u/Adventurous_Fox_19

This might be super specific lol, but I’m obsessed with the smell of Aveda Pure Abundance shampoo and I would LOVE to find a candle that smells similar 😭

Notes I found for Pure Abundance: jasmine, peppermint, palmarosa, ylang-ylang and other botanical/plant essences.

The scent is fresh, clean, herbal/spa-like and slightly woody to me. Does anyone know a candle with a similar scent? Any brand is fine!

Thank you!! 🕯️🤍

I caught my boyfriend cheating with multiple women. One of them was engaged.

A few months ago, I took photos of their conversations and sent them to her fiancé. Instead of believing me, he made a post saying the claims were a scam and that someone was just trying to get money from them. Then she posted on Facebook acting like she was the victim, saying that the people trying to humiliate her were just "ugly women." That made me so angry.

I tried my best to tell the truth. I didn't even send the photo of them kissing because I felt the screenshots of their conversations were enough.

Last week, I saw that they got married.

I don't know why I'm still so angry. Part of me wants to expose everything on Facebook, tag their families and friends, and let everyone know the truth. Another part of me knows I'm better than that and that I should just let it go and focus on myself. As the saying goes, "The fruit of a rotten tree is rotten."

I know "just move on" is the easy answer, but honestly, what would you have done if you were in my shoes?

I'm just venting.

Just wanna vent

This is fucking bullshit. Almost a year to get an EAD? While other applications get it within like 3 months?

I have no income and had to go back to my abusive husband, the same man who strangled me and slapped me so hard my nose bled. I'm trying to get away from him, but I can't because I CAN'T WORK. No work means no income, so I have to depend on him financially.

People always say, "Just leave." But how? The system tells abuse survivors to leave while taking away one of the most important things we need to actually do it—the ability to work and support ourselves.

This system is bullshit. The wait is psychologically torturing us. I'm not kidding. Every single day I'm waiting and waiting, while tolerating abuse just because I'm waiting for A CHANCE. Just an EAD, so I can work and finally leave.

And what's even more frustrating is that leaving an abusive partner is one of the most dangerous times. Women in America are literally murdered by abusive partners every year. Yet survivors are expected to wait close to a year just to get permission to work. How does forcing us to stay financially dependent on our abusers make anyone safer?

I moved in with a relative to get away, found out he was a pervert, and had to move back to my husband. I hate this.

And I also want to say fuck you to the people who take advantage of VAWA by filing fraudulent cases just to get immigration benefits. You're hurting real survivors and making it harder for people to trust us. If USCIS has to spend more time investigating fraud, it's people like us who end up paying the price.

I don't want special treatment. I just want the chance to work, support myself, and get out alive.

Just needed to get this off my chest.

Anyone with a similar timeline have any updates?

Filed: Dec 2025
Receipts: Jan 2026
Biometrics: Feb 2026

No PF and no EAD updates yet.

If your timeline is close to mine, have you received your EAD or any notices? Just trying to get an idea of where USCIS is at and looking for a little hope during this wait. ❤️