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A lot of trans men are scared to fully identify as men because queer spaces constantly treat “man” as an ontologically evil category.

If men are inherently oppressive, violent, unsafe, etc. simply by virtue of being men, then becoming a man gets framed as some kind of moral corruption. You’re not just transitioning you’re supposedly joining the Evil Gender. It makes them terrified to lose their community so they settle just in the periphery of maleness to survive.

Note: I'm not saying that nonbinary people don't exist. I fully believe in and support nonbinary, gender, gender queer people.

This exact same essentialism gets turned on trans women from the other direction. We get told that because we were assigned male at birth, we can never intrinsically understand womanhood, because maleness is treated like an original sin permanently written into us.

It’s the same logic either way....your assigned sex at birth determines some immutable moral or psychological essence that you can never escape.

Gender essentialism is stupid. Nobody is born evil, nobody is born pure, and nobody has some innate moral character because of their ASAB. It's also a cop out that let's men off from being better.

Sure they mog me, but they include me in everything, make me feel good, give me fashion advice, do my makeup, berate me when I boymode and make me girlmode. They send me clothes that think would look good on me and are just generally right. They also drag me out of the house. In return I fix all of their tech, talk to them about their problems dating women and cook for them.

I started tearing up as I wrote this lol. They've never slipped up once and correct me when I degender myself or call myself the wrong name.

MAKE FRIENDS IT HELPS. I love women. (They like the term theyfab lmao)

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Looking for a price check on these before I list them for sale.

Items:

8× Seagate Exos X18 18TB Enterprise HDDs

Model: ST18000NM000J

SATA 6Gb/s

20-24k hours each

Only have two pictures because I was too lazy to unbox the others.

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I might be losing it, and I'll keep my thoughts on trans people participating in the US military to myself, but this is the only thing that makes sense to me.

I want to move to a bigger city.

I currently live in Portland and its chill.

Being trans in the 90s was so wild.

Even the people on here that I hate. I still love you.

Saw this in a YouTube video and yeah.... that tracks

TSA agent (customs person?) was being so mean to me because he couldn't compute why my passport picture and name didn't match with how I look now. Literally questioned me for 6 minutes and I was about to break down.

Queer guy comes in and takes over, apologizes and sorts it out. Says "I got you sis and have a nice day doll"

I could cry I never want to travel again.

My parents tried to stop me from being "gay" because, as a kid, I did ballet, cheer, and liked wearing feminine clothes. They would lock me in a room with nothing but a Bible, leave me at church three times a week, and make me go door to door evangelizing.

I spent years repressing how I felt, largely because I didn't know being trans was even a possibility. The only framework I had was being gay, but that didn't fit because I was only attracted to women, and I also played sports (obviously you can't be gay and play varsity lol)

Later, I asked my parents if they remembered all the times, when I was 6, 7, 8, and 9 years old, that I said I wanted to be a girl and a mom, or the times they caught me wearing my sister's clothes and my mom's shoes. They told me I had just been confused.