This is a question for those that begged for months after being dumped. I know that the likelihood that you felt some sort of shame was high. But, my question is did they ever reach out to you after you stopped?
I've been talking to a guy for about five days. We matched on a dating app, and after a bit I gave him my phone number and Instagram. This morning I noticed he unmatched me on the app, but he's still texting me like normal.
The thing is, I don't have any photos posted on my Instagram, so the only pictures he's seen of me are the ones from my dating profile. Yesterday, we did FaceTime for about an hour.
He keeps saying things like "we should do this" or "we should go there," but he hasn't actually made any effort to plan a date or ask me out with a specific day or time.
I'm a little confused by the mixed signals. Is it normal for someone to unmatch after moving the conversation off the app, or is this a sign he's not that interested? Has anyone else experienced something similar?
The only dating experience I have is with my ex and he told me he strung me along for four years. I’m really bad at picking up on signs that someone doesn’t like me. I’m very positive that I may be on the spectrum tbh.
I've been talking to a guy for about five days. We matched on a dating app, and after a bit I gave him my phone number and Instagram. This morning I noticed he unmatched me on the app, but he's still texting me like normal.
The thing is, I don't have any photos posted on my Instagram, so the only pictures he's seen of me are the ones from my dating profile. Yesterday, we did FaceTime for about an hour.
He keeps saying things like "we should do this" or "we should go there," but he hasn't actually made any effort to plan a date or ask me out with a specific day or time.
I'm a little confused by the mixed signals. Is it normal for someone to unmatch after moving the conversation off the app, or is this a sign he's not that interested? Has anyone else experienced something similar?
The only dating experience I have is with my ex and he told me he strung me along for four years. I’m really bad at picking up on signs that someone doesn’t like me. I’m very positive that I may be on the spectrum tbh.
I was dumped a while ago and probably should have moved on by now.
Anyway, I downloaded a dating app about two days ago and matched with two guys. One doesn’t talk much, but the other seems like he’s matching my energy. Still, I feel kind of uneasy and I can’t tell if it’s just me.
I was in a long relationship where I got used to being treated pretty poorly. I often had to ask my ex for basic things like compliments, and when I did, he’d sometimes respond by saying I was “insecure.” Because of that, I think I’m a bit thrown off when someone is actually kind to me.
I feel like I might be judging this new guy a bit too harshly. He asked me out to an outdoor exhibit, but then said his schedule was busy (which makes sense since it was last minute) and that he’d still love to meet soon. I suggested grabbing coffee instead, and he said we could do something sometime this week. He also mentioned we have all summer to check out the exhibit.
I just feel a bit triggered because my ex used to say he was busy all the time but never really made plans or put effort into seeing me.
I also notice myself picking at small things, like him being bald or the fact that he smokes occasionally. It feels like I might be searching for reasons to feel unsure, and I’m not sure if that’s just me being guarded or actual incompatibility.
Right now, I feel a bit overwhelmed by dating again and finding myself praying that he finds something wrong with me.
I think dating will forever be off the table for me because I find it to be activating my nervous system in a very very very bad way.
I was dumped a while ago and probably should have moved on by now.
Anyway, I downloaded a dating app about two days ago and matched with two guys. One doesn’t talk much, but the other seems like he’s matching my energy. Still, I feel kind of uneasy and I can’t tell if it’s just me.
I was in a long relationship where I got used to being treated pretty poorly. I often had to ask my ex for basic things like compliments, and when I did, he’d sometimes respond by saying I was “insecure.” Because of that, I think I’m a bit thrown off when someone is actually kind to me.
I feel like I might be judging this new guy a bit too harshly. He asked me out to an outdoor exhibit, but then said his schedule was busy (which makes sense since it was last minute) and that he’d still love to meet soon. I suggested grabbing coffee instead, and he said we could do something sometime this week. He also mentioned we have all summer to check out the exhibit.
I just feel a bit triggered because my ex used to say he was busy all the time but never really made plans or put effort into seeing me.
I also notice myself picking at small things, like him being bald or the fact that he smokes occasionally. It feels like I might be searching for reasons to feel unsure, and I’m not sure if that’s just me being guarded or actual incompatibility.
