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なんかさ、そういうの多いの？

けっこういい歳でさ、年下の女に精神的お母さんになってほしい男。

1度は恋だと思ったけど、あ、これ都合いいとこだけ吸われてるわって冷めた。

一線は越えてこないし自分の満足してない現状を変えるつもりもないのあいつ。

詳しくは言えないけど。ブロックしたんだけどさ。

そういうことされた人いますか？

Hello, I am posting from the Japanese countryside using a translator.

​I have trauma from having my mental and physical boundaries violated in the past. I thought I had overcome it on my own, but because it is difficult to change my living environment and completely avoid the perpetrator, I still experience severe relapses. There are times when I am calm, but other times I get confused and overwhelmed by the emotional whiplash.

​I am seeing a psychiatrist, but I am not receiving proper care. My doctor is a creep who makes unprofessional comments about my appearance, and the second opinion wasn’t any better. In short, I have zero expectations for professionals here.

​I am determined to get through this on my own. Please respect this and do not tell me to "find a better doctor" or "rely on someone else." I need to manage this myself.

​My question is: When a flashback hits and you have absolutely no one to rely on, what practical steps can I take to ground myself and handle it alone?

​Thank you.

Lately, I’ve been going through a lot in my personal life, and I managed to resolve every single issue entirely on my own.

​After everything settled, just as the title says, I started feeling as though I’ve climbed to the top of a high mountain all by myself, and now I’m stuck here.

​My family and friends are kind to me.

​Yet, on this mountain of mine, there is nobody but me.

​The air up here is so thin.

​Has anyone else ever felt this way?

​Hello everyone!

I'm writing this from a corner of Japan, using a translation tool.

​Looking back at my life, I feel like I've crossed paths with many people who run on what I call a "Narcissistic OS" (Operating System).

​"Narcissistic OS" is a term I coined to describe the foundational mindset of people who bring nothing but trouble whenever you get involved with them. For example, this includes people who try to control others, those who play the tragic victim and blame everyone else for their problems, or women experiencing Clérambault's syndrome (erotomania). Even though their behaviors look different on the surface, I believe their core "OS" is exactly the same.

​One thing I've noticed is that people with this "Narcissistic OS" often seem to firmly believe that they are the most loving, compassionate, and warm-hearted people in the world.

​On the other hand, I am a self-interested person.

I respect others because I want to be respected myself. If I see someone being treated unfairly, I feel compelled to step in and stop it. I do this partly to help the victim, but also to protect my own worldview. To me, this is a form of rational self-interest.

​However, those with the "Narcissistic OS"—who always act under the grand banner of "doing it for someone else"—seem to convince themselves that they are self-sacrificing and altruistic, all while dragging others into their drama, causing trouble, and feeling satisfied with themselves.

​I’m not the type to immerse myself in philosophy books or self-help literature, so I apologize if any of this sounds strange or off-base.

​

Feel free to drop a casual comment!

Hi everyone! I’m posting this from the Japanese countryside using a translator.

​One of my favorite quotes is by the Japanese author Osamu Dazai:

​「教養の無いところに幸福無し、教養とは、まず、ハニカミを知る事也。」

"There is no happiness where there is no refinement. And refinement is, first and foremost, knowing what it is to be bashful."

— Osamu Dazai

​To share my view on Dazai, he was highly introspective, narcissistic, both selfish and altruistic—a wonderfully human writer. His most famous masterpiece is No Longer Human.

​For those familiar with Japanese literature, you might know Yukio Mishima. Dazai and Mishima are often compared as having antithetical temperaments. In fact, it is a famous anecdote in Japan that Mishima openly stated, "I hate Dazai," targeting him directly (haha).

​If you'd like, please share your favorite quotes from authors of your own country! I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Hi everyone. English is not my first language, so I am using a translator to write this. I would really appreciate any advice or insight.

​I am a woman, and I am not a Catholic follower. I cannot specify the exact nature of my relationship with this priest, but recently, something very confusing happened.

​Out of nowhere, he touched my hair—almost like flicking it—with a highly elevated, excited smile, looking as if he was experiencing a dopamine rush. I was so shocked that I couldn't tell anyone at the time.

​Right after that incident, he completely disappeared from my sight for about a month. It felt like he was specifically avoiding only me, not others. Now, even though we have started seeing each other again, his attitude toward me is very strange and awkward.

​Furthermore, when I recently reached out to him to ask if he could listen to me regarding a personal trauma I’ve been dealing with, he completely ignored my request.

​I feel like I am being jerked around by his behavior. I cannot find peace of mind, and sometimes I just break down in tears, not knowing what to do.

​Since I am not familiar with Catholicism, I wanted to ask: Is this kind of behavior normal for a priest? Can anyone help me understand or guess what he might be thinking?

​Thank you for reading.