Bad texter or Just not interested?
I met this girl a few months ago at a community event. We have hung out at a few events and also one on one several times, the most recent one was a dinner which went really well. The chemistry is amazing, she even complimented me “you smell good”, walked me to my transport at the end of the night. We have talked about a lot of deep topics both in person and on text (therapy, exes, conflict resolution styles, introducing partners to family, wanting / not wanting kids etc.). Overall she is amazing and i think we both tick all the boxes for each other and are at the same life stage (in our 30s). Only trouble is, her texting style really throws me off. She usually takes 3-5 days to reply (sometimes its much quicker, like for a time sensitive text for scheduling etc she will respond immediately). But recently her life has been a bit chaotic. So she replied to a text after a week, apologised for disappearing, and said we should “catch up next week if you like”. I said cool, and suggested a couple options. She then disappeared for two weeks. I thought im going to text one last time coz i genuinely think this is a rare connection. I sent a low pressure check in. She replied within an hour with multiple text bubbles responding to each thread from before, apologising for disappearing and said she still wants to catch up. I replied the next day, my usual texting rhythm. Its been four days and i havent heard back. Im starting to wonder if she is just not interested/ avoidant/ both/ something else? She comes across as someone earnest, is sweet, attentive, will ask questions and build on threads almost sending “note-like” texts. But the slow texting is really throwing me off. I want to be straightforward and tell her i like her, but the constant speed bumps make me wonder if I should at all! Any thoughts would be appreciated!