u/AggressiveCraft6010

I’m 29, female, 5ft 1 and went from 270 to 195 from November 2025 naturally. I expected people to be nicer to me when I lost weight. I’ve always thought I was relatively quite attractive as a bigger girl cos I have a nice face. Since losing weight so quickly it’s messing with my head. Everyone is nicer to you and respects you. People are happy to speak to you. Men will just start chatting to you or they will look at you like an object

I look at myself and I still see me at 270lbs. My body image is awful, I compare myself to everyone around me and I assume I’m the biggest in the room when I’m not. I’m constantly body checking. I don’t recognise myself in pictures. I’m constantly thinking about my weight, the trauma of being so morbidly obese from a binge eating disorder I feel like I had no control over. I’m constantly thinking about my loose skin and the surgery I’m gonna get.

I’m losing weight healthily with gym and diet, albeit quickly. I’ve always had a binge eating disorder, but I feel like more recently I almost feel like this is developing into something more obsessive or restrictive? People notice that I’ve been more grumpy recently. Anyone else experienced similar?

I’m 29, female. My best friend of almost 10 years developed psychosis 2 years ago. What came after that was me having to care for him, multiple friendship breakdowns due to it, binge eating to manage my trauma and I’m covering the trauma in emdr. He was extremely scary and he could be violent.

2 years on he’s stable, on the right medication. Main issue is the self neglect. He gets his clothes washed for him either by his mum or the hospital when he was last hospitalised. He goes easily 6 months wearing the same unwashed clothes. He’s under adult social care for his self neglect in his flat. The smell is very strong. I’m pretty put together and when I’m out with him, it looks like I’m dating a homeless man. And although peoples opinions shouldn’t matter, the stared affect me. I’ve spoken to him about this a number of times. I have told him he cannot come into my new car as the smell is distracting on the road, however I’ve driven him a couple times for more emergency related issues. I have had to not invite him on holidays because the smell is so significant. He himself washes, but he does not wash his clothes. I am constantly encouraging him or giving him new clothes to wear.

In the last year I’ve grown apart from him. I’ve worked really hard to find new friends and I’m very active now. I’ve been really avoiding him because I can’t cope with the smell. I can’t invite him to things with my new friends because of the smell. The smell affects my interactions with him because when I’m around him, it’s hard to think of anything else. I feel guilty about it, he is very grateful about me having to care for him but regardless, I just can’t cope with it. Any advice?

I had one season of emdr 6 days ago. We only did a very small session as I was not ready to open the sexual abuse box until after my holiday. I felt good about the session and I felt light and happy. when I left the place. I restart in a month. I’ve felt fine until today. I’m super brain fogged, I feel so tired even though I slept well for me. I feel weird. I am more unhappy about my body. Super dissociated. I don’t feel normal. Is this post emdr symptoms. I’m at work and I’m really struggling. I’m wondering if this is because my period may start soon but I just feel like it’s different. I feel on the verge of crying when I literally never cry