Sister Upset I'm getting married before her?? (Maybe??)
My sister (31yrs) and myself (25yrs) have always been close. We love each other dearly. But as I've continued with my life, earning my bachelor's and then masters, she dropped out of school (still doing well for herself) and has had a few boyfriends and a pet cat, but isn't dating seriously atm. However I have been dating my soon fiance for nearly 3 years and we plan to get engaged by the end of this year, hopefully married in 1-2 years.
I thought everything was fine until my step-aunt mentioned my sister said, "I'm too good to hang out with her now," after we had been trying to get together for some time but the timing was just bad, and we like different activities (She's more into night life than me, so I guess me saying no offended her??). I called her and said we can have a nice girls night in, watch a movie make some dinner, have some wine. And that would be fun, but she brushed me off.
After my recent graduation I was talking to her about my boyfriend and our plans to get engaged and move in together. And she said I was moving too fast, that she's 30 and she's not even married yet and I should take my time. That I'm too young to know what I want. I didn't want to argue and just said "okay" to ease the tension.
(When we get engaged and move in together we are also planning to move states for his job.. so I can understand the sense of caution.)
Is she right? Or is this just projection and jealousy. I don't want to think that about her, because I do value her opinion and advice.