u/Alarmed-Idea-6466

Hi i'm new in this community but i (21F) really need someone's help to figure out my friends
thoughts.

So I’ve realized that I have a pretty huge crush on my best friend (22F, bi) and I’d really love some outside perspectives because I genuinely can’t tell if this is just an intense friendship or something more.
For a little context, I’m isfj and she’s intp (I know MBTI doesn’t define people at all, but I’m including it just as a little extra context for people who don’t know us. And shes pretty much like 'love-it-or-hate-it' person.)

We've been best friends for about 3yrs at this point and i've started catching feelings for her about a year ago, and they’ve only gotten stronger. We’re both into women, although I only recently started realizing.
We sometimes spend a whole day tgt, and she was very physically affectionate with me. We held hands during a movie, she kept getting really close to me, leaned her head toward my shoulder, and at one point she got close enough that I could literally smell her hair 😭. She’s also told me that physical touch is one of her main love languages, followed by acts of service.
She sometimes say stuff like "i think i fit your type perfectly" " i was thinking about you a lot today" too...

BUT she has also said “we don’t need to fall in love hahaha” when we were doing 36 Questions to fall in love thing. She’s very direct, so I don’t think it was necessarily a nervous/“haha unless” kind of comment. She may genuinely see me as a friend.
So yeah, I’m terrified of interpreting intense friendship as romantic interest just because I have a crush on her.
I get so jealous when she talks to other pretty girls, which honestly made me realize how badly I want to be special to her. I’m at the point where I know i like her romantically, but I have absolutely no idea what to do with that information.
If you guys were me, what would you do? Would you subtly test the waters first or just be honest about your feelings? Or just hide your feelings and act like nothings going on?
I really don’t want to ruin the friendship, but I also don’t want to spend another year wondering. Thank yo so so much for reading i really need advice 😭😭

Hi i'm new in this community but i (21F) really need someone's help to figure out my friends
thoughts.

So I’ve realized that I have a pretty huge crush on my best friend (22F, bi) and I’d really love some outside perspectives because I genuinely can’t tell if this is just an intense friendship or something more.
For a little context, I’m isfj and she’s intp (I know MBTI doesn’t define people at all, but I’m including it just as a little extra context for people who don’t know us. And shes pretty much like 'love-it-or-hate-it' person.)

We've been best friends for about 3yrs at this point and i've started catching feelings for her about a year ago, and they’ve only gotten stronger. We’re both into women, although I only recently started realizing.
We sometimes spend a whole day tgt, and she was very physically affectionate with me. We held hands during a movie, she kept getting really close to me, leaned her head toward my shoulder, and at one point she got close enough that I could literally smell her hair 😭. She’s also told me that physical touch is one of her main love languages, followed by acts of service.
She sometimes say stuff like "i think i fit your type perfectly" " i was thinking about you a lot today" too...

BUT she has also said “we don’t need to fall in love hahaha” when we were doing 36 Questions to fall in love thing. She’s very direct, so I don’t think it was necessarily a nervous/“haha unless” kind of comment. She may genuinely see me as a friend.
So yeah, I’m terrified of interpreting intense friendship as romantic interest just because I have a crush on her.
I get so jealous when she talks to other pretty girls, which honestly made me realize how badly I want to be special to her. I’m at the point where I know i like her romantically, but I have absolutely no idea what to do with that information.
If you guys were me, what would you do? Would you subtly test the waters first or just be honest about your feelings? Or just hide your feelings and act like nothings going on?
I really don’t want to ruin the friendship, but I also don’t want to spend another year wondering. Thank yo so so much for reading i really need advice 😭😭

Hi i'm new in this community but i (21F) really need someone's help to figure out my friends
thoughts.

So I’ve realized that I have a pretty huge crush on my best friend (22F, bi) and I’d really love some outside perspectives because I genuinely can’t tell if this is just an intense friendship or something more.
For a little context, I’m isfj and she’s intp (I know MBTI doesn’t define people at all, but I’m including it just as a little extra context for people who don’t know us. And shes pretty much like 'love-it-or-hate-it' person.)

We've been best friends for about 3yrs at this point and i've started catching feelings for her about a year ago, and they’ve only gotten stronger. We’re both into women, although I only recently started realizing.
We sometimes spend a whole day tgt, and she was very physically affectionate with me. We held hands during a movie, she kept getting really close to me, leaned her head toward my shoulder, and at one point she got close enough that I could literally smell her hair 😭. She’s also told me that physical touch is one of her main love languages, followed by acts of service.
She sometimes say stuff like "i think i fit your type perfectly" " i was thinking about you a lot today" too...

BUT she has also said “we don’t need to fall in love hahaha” when we were doing 36 Questions to fall in love thing. She’s very direct, so I don’t think it was necessarily a nervous/“haha unless” kind of comment. She may genuinely see me as a friend.
So yeah, I’m terrified of interpreting intense friendship as romantic interest just because I have a crush on her.
I get so jealous when she talks to other pretty girls, which honestly made me realize how badly I want to be special to her. I’m at the point where I know i like her romantically, but I have absolutely no idea what to do with that information.
If you guys were me, what would you do? Would you subtly test the waters first or just be honest about your feelings? Or just hide your feelings and act like nothings going on?
I really don’t want to ruin the friendship, but I also don’t want to spend another year wondering. Thank yo so so much for reading i really need advice 😭😭