Right now, I feel a bit overwhelmed by dating again and finding myself praying that he finds something wrong with me.
I think dating will forever be off the table for me because I find it to be activating my nervous system in a very very very bad way.
I was dumped a while ago and probably should have moved on by now.
Anyway, I downloaded a dating app about two days ago and matched with two guys. One doesn’t talk much, but the other seems like he’s matching my energy. Still, I feel kind of uneasy and I can’t tell if it’s just me.
I was in a long relationship where I got used to being treated pretty poorly. I often had to ask my ex for basic things like compliments, and when I did, he’d sometimes respond by saying I was “insecure.” Because of that, I think I’m a bit thrown off when someone is actually kind to me.
I feel like I might be judging this new guy a bit too harshly. He asked me out to an outdoor exhibit, but then said his schedule was busy (which makes sense since it was last minute) and that he’d still love to meet soon. I suggested grabbing coffee instead, and he said we could do something sometime this week. He also mentioned we have all summer to check out the exhibit.
I just feel a bit triggered because my ex used to say he was busy all the time but never really made plans or put effort into seeing me.
I also notice myself picking at small things, like him being bald or the fact that he smokes occasionally. It feels like I might be searching for reasons to feel unsure, and I’m not sure if that’s just me being guarded or actual incompatibility.
Right now, I feel a bit overwhelmed by dating again and finding myself praying that he finds something wrong with me.
I think dating will forever be off the table for me because I find it to be activating my nervous system in a very very very bad way.
Loving and missing someone that so easily moved on is the most heartbreaking experience ever. I’ve tried fixing things, but he was admitted about moving on and using hinge. I tried talking to him, but he wanted to talk to someone else that’s on hinge. I’m just stupid. I hate that I’ll always probably feel like this.
He has energy and time for everyone, but me. In his eyes, I’m the reason why things went to shit in his life.
I have moments where I’m like: “should I make a hinge to just like is hinge profile?”
Reading his fucking dating profile. “I’ll fall for you if” —> “remove the if”. Literally, I just want to scream and die in a ditch!
Seriously, I’m never going to date again. Western dating is fucked. People are just fucked. Everyone’s so disposable. Why can’t commit to someone that cares when you can flip through a fucking catalogue and find “better” and “more exciting”?
It doesn’t matter how nice, attractive, rich, tall, or educated you are….because it’s literally just your turn. There’s no forever.
Reading his fucking dating profile. “I’ll fall for you if” —> “remove the if”. Literally, I just want to scream and die in a ditch!
Seriously, I’m never going to date again. Western dating is fucked. People are just fucked. Everyone’s so disposable. Why can’t commit to someone that cares when you can flip through a fucking catalogue and find “better” and “more exciting”?
It doesn’t matter how nice, attractive, rich, tall, or educated you are….because it’s literally just your turn. There’s no forever.
I’m so stupid. I begged and begged and begged and begged and begged for a second chance, meanwhile he was swiping on hinge. I kept telling him that I only ever wanted to spend time with him, and I didn’t care about the worldly stuff. I kept going on and on and on and on about how he was my biggest blessing in life and I’d do anything to fix it.
Anyways, we don’t talk anymore. It hurts to know I’m going to be replaced and he’s going to go on dates. I wanted to go on those dates.
For those that continuously begged for a second chance for months (I’m talking four months maybe more), what are some things you did that helped you move forward and feel better?
I know no-contact is step number one. I’ve come to terms that I probably can’t talk to him ever again.
I’m just super sad. I’ve been trying to get past the feelings of sadness for a while now, but sadness may be here to stay.
He has been on dating apps since the day he dumped me. It hurts to know that I was so easily disposable and replaceable. I know seeing other people is a part of the process of moving on, but I feel like something was/is so deeply wrong with me. He’s going to give the next girl what I wanted from him: time, energy, and dates. He outwardly admitted that he spent more time with exes than me; and I was his longest relationship (4 years).
He told me I was selfish and horrible for wanting to try again, and it would never happen again.
I just hope that in the future I don’t think about him dating others, getting married, and having a kid.
I just want to be the happy-ish person I was before I met him!