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My sister 30 F is wonderful but has had some long relationships that didn't go well.. and got out of the dating scene. Now she's back in with this nice guy. He's very respectful, and they have so much fun together.

Introducing him to our Mom is easy (they're separated). She is sunshine itself. To our Dad... not so easy lol. Her idea is to cook dinner for the family (I'll help) and we can all have a meal together.

It doesn't help she's also a little type B, and hasn't even come up with a menu. The guy is coming to the house tomorrow! I still live at home, so I offered to do the shopping for her but she has no idea what to make.

My idea was salmon, Dad loves fish. But WHAT about the sides?? Thanks in advance. And a healthy desert because he's trying to loose weight. Maybe something with peaches

My idea was salmon, Dad loves fish. But WHAT about the sides?? Thanks in advance. And a healthy desert- maybe something with peaches.

Hello,

I'm writing for advice on how to best assist my friend. He took his exam for the 2nd time today, after failing last month. And unfortunately got the news back that he failed again.

We studied together, and I passed (barely 456) on my first attempt. After not passing he really put everything he could into this attempt.

For those who have had multiple attempts what do you think would best help him in this situation? I am already working at a peds place and.. I just don't want to run salt in the wound. But I also want to support him. (We used to date in highschool, that's not really relevant but just to give an idea of our relationship). We're good friends now.

Context, I F/26 just graduated and got my first job at a hospital looking to start next month. It's a well paying job, and I've been in school for over 7 years to obtain it. I now have some student loans to pay off as well. For my "graduation" gift and I suppose the congrats on getting the job my Mom wants to take me on the yearly vacation she goes on with her friend and his wife. The thing is, she used to do this every year with my Dad.

My mom is freshly divorcing from my Dad, and they've been no contact for alittle over a year. My 2 brothers and I love both of our parents very much. Dad is disciplined, off putting a times but loving. He saves money and put all of us through college, and let's us live at home rent free while we are in school. Mom instilled in us the confidence and adventurous spirt to achieve our dreams. However Mom likes to spend money... very often.

So reason 1 to not go: the awkwardness of taking my Dads spot on the trip with another married couple.

Reason 2: The trip is next month, and I'm starting my job next month as well. She keeps asking if I talked to HR about taking time off during my 3rd week of work. She wants me to take off Friday, Monday and Tuesday. For someone who just got hired that's too many days in my opinion.

Reason 3: She wants to preach to me about saving money and paying off loans yet she's really pushing for me to go on this trip as well. She said all I'll have to pay is $400 but that will definitely not be the case. There's bound to be other expenses like food, ubering that I'm sure my Dad used to silently pay for that she doesn't account for.

Reason 4: This year I have other obligations, my boyfriend of 3 years and I want to move in together in another city, I also have 2 weddings to go to later this year where I will need to book airfare and hotels.

Yesterday I explained all this to her, we had dinner at her apartment and watched a movie. I told her my reasoning and that "theres really no such thing as the perfect time.. but for a vacation this is not the BEST time for me." She said okay... but then today she called asking if i thought about it some more. I told her, we spoke about this last night, vacationing is not a big priority right now. And if she wants to celebrate me we can do something small and local. She accused me today of "Only wanting to work and move with my bf". What she said without saying was she was feeling neglected and left out. Like she isn't one of my priorities. Like I don't care about her.

I don't want to damage our relationship but I also think this is a new chapter for us where I'm more of an adult, and she needs to accept my reasons and know that my no means no. If I don't start now it will just be harder later.

This reddit thread has been my support system and my nightmare fuel at the same time as I was studying for the NBCOT. It held great study tips but also told stories of people having to take the exam 2, 3, and 4 times. And while there's nothing wrong with multiple attempts of course as students that's not the road we want to go down. So- there is hope at the end and yes many people do and CAN pass on the 1st attempt!!

Firstly I have to thank God. Nothing but Him, knowing that He set me on this path for a reason held me together as I waited for my results.

Secondly, I'm not the best student. I failed a class in highschool, undergrad, AND in OT school. (History, Anatomy, and Anatomy). I had to do remediation for the course in OT school to continue the program. Obviously this was a low point for me, but Im saying this because if you PASSED all your classes in OT school you're already "better" than me lol. If I can do it- you can do it.

How I prepared for the exam: • 9 weeks, 4-5 hours a day, 5 days a week • Stick to a schedule • Take breaks (I took off most Saturday and Sundays from heavy studying) • Make a study plan

Materials: • OT Help Desk!! (Love Dr. C, he really cares and is personally invested in your studies)• OTMiri/OT Dude • True Learn (Only because my school purchased it for us) • OT Exam prepper podcast/pdfs • Therapy Ed (free 40 question peds exam) • NBCOT practice exam • NBCOT Flash cards

Tips:

Pick a main resources and use the others as a supplement. I used OT Help Desk 75% of the time and supplemented with the others. Having too many resources can really confuse you.

Before test day drive the route to your testing center to ease stress the day of so you know where to go.

During the exam mentally know how much time you have on each question. I was 2 hours in and I wasn't even half way done because I didn't use my time wisely.

After the exam you're going to feel horrible. Everyone does. I was convinced I failed. Eat some food, take a nap, and have a few days of fun activities planned as you wait. I went to the gym, did some plant shopping, played tennis, caught up on anime, ect ect.

Do not study the day before. You're not gonna yield alot from that, if you do just focus on general review and hyping yourself up. Go do something fun and sleep early.

