To all and to my fellow victims of ghosting...
Problem/Goal:
- Is it common to still think of the person who ghosted you?
- Even if you are in a new connection now?
- Is it normal because you were never given a clarity?
- Why do they get to live a normal life while I still grieve once in a while?
- I deleted the chat histories, their number, blocked them on social media, gave myself the closure because I can feel the distance, silence and coldness all of a sudden.
It has been more than a year ever since the unexpected change. Although I know it was partially my fault for projecting hard the vision and hope of what they could've been versus who they were from the start.
Yes, it is unfair. They never met the efforts and consistency I gave and I romanticized their bread-crumbing. I questioned my worth with this person. I mean, that's it? I became a doormat and lost myself in a sense just to be thrown away like a piece of garbage? I'm that easily disposable and to be discarded?
Maybe I am just having a moment where I am touching the wound and it stung a little bit more today. It has been almost 2 years since the ghosting. My post is messy and my thoughts are everywhere. I don't think I need to go on full detail for my title says it all.
Anyhow, thank you for taking your time to read this.