi dokumentasjon... Er det noen her som har gjort toppkirurgi i utlandet og har personlig erfaring om hvordan det da går seg til å skaffe sykemelding? Har ikke diagnose fra riksen ennå om det er relevant

I can't recall when I last recognized what I saw as being myself. I don't know what I expect to see when I look in the mirror. Psychiatrist chalked it up to just being gender dysphoria and -incongruence but I don't know at this point. I started questioning if I should even continue my hormone therapy as I don't know if I deserve it anymore. Everything I do feels like it's being done on autopilot. I'm not sure who I even am or what I'm living for, and when I called the emergency hotline the other day when it got particularly bad, they didn't exactly help all that much - in fact, after telling me it was just due to being a young adult, they hung up on me. My family just keeps saying I'm insane so telling them about this would probably just lead to me being laughed at, as they always do when I express any thoughts that aren't entirely positive or don't align with their worldview. I don't know what I'm supposed to do

I haven't changed my legal gender yet, but I plan on visiting family abroad this year. Will the airport security and customs clearance stop me from being able to board the plane or enter the country as my appearance doesn't match my gender marker? I live in Norway, if that may impact something

Idk if clothes was a fitting tag but I'll take a gamble. For me shoes have helped somewhat when it comes to confidence in passing, for whatever reason. I have an odd in-between size of EUR 41 ⅓, so I struggle a bit finding shoes I like that also fit. There was one brand I used to wear, but they stopped making them in my size. Most of the sneakers I find in stores have really bright colours, and while I'm not too fond of it, I would be fine choosing them if it wasn't for my work dress code saying I need to wear dark shoes. Do you guys know of any good and durable men's shoes?

I know I'm preaching to the choir here but I can not believe that every other person I stumble across online is transgender. I see a new creator, click on the profile: he/she/they? What?

Recently someone I am reluctantly acquainted (edit: we share a class, so she's a real life person) with talked about how offended she is when "gross boys" ask her what her gender is. Now I don't usually like to call bullshit, but I'm calling bullshit. She presents strictly feminine, doesn't bind, she's said her family is extremely supportive so no restrictions there, apparently. Just pronouning for the sake of pronoun. She followed up saying "but I can't speak for our whole community," which, ya know, is true. Because she's not even trans.

It's because of characters like her that I struggle so much believing that all those online "influencers" are actually trans in any way. I'm pretty indifferent to nonbinary identities but even then there is no way so many people can be he/she/they genderfluid "transmasc" lesbian. Idk if it's just my algorithm being totally fucked, though.

I've been out for about 5-6 years now. I was always allowed to dress however I wanted and have my hair as short as I wished when I was little, so when I came out I didn't expect them to react so poorly to it. They kept asking me if I could "just be a transvestite," said it was surely just a phase... I figured they would come around eventually, and after about 3 years they did let me change my name legally (needed their signature on the papers since I was under 16.) But now it's been another few years, and their demeanor hasn't changed at all. No matter how many times I tell them I find it extremely weird that they keep saying "you'll always be my sister/daughter" they just ignore it. I don't know what to do anymore. When I asked them how they'd react if I started testosterone, they all said they thought it was a dumb idea, that they don't think I'll be happier on it, so I never told them when I did start it. I'm just so tired of it. I can pass really well in public and they'll still introduce me as their daughter. I was talking about my group in a project at school and described one of them as "a girl who is frequently absent" and my dad asked me "is that you?" I asked him if I would ever call myself a girl, and he said "rarely."

Never. The answer is never. I even told him I never do that, and he just laughed it off. Is there even any way to make them understand this isn't just something that'll pass, or am I just cursed forever because I came out during the pandemic??