Know that you GOT this. You haven't come this far for nothing. You have worked hard and you DO know this material. This is within your grasp. Keep your head high. Even if you take it multiple times- this test does not define you.

"So do not worry, because I am with you. Don't be afraid, because I am your God. I will make you strong and I will help you; I will support you with my right hand that saves you." Isaiah 4:10

Short version: A 14/M (yes typo in the title he is 14) family member is texting romantically with a 20/F. Should I tell his Mom?

So I, (25/F) have a younger step brother (M/14). We'll call him Brandon. We have a good relationship. He been in the family since he was about 9 years old. He's basically like a little brother to me even though I don't see him often. We get along gret and I take him out to eat and have fun when I'm in town.

He confided in me that last week he met a girl, and got her number! So exciting. While he was at the park with his biological brother playing sports. But he found out that she's actually 20 years old! And I was like "aw bummer so you deleted her number huh?" And he said no, we're just friends. Now- Brandon is a good kid. But he is a KID! He acts and looks like a 14 year old. He is tall for his age... but even if the girl looked young there's no way she thought he was atleast 18. If you understand what I mean.

They've been texting good morning and he's been asking her how work was ect ect. Not flirting but definitely close. I told him about internet safety and NEVER to send pics of any part of his body. And that he really shouldn't be talking to her.

I told him this can go 2 ways: He catches feelings eventually or they eventually slowly drift away from each other. He's going to be a freshman in highschool he has no bussiness texting a 20 year old UNLESS he lied about his age. So eventually after some thought I told him to just delete her number.

So it's been a few days and I asked him about it. He said he was still thinking. So now- knowing that its a dangerous world out there with child groomers and who knows what eles- should I let him mom know whats going on.

I don't have kids, but as a parent I would want to know. The problem is 1: I don't want to damage our relationship and make him feel like he can't tell me things.

2. My own implicit bias. If he were a girl talking to a 20 year old man I would tell his Mom right away. SA happens to men and boys too... even if it's not talked about. ​​

Do you ever have a dream that you have a connection with this dream person- and you realize they aren't real. But they don't know that. All the memories you have of them are fiction. You try to tell them... or don't once you realize. The life and adventure that the dream brought is fleeting. And they'll be gone soon.

I don't have those dreams often but once in a while. Do you?

Hello all! I'm taking my exam next week and have been reviewing material for 8 weeks now, 35-40 hours a week. I feel okay (i don't think anyone is truly ready for the NBCOT anyway) but very nervous.

For this last week of prep I'm going to focus on answering questions instead of going over material.

So- I'm getting mixed information on what I need to know for stroke. Of course signs, symptoms, intervention, evaluation. And of course the type of stroke Ischemic vs. Hemorrhagic ect. But do I need to know what area of the brain the stroke was in?

Like Occlusion in the right hemisphere of the middle cerebral artery​​ would result in the following impairments vs the left hemisphere?

Thanks sorry this is a long question. I feel pretty solid about everything eles.

So my bf and I just graduated college with our Masters. And looking at next steps. We have been dating a total 3 years, 1 of which was long distance because I moved back home from our college town to take care of my Dad who was not doing well health wise.

We have a wonderful relationship and talked about getting engaged sometime after graduation (but he still wants to surprise me lol). We have had all the big conversations: kids, religion, money, relationship trauma, politics, family, future plans ect ect.

Currently, we are in the works of applying to jobs, and he got a big offer in a new state that is far from home. I'm excited to go and try something new with him. I work in the medical field and am confident I can get a job pretty much anywhere. My family, (namely my Mom and older sister) have expressed their disagreement with our decision of moving in together. They said it's too soon for us, we're still too "young". That if we were married it would be different. Honestly I just don't think they want us to move in together in another state- not that they don't support our relationship and future engagement.

So are we too young? I feel like 3 years is enough time before moving in. Let me know what you think.

My sister (31yrs) and myself (25yrs) have always been close. We love each other dearly. But as I've continued with my life, earning my bachelor's and then masters, she dropped out of school (still doing well for herself) and has had a few boyfriends and a pet cat, but isn't dating seriously atm. However I have been dating my soon fiance for nearly 3 years and we plan to get engaged by the end of this year, hopefully married in 1-2 years.

I thought everything was fine until my step-aunt mentioned my sister said, "I'm too good to hang out with her now," after we had been trying to get together for some time but the timing was just bad, and we like different activities (She's more into night life than me, so I guess me saying no offended her??). I called her and said we can have a nice girls night in, watch a movie make some dinner, have some wine. And that would be fun, but she brushed me off. ​

After my recent graduation I was talking to her about my boyfriend and our plans to get engaged and move in together. And she said I was moving too fast, that she's 30 and she's not even married yet and I should take my time. That I'm too young to know what I want. I didn't want to argue and just said "okay" to ease the tension.

(When we get engaged and move in together we are also planning to move states for his job.. so I can understand the sense of caution.)

Is she right? Or is this just projection and jealousy. I don't want to think that about her, because I do value her opinion and advice.

I've only experienced sleep paralysis once before a few years ago. I had slept with my mouth slightly open and I remember being unable to close it. Like my jaw was stuck in place. Nothing eles happened, I just went back to sleep. But this morning I couldn't move, I tried to fight it and it was just too much. I heard people talking that weren't there, and I had visions of not terrible things but bad things happened that I knew logically couldn't happen.

I was able to break out of it eventually, but is sleep paralysis always so negative?