u/Agile-Broccoli1552

I met my ex through an old friend— they happened to be childhood buddies. It wasn't much of a romantic thing connection looking back. The first week we met we went out to city and did heaps of stuff. He was sober at the time.

To cut a long story short to the point I might miss important details but it ended very badly. It was malevolent and cruel what he did and it sidewinded me.

However he has never owned up to anything.

And he never will.

And that the initial betrayal never stopped it just bled into every other facet of my life. Now I cant teust anybody in my family.

I have a child to him.

Thr advice I really need to know is how to cut him out of my life or when is a good time to get the authorities involved? His family are incredibly coercive and enabling of him. I just cant even put it in to words because if I get too specific it might be obvious who I am

I genuinely worry about the safety of my child

He isnt.violwnt but his parents make vague threats and even implying my untimely death on one instance

He isn't a good person...if he was he would have showed remorse like real genuine remorse and not just feeling sorry for himself he got caught. If he ever runs into trouble he goes to his mum to fight his arguments.

Ive never met someone so hell bent on believing their own lies and idk I think he might have a lot to hide

But the trauma jsut keeps coming back and idk how to move on because its just easier to pretend he was everything I thought he was when I first met him and let the delusion shield me from the knowledge I've been treated as a pawn...sometimes I wonder if their involv3d in human trafficking too

I just dont feel safe arpund nobody anymore and my relationship to him has really.impacted me as I was already carrying so much with me when I met him

Everyone has a motive it seems and all i wanted qas to be loved and it its turned into this heartbreak thats just hard for my brain to go the day without it getting locked in on a thought or a fear

I want to hear about the ones with good relationships with their mothers and why and what they did that made that possible. :) so much emphasis on the negative traits of Pluto. I would love to hear the feedback from you and your childhood's

😂 for real though. I hear about these cults and its like how do people get sucked in? Even the most clear of mind and lucid people seem to fall prey to this stuff. Yet I havent seen anyone ascend like Jesus into the heavens for their drinking blood and having a sex kink. LOOOOOL

I am a woman 33 who is a single mum of.one boy. My parents had me young. My mum was teen and my dad was teen. My formative years are incredibly skewed and non linear. Only flashes and i have no idea what is the normal amount of memory to retain from childhood.

During my teen years I fought with my dad a lot. After his mum died he went downhill. Bsck into drinking slept woth my sisters high school friend, mum was looking to have an affair online and I was just witnessing this trying to live my life mostly in my own head. There was a huge falling out in the family and inmost my biggest supports which were my aunties. My mum was always cold and distant. Neither here nor there. No hugging. No nothing. No questions. No moulding my thoughts. Just following her around like a lost puppy or arm piece. Idk I felt sorry for her thinking she was a martyr. They are still together.

Since having my son though after having incredibly difficult 5 years dealing with mental health and relationship issues. Idk I am literally just having a massive awakening to just how toxic and mean spirited individuals they really are. I tell myself maybe its how i have treated them but even when I try to repair things its almost back to treating me like less than an actual person. I seem to only exist in their peripheral like OH shit. Shes still here. 😅"

My mum mutters sarcastic comments under her breathe. My physically abusive dad still tries to fuck with my head. But since working so hard on my mental health ots just so bloody obvious how much they actively work against me and have created a perfectly toxic family system that I have absolutely no trust in leaving them alone with my kid because my stomach turns. Its like Caroline when she enters the other world and her parents arent really her parents. I feel like I can damn near read right through people now and its all hitting me at once.

I cant understand but it seems that people are largely psychologically disturbed and projecting 99% of the time. If I was anymore paranoid I'd call it demonic but seeming how prevalent it is its just almost human nature for cruel streaks to exist and persist within five minds or family systems. Idk of this makes sense. If anybody else has similar revelations or anyone with more experience in i guess shadow work can help me understand ehat to do with all these new dark insights into people and how to keep my boundaries with them and hold my own space and candle in the darkness as it feels overwhelmingly dark

I don't want to feel like this and when I push it aside I still see how poorly they treat me and then Im back to square one. My little brother was the one that was bullied in our younger years, and now its me - when I was lil inwas really scared I wouldn't survive life because of how sensitive I am and seemingly not belonging to my family or friendship circles and it worries me that it still may have mot changed much

How do ai healthily break apsrt and grow from this dynamic as well and i would love to hear from people who have been there and done the work.

I want to meet new people. I'm a single mum and the relationship with my child's father is civil however it was quite traumatic and never really resembled a real relationship looking back. Its a really long story to break down to people and I get lost in th3 details...

I met him through his friend one night and never stopped hanging out since. He was sober when I met him but a childhood addict. He then come across a lot of money and all we did was kick bsck and eat good

It became quite difficult to break apart from him even when he became verbally abusive I would call my mum crying saying I wanted to leave but couldn't

Anyway towards the end I had a meltdown his verbal abuse was becoming over the top and I smashed his window

The charges got dropped. He started using drugs. I had an OF girl move into my sharehome. I was lost and started drinking and using.

My ex and I still saw each other intermittently but it felt like he held all the power and control and wasnt for affectionate feelings for me

I fell pregnant and swtiched up on me again continued to ignore me so I smashed his window again and became incredibly toxic. Mind you I was being fed a lot of info from an OF girl... IDKk like it was all happening at once and so fast. All the drugs, psychosocial dramas and my relationship with him destroyed my self esteem

I left to rehab for 6 months for alcoholism. Decided to go through with pregnancy inder thw impression ill be doing it SOLO and in that time my ex completely fell into drugs. Spent all his money and lost his job. Crashed cars on a highway. Was completely an addict. I left rehab 8 months pregnant with a new lease on life. We reconnected after the intervention order was dropped but he was still unpredictable, incitingr3actions from me and antagonising me with everything he could for no reason. I tried ti continue to show him the time of day but it was tearing me right back down after doing the work for 6 month.

FF I've had bubba, he went to rehab. we are civil, he visits very occasionaly and im ready to move on. I want to move on but how do I explain all that crap to a new partner without giving them the ick amd/or retraumatizing myself and thats notnto include thebyear or two before i met him...

Im clear headed and emotionally stable i want peace now and I want to find real love somehow

I'm an 8th house Leo Moon conjunct Mercury

My son miraculously has a lot of similar aspects to my natal chart however the most point of contention is his Moon which is 8th house of Scorpio

Its square Pluto and Square Mars

I love him to absolute bits but I'm scared he will grow up with mummy issues or I wont be a good Mum to him as my own mother was quite jealous and passive aggressive to me and completely unemotional amd detached to the point of cruel and cold.

Help me understand how I can help him with these hard Moon aspects and empower my infant son? 😭

I'm an 8th house Leo Moon conjunct Mercury

My son miraculously has a lot of similar aspects to my natal chart however the most point of contention is his Moon which is 8th house of Scorpio

Its square Pluto and Square Mars

I love him to absolute bits but I'm scared he will grow up with mummy issues or I wont be a good Mum to him as my own mother was quite jealous and passive aggressive to me and completely unemotional amd detached to the point of cruel and cold.

Help me understand how I can help him with these hard Moon aspects and empower my infant son? 